¿Le atraigo o sólo es simpático? 12 maneras de saber si le interesas

¿Se siente atraído por mí o sólo está siendo amable?

I bet this is a question that popped into your mind at least once when you liked a guy but you hit a dead-end street because you didn’t know how to react or what to do.

Sometimes it’s just hard to decide whether a chico le gustas o si sólo está siendo amable contigo.

The signals he is sending are so confusing because they are easy to interpret wrongly. You just can’t seem to decide what he’s actually thinking.

Lucky for you there’s one way to always know what he’s thinking. Girls usually don’t know anything about this, but if you uncover Su obsesión secreta, he’ll be 100% yours.

To set you free of that eternal struggle of whether he likes you or not, I’m going to try to solve this once and for all.

En primer lugar, deje de hacerse la pregunta de si se siente atraído por ti o simplemente ser amable y leer las señales reales sin ser parcial o desear que las señales trabajen a tu favor.

But before we start with actual signs that he’s interested and not only being nice, read the heartbreaking signs that he really doesn’t want to have anything to do with you and he is just being polite, trying to let you know in a nice way that he’s not interested.

Pero no te preocupes, PUEDES conseguir al hombre que quieras con Su obsesión secreta – a guide that helps you win him over even if he wasn’t initially interested in you.

Señales de que no se siente atraído por ti

1. He doesn’t want to hang out with you

Ves que evita pasar tiempo contigo.

He probably doesn’t want to blow you off so obviously, so he is trying to let you know that he is not interested in a more subtle way.

Even when you are alone together, it doesn’t feel comfortable, as his body language is telling you that he doesn’t look at you in that way.

2. He is not so interested in what you’ve got to say

A guy who likes you won’t allow himself not to notice anything that you say.

Te escuchará y te prestará atención porque, si le gustas, haría cualquier cosa por recordar tus intereses y las historias que cuentas.

If he likes you, he will genuinely be interested in what you’ve got to say because you are the one who is interesting.

3. Menciona a otras mujeres delante de ti

A guy who likes you wouldn’t talk about other women or comment on them in your presence.

He is probably just trying to let you know that he is not attracted to you but is actually just being nice because he maybe likes you but only as a friend, or he is just an ass and doesn’t care about your feelings or isn’t even aware of the fact that you like him.

4. Te oculta a sus amigos

This is the number one sign that he doesn’t care for you in that way.

You’re just a casual, random person to him and since he doesn’t see you in his life for the long haul, he won’t go to the trouble of letting you meet his friends. This should be a red flag sign that he is not attracted to you in the way you want him to be. 

5. Su lenguaje corporal lo dice todo

Cuando le gustas a un chico, he doesn’t have to say it—his body speaks for him.

El lenguaje corporal puede delatar todos los secretos que guarda una persona, así que si realmente le gustas su cuerpo lo demostrará.

When you’re hanging out he’ll constantly seek an opportunity to get close to you or ‘accidentally’ touch you.

He’ll try to keep eye contact with you for as long as possible.

But if you don’t see any of these things, and if you see that he is pulling away from you instead of getting closer to you or avoiding eye contact, then you can be sure that nothing is going to happen between the two of you.

6. Te trata igual que a los demás

You’re not on a special pedestal because, sadly, you’re not special to him.

No está enamorado de ti y se comporta contigo como se comporta con todo el mundo.

Si realmente le gustaras, te trataría de otra manera, intentaría llamar tu atención por todos los medios posibles.

So, there you are, the sure-fire signs that he has no interest in you other than just a friendly one, which is not so bad I guess, but if you want something more and he is in it only for the friendship, you should either break contact with him if it’s too painful, or try to deal with the situation that there is not going to be any kind of romantic relationship between the two of you.

Now that we’re clear on how guys act when they are not attracted to anyone, let’s solve the often-asked question…

¿Se siente atraído por mí o sólo está siendo amable?

Ten en cuenta que no muchos chicos se armarán de valor para acercarse a ti y decirte directamente que les gustas y que quieren estar contigo. No todos son tan valientes. Pero lo más probable es que te den pistas con su comportamiento.

¿Por qué hacen eso los tíos?

Bueno, en primer lugar, todos sufrimos la miedo al rechazo. 

Is there anything worse than getting rejected, or hearing or realizing that someone doesn’t like you and doesn’t want to be with you?

Eso duele y todos queremos evitarlo, pero nos pasa a todos.

So, it’s no wonder that it’s so easy to mix up when he’s really attracted to you or is just being nice, or he’s scared of how much he likes you.

You have to keep track of all the subtle signs because as I’ve already said, they’re not going to say it right to your face. So, here we go…

Señales de que se siente atraído por ti y no sólo ser amable

1. Quiere saberlo todo sobre ti

Es un tipo que sueña contigo por las noches, es un tipo que venera el suelo que pisas.

Quiere conocer cada detalle de tu vida y cada interés que tengas.

Vale, esto puede sonar un poco espeluznante y acosador, pero lo digo en el sentido de que me encanta.

He’ll ask all kinds of questions, from those random ones to personal ones, not just to keep the conversation alive but because he genuinely wants to know all those things.

Créeme, si sólo estuviera siendo amable, nunca mostraría tanto interés por tu vida.

Te dedicaría tiempo de conversación sólo por cortesía y no porque te desee y la diferencia entre ambas cosas es enorme.

2. Sus pupilas se dilatan

You can’t beat science. It is proven that our brain works in a way that our pupils dilate when we see something we like.

Así que, la próxima vez que sorprendas a un chico que te gusta mirándote, presta atención a sus pupilas.

Si son más grandes de lo normal, entonces definitivamente le gustas y está siendo amable porque... le gustas.

3. Presta atención a su aspecto

Hará lo que sea para que te fijes en él.

Don’t be surprised if he develops a sense of fashion all of a sudden, or gets a new haircut or does something with his facial hair.

Si le gustas, hará todo lo posible para resultarte atractivo.

On the other hand, if a guy doesn’t have any romantic interest in you, he would never go to that kind of trouble to impress you. He will hang out with you in his old t-shirt or the clothes he wears around the house.

Si lo hace, puedes estar segura de que probablemente sólo está siendo amable contigo porque le gustas sólo como amiga.

4. Te mira fijamente

Maybe even longer than he should but look at it this way—he is in love, he can’t help it.

Hay un dato interesante sobre el contacto visual: dicen que cuando a un chico le gusta una chica, la mirará cada vez que pueda, y si ella le descubre mirándola fijamente, mantendrá sus ojos fijos en los de ella para hacerle saber que está interesado en ella.

Tampoco se excluyen una o dos sonrisas.

But there is another side to the coin and it’s an ugly one.

If he is not attracted to you, you’ll probably see it right away.

It can happen that he looks at you by accident, but if he does, his eye contact won’t last and he will look away almost immediately.

So, don’t confuse the two and you’ll know whether he is attracted to you or is just being nice.

5. Prestará atención a cada palabra que digas

He’ll listen and not just to be polite but because he really wants to.

He is really interested in the things you’re saying and he can’t get enough.

That’s why you can talk for hours without getting sick of each other. He will listen to even the most boring stories with the smallest details.

And the thing is, he’ll let you know he’s listening and he’ll ask you questions. You’ll see that he’s enjoying it.

Guys who are only being nice and polite will also listen to you, because they don’t want to be rude, but they won’t remember a thing you’ve said, simply because they don’t care enough about you to remember anything.

6. Te defenderá

Si ve u oye que alguien habla mal de ti, levantará la voz y te defenderá.

Te defenderá estés o no estés. Un hombre que se siente atraído por ti nunca dejará que nadie te haga daño de ninguna manera.

Even if it’s someone who is dear to him, he will take your side.

But when a man is only being nice to you without any attraction, he won’t meddle that much in things that don’t concern him.

Either he will keep quiet and walk away, or he’ll just say a word or two in your defense out of politeness, but without any real effect.

7. Se pondrá un poco celoso

It’s not that sick, possessive kind of jealousy, it’s that sweet ‘I like you’ kind of jealousy.

He is attracted to you and he doesn’t want to lose you to another man.

Especially if he hasn’t let you know he likes you and is waiting for the perfect moment to do something about it. You can be one hundred percent positive that he is attracted to you if he is jealous.

En cambio, un hombre que sólo te ve como una amiga no se pondrá celoso porque no tiene motivos para ello.

He won’t care if you’re talking to another man or even flirting because he is not interested in you in that way. He is only being nice to you and nothing more.

8. Quiere que formes parte de su vida

You will know a lot about him. He’ll tell you his secrets and he’ll confide in you because he trusts you completely.

You’ll be a part of his life and you’ll get to know his family and he’ll introduce you to his friends because his intention is to keep you in his life for a bit longer.

Toda su vida girará en torno a ti y not even a day will pass when you don’t talk o enviarse mensajes de texto. Quiere conservarte y comunicarse contigo todo el tiempo que pueda.

Alguien que sólo está siendo amable tendrá su propia vida aparte de ti.

He won’t introduce you to his family or call you to hang out with his friends.

Even when you talk or text, it won’t be personal and you won’t know that much about him and his life, except for the ordinary things that everyone knows.

9. Imaginará su futuro contigo

He will do anything in his power to ensure that you’re going to be together and hang out in the future.

Al principio serán planes a corto plazo, como cenas e ir al cine, pero más adelante serán viajes, conciertos, etc.

This is him giving you subtle signs that he’s attracted to you and wants to have a future with you.

If he’s not attracted to you, he won’t make any plans with you.

He can call you to go to the movies or elsewhere, but usually he calls an hour or two earlier. Maybe his plans fell through and he hasn’t got anyone to go with where he wanted to go, so he called you.

Pero los planes a largo plazo están descartados porque no le atraes de esa manera.

10. Actuará de forma diferente contigo

Maybe he’ll even be nervous because it’s a lot of pressure.

Le gustas y se esforzará mucho para impresionarte. La mejor manera de comprobarlo es ver cómo se comporta con las personas a las que quiere.

If you see he’s acting differently around you, a bit nervous or clumsy or trying too hard, then you can be positive that he has feelings for you.

A guy who is just being nice will treat you like he treats everyone else around him. He won’t be clumsy or nervous, he’ll just be himself, as he always is.

11. Hará cualquier cosa con tal de verte feliz

Your happiness means the world to him. That’s why men who are in love do things they wouldn’t normally do, just to see the person next to them smile. Nothing will be hard for him to do.

Incluso estará dispuesto a cambiar sus hábitos para hacerte feliz. Irá en contra de su voluntad si eso te hace sonreír.

Of course, he won’t be a complete sucker and let you manipulate him but as long as it’s reasonable, he will do it.

A guy who is not interested in you won’t give you such pleasure.

He won’t care about your wishes and the things that make you happy because for him your smile is no different from anybody else’s.

12. Te apoyará

Literalmente en todo lo que hagas. Será el tipo que te dirá que puedes hacer cualquier cosa que desees.

Él será la voz que te impedirá renunciar a tus sueños. Él será quien te apoye cuando dudes de ti mismo.

Aunque te derrumbes, él estará a tu lado para ayudarte a recoger los pedazos rotos de tu corazón y de tu espíritu. Él los volverá a unir y te hará más fuerte que nunca.

Hará todas estas cosas porque le importas y le gustas más que nada.

Someone who is not attracted to you wouldn’t go to all that trouble. He likes you but not enough and not in that way.

He will be there for you as a friend but when you come home at night you’re going to be alone.

Un hombre que se siente atraído por ti y no se limita a ser amable es un hombre que estará a tu lado y nunca te perderá de vista.