Las 4 ideas erróneas más comunes sobre los hombres

Al intentar descifrar el cerebro masculino, a menudo hacemos ciertas generalizaciones sobre ellos, que decidimos que son ciertas, sea así o no.

By doing that, we are actually making it easier for ourself after realizing that we simply weren’t enough for a certain guy to decide to change.

We usually make these assumptions and stick by them after having been through a relationship where a guy wasn’t willing to change his (questionable) ways to make us happy.

Not only is this wrong but it is insulting, both to us and even more to the men out there who actually give a damn and do not fall into your ‘jerk’ category by default.

Here’s what we often get wrong about men:

They can’t be romantic

Claro que nosotras, las mujeres, somos más propensas al aspecto romántico de las cosas, pero eso se debe sobre todo a las innumerables películas de chicas que vemos semanalmente (a veces incluso a diario), que nos dan expectativas increíblemente poco realistas de los hombres.

Movies aren’t real life, it’s ridiculous to even have to say that.

Just because a guy in a movie hires a plane that spells out I love you in the sky for his beloved leading lady, does not make your boyfriend’s bouquet any less delightful!

No es realista esperar que la otra persona tenga esos grandes gestos, sobre todo porque nadie puede permitirse esas cosas en la vida real.

Let’s give them a break and appreciate what they do for us. Surely they are more romantic than we give them credit for.

Let’s learn to appreciate the small gestures that show us they love us. Life isn’t a movie and we aren’t katherine heigl. Everyone’s idea of romance is different!

Para algunos, ir a una cena elegante seguida de un paseo romántico por la playa bajo la luz de la luna es la idea perfecta de una noche romántica, mientras que otros consideran que un abrazo, una buena charla y un hombro sobre el que llorar después de un largo día son el gesto romántico perfecto.

A cada cual lo suyo.

Se sienten intimidados por las mujeres de éxito

This one is a very common misinterpretation we’ve all heard on tv and in numerous movies.

Una y otra vez.

Sure, there are guys who might not be okay with us ladies being more successful than them, mostly because it hurts their ego if we are financially more independent, and therefore able to afford certain things that they can’t.

Pero, por suerte, también hay muchos tíos que son conscientes de que vivimos en el siglo XXI y de que las mujeres merecemos con creces la igualdad salarial, y no les intimida estar cerca de nosotras.

Just because you ran into a guy who had a problem with it, does not make it a rule. It’s more of an exception these days and rightfully so.

Si alguien es lo suficientemente inseguro sobre esto, Dios sabe cuántas inseguridades más tiene, que no tienen nada que ver contigo, y todo que ver con él.

Aim higher, there are plenty more fish in the sea. You’ll meet a guy who can handle you, just as amazing as you are, and will proudly parade you around every chance he gets. Not everyone is your ex.

They’re not emotional

Esto no es así. Cualquier chica que haya visto a su chico involucrarse emocionalmente en un partido de fútbol puede dar fe de ello.

Sure, it can be annoying that he can get so emotional about something as irrelevant as a football match but when it comes to us, we’re lucky if we hear him say I love you once in a blue moon.

But here’s the thing.

Guys aren’t like us. Just because he doesn’t profess his love vocally every chance he gets, does not mean he doesn’t love you.

It’s in the way he acts. Pay attention to his actions. If he makes you tea when you’re feeling under the weather and sits with you under a blanket with his arm around you, you’ve got yourself a keeper.

What more can you ask for? He doesn’t feel the need to constantly tell you this because he shows it when it counts.

Les cuesta mantenerse fieles

It is another common misconception that men can’t control their primitive urges, which makes it hard for them to remain faithful.

De esta manera, hacemos otra falsa generalización sobre ellos que no tiene nada que ver con la realidad y todo que ver con nosotros tratando de encontrar una excusa para su engaño o hacer más fácil para nosotros aceptar que hemos sido engañados.

El hecho de que un tipo haya engañado no significa que eso se aplique a todos los hombres.

Let’s stop making assumptions about men when it suits us best and start realizing that, yeah, shit happens, but it doesn’t mean it will keep happening with everyone we encounter.

Cheating has nothing to do with gender and everything to do with being an insecure, selfish being who doesn’t appreciate what they have.

Dale a los hombres un poco de crédito, hay buenos tipos por ahí, sólo tienes que salir de tu zona de confort y buscarlos.

It’s not easy, sure, but don’t give up on all men just because of one bad experience.