Las 5 razones más comunes por las que los hombres se vuelven distantes de repente

Hace sólo un mes, erais la pareja más feliz del mundo y todas vuestras amigas estaban celosas del hombre tan estupendo que teníais.

Siempre se aseguraba de sorprenderte con pequeños gestos para demostrarte lo mucho que le importabas.

Or you’ve just been on a few dates and you two seem like the perfect match. He keeps calling you, keeps initiating conversations and you think everything is going to plan…

Y de repente, sientes que algo ha cambiado.

He’s no longer the same person you used to know. He becomes distante in every sense of its meaning and you start questioning yourself, thinking that you’re the reason for such behavior.

Temes que te ignore si intentas hablar con él. No sabes qué hacer ni a quién pedir consejo.

Éstas son algunas de las razones más comunes de su comportamiento distante que pueden ayudarte a averiguar qué pasa exactamente por su cabeza.

He is going through something stressful (but doesn’t want to talk to you about it)

En la mayoría de los casos, su distanciamiento está relacionado con una situación estresante en el trabajo, con la familia o similar. Los hombres piensan que no se les permite hablar de situaciones estresantes.

They think that they have to deal with it on their own because if they don’t, they’re not hombres de verdad .

Simplemente no pueden soportar el hecho de no tener el control de su vida.

Por eso optan por esconderse en su cueva de hombres hasta que encuentran una solución para ese problema concreto. Por mucho que intentes entrar, no te dejarán pasar.

Así que, si te dice que es por su trabajo o por otra cosa, lo único que puedes hacer es esperar a que encuentre una solución y hacerle saber que le comprendes.

Necesita tiempo para sí mismo

No matter how madly in love you guys are, we all need some time for ourself. If he’s acting like he no longer enjoys your company, you may suspect that it is because he needs some time and space in order to recharge himself.

This has nothing to do with his love for you. It is completely normal and you shouldn’t be concerned that he no longer enjoys your company.

Déjale tranquilo durante un tiempo y dile que no pasa nada si necesita tiempo para sí mismo.

¿Crees que puede estar celoso?

Is he constantly questioning you when you tell him that you’re going out?

Do you have the feeling that he’s acting strangely when you start talking to other guys or when you mention them? Is he trying too hard to impress you?

Si su respuesta es afirmativa, el motivo de que esté distante podrían ser los celos.

If you know that you didn’t do anything to make him feel this way, try simply asking him whether jealousy is the reason for him being distant.

If his answer is yes, ask him to explain it to you and reassure him that there’s no reason for him to feel that way.

Commitment, commitment…

¿Te está enviando señales contradictorias?

Have you just started dating and you have the feeling that one day he is being awesome while the next day he’s the complete opposite?

Men tend to do this when they’re afraid of commitment. He likes you, he thinks you’re funny and special but he’s still afraid of commitment.

¿Por qué le haría algo así a alguien que le gusta?

Hay dos cosas en la vida a las que los hombres tienen miedo: la muerte y el compromiso. En su mente, el compromiso significa renunciar a su libertad.

In order for them to ‘give up their freedom’, they have to be one hundred percent sure that they’re going to be happy with their choice.

If a man is not sure that he’ll be happy with you, he will have second thoughts about entering into a relationship.

All you can do is make sure that you’re not pushing him and that you’ve left him enough space to make a wise decision on his own.

¿Quiere romper contigo?

Is he ignoring you lately, to the extent that you don’t remember the last time you had a productive conversation? Is he the one initiating all the fights?

¿Te está descuidando por completo a ti y a tus deseos? ¿Le miente?

¿Te está engañando?

The chances are that he wants to break up with you. Perhaps the passion you once had is gone and he doesn’t know how to revive it.

Perhaps he’s cheating on you and by ignoring you he’s subconsciously pushing you away from him because he knows that he’s the one to blame.

En este caso, lo más inteligente sería simplemente preguntarle: ¿Puedes decirme qué demonios te pasa?