¿Me gusta? 24 preguntas para estar seguro

¿Me gusta? That’s the million dollar question ninety percent of women ask themselves after a date that they’re not sure went exactly according to plan or when they think about that weird borderline friends relationship they have going on.

Los sentimientos pueden ser TAN engañosos a veces. Los sentimientos pueden ser una mierda. Pero, ¿qué puedes hacer al respecto?

You are human, you feel. You deal with it and find a way to understand what’s going on in your love life.

So here’s the problem and I’m bringing you the best answer possible.

You can think you don’t have a crush on the guy you’re seeing, but then when he’s gone, you realize you’ve been denying your true feelings for him from the beginning.

We all go out with people, desperately trying to find our “one” and sometimes, due to our hidden desire to find that deep love that movies romanticize so much, we tend to settle for something that’s not easy to define.

But the real truth is, it’s just too risky to put your heart out there, leaving it so open and vulnerable, when you’re just not sure whether you like him or it’s just a fleeting crush for the sake of momentary pleasure.

You really want to like him and you want to be sure of your feelings if you’re going to act on them… But what if your mind is tricking you? What if your sentimientos reales are not what you’re feeling right now?

What if this guy is just some rebound dude you like at this very moment, because you’re still so fresh from a breakup that you just can’t think straight?

This is why it’s really important to ask yourself, “Do I like him?’’ por dos razones muy concretas

Firstly, you don’t want to end up embarking on another superficial, draining, insignificant romantic voyage that’s going to feel good for exactly three weeks before you start realizing you’re wasting your time on something so meaningless.

Y en segundo lugar, debes tener cuidado de no herir sus sentimientos. Los hombres también son personas. Por muy duro que parezca su exterior, les duele tanto como a nosotras, así que hay que estar segura de lo que se quiere antes de hacer promesas.

Si quieres tener una relación real y sana con este hombre, debes tener cuidado de empezarla con sentimientos sinceros y genuinos.

Como usted sabe, lealtad takes first place in every relationship and you can’t be loyal if you’re unsure of your feelings.

So, if you’re still interested in uncovering the hidden affections of your heart, keep reading, give honest answers to these questions, and find out for sure. Good luck!

¿Me gusta? 20 preguntas que puedes hacerte para estar segura

1. ¿Con qué frecuencia piensa en él?

Si la respuesta es de vez en cuando o a veces, es posible que se trate de un problema temporal. aplastar.

But if you can’t take your mind off of him and if thoughts about him give you a fuzzy feeling, the answer is clear – you like him.

Aunque esto suele ser cierto, hay una excepción en situaciones similares.

Tienes que contar con la primera fase después de conocer a alguien nuevo. Puede que lo tengas en mente bastante, pero eso suele durar unos 10 o 15 días.

I suggest you don’t make the first move until you’re absolutely positive you like him.

If nothing’s happened in that period and you stop thinking about him, it means that you were just infatuated by him and not in love. These periods last so much shorter than the real deal.

2. ¿Cuántas cosas te gustan de él puedes enumerar?

¿Qué te gusta de él? Enuméralo todo en un papel y observa el número de cosas enumeradas.

¿Hay más de 10, quizás 20 o 30 cosas que realmente te gusten de él?

Si es así, ¿por qué te preguntas si te gusta? Claro que te gusta.

3. ¿Cómo sería tu vida sin él?

Has your life gotten much happier since he’s been around? Are you happy he’s there?

Or would it be much better if he wasn’t around? Is this the first time you feel complete?

¿Es la primera vez que tienes la sensación de estar en una relación de verdad?

Si tus respuestas a estas preguntas son afirmativas, entonces no tienes nada de qué preocuparte. Adelante.

4. ¿Le resulta natural estar con él?

Simplemente hay personas en nuestra vida que están destinadas a estar ahí.

Son como el sol después de una tormenta, tan cálidos, y nos sentimos tan unidos a ellos porque podemos ser nosotros mismos a su alrededor. ¿Esto también se aplica a él?

5. ¿Cómo se comporta tu cuerpo cuando lo ves?

Does your heart rate increase? If you feel your heart thumping inside your chest and you lose your breath, if you can’t find the right words and you always say something silly or things don’t come out of your mouth the way they should, you are getting nervous around him.

The next question is, ”Why do you get nervous?” and I guess that’s because you really do like him.

6. ¿Cómo te mira?

Vale, la forma en que nos mira un hombre que nos gusta puede darnos escalofríos por todo el cuerpo. ¿Él te mira de esa manera?

¿Te deja boquiabierta con sólo mirarte? ¿La atracción física es demasiado fuerte?

Estas preguntas son la base de toda relación. Si tus respuestas son afirmativas, no tienes de qué preocuparte.

You’re definitely crazy about that guy and if you play your cards right, you can go far in your intention.

7. ¿Cuáles son tus objetivos en la relación?

I mean for the both of you. Can you see yourself being with him and reaching all the relationship goals you’ve set for yourself?

Can you imagine yourself being happy with him? If you immediately thought, “Yes!” to all of the above, you probably really like him!

8. Si te pidiera una cita en condiciones, ¿qué harías?

¿Has imaginado la situación en la que él se te acerca y te pide salir? ¿Recreas esa misma imagen en tu mente cada vez que le ves?

Si la respuesta a esta pregunta es una imagen de ti mismo saltando de felicidad, entonces mi trabajo aquí ha terminado.

9. ¿Tiene conexión?

Es decir, una conexión emocional, mental e incluso física con él.

Emotional, as in you feel secure when you’re around him and you don’t need to worry about if he’s going to be there for you.

A mental connection, as in you can talk about everything that’s on your mind with him.

Physical – do you ¿lo encuentras atractivo? ¿Es sexy? ¿Es guapo? Sé sincera.

10. Simplemente pregúntate si te gusta.

It’s about the first thing that pops into your mind. If you get that fuzzy feeling and butterflies in your stomach and if the first thing on your mind is happiness, then the answer is clear. No need to further question yourself about it.

Consider yourself lucky if he feels the same about you because a lot of people find themselves in the state of hopeless infatuation but sadly don’t get any response in return.

11. ¿Has llegado a conocerle?

¿Te has sentado con él a hablar de sus planes de futuro, su moral, sus ideales, lo que le gusta y lo que no?

If you haven’t had a proper conversation about the big stuff, it’s important to do so before deciding if you really like him!

12. ¿Desde cuándo?

I mean, how long do you think you have liked him? If you’ve been crushing on him for some time now, you might see that there is no reason to just call it a crush.

Crushes can’t last for a long period of time—they are just temporary. But if it’s been months? It’s more than just a crush.

13. ¿Tus amigos se burlan de ti y te presionan para que estés con él?

Friends from both sides. If you’re being pressured from your and his friends to like him and be with him because, as they said, ”You’d look cute together,” chances are slim that you’re actually interested in him but rather that you’re being pressured into something that wasn’t even your choice to begin with.

14. ¿Por qué estás confundido al respecto?

Usually, if you like someone, you simply know it. You feel it, to be honest. You don’t question yourself.

But if you do, you can continue to ask yourself questions like, “Is it because I didn’t have the chance to talk to him alone?”

15. ¿Te hace muchos cumplidos?

You like the people who see the good parts of you and compliment you a lot. It’s human nature. We love to be complimented.

If he does compliment you a lot, then maybe you’ve fallen for the compliments and not for him? I don’t know, you do.

16. ¿Estás intentando superar a un ex?

This can mess with your feelings a lot. If you’re trying to get over an ex, finding someone to help you with that is the easiest thing ever.

Asegúrate de haber superado por completo cualquier carga que haya quedado de tus relaciones pasadas; ayúdate con eso.

You will end up hurting both of you if you start something new while you’re holding on to the baggage of your past.

17. ¿Te gusta simplemente la idea de que te guste?

This is more confusing, but if you made a move on him before, if you tried to flirt with him, you really do like him. If not, then you’re in love with the idea of liking him.

We’re known for going after what we want. If you didn’t start something then you don’t lo quiero de verdad.

18. Si ahora mismo sonara tu teléfono y vieras su nombre en la pantalla, ¿cómo te sentirías?

If you immediately started hyperventilating in your mind at the thought of this, your heart started beating twice the normal speed and a huge smile formed on your face… Yup, you really like this dude.

19. Si su atractiva mejor amiga te invitara a salir, ¿irías?

If you can’t even imagine this happening and you are repulsed by the idea… then you probably do have strong feelings for him. If you can’t see yourself going out with anyone else (no matter how hot they are), you know your feelings are legit.

20. ¿Cómo se comparan tus sentimientos con los que tenías por tu ex?

If you feel like it’s really different this time and you can’t even compare it to anything, you might be onto something here.

But if it feels the exact same way as it did with your exes, you might not actually like him; you’re just stuck in an unhealthy pattern.

21. ¿Te imaginas con él?

Cuando te gusta alguien, normalmente te imaginas con él. Poco a poco empiezas a imaginar cómo sería una relación con él.

Si puedes imaginarte con él en lo bueno y en lo malo, en todo momento, siempre a su lado.

If that thought doesn’t scare you, then you’re definitely ready for a relationship and you really like him.

22. ¿Has hablado alguna vez con él?

If you never made a move, then you probably don’t like him. You just like the idea of him.

Since you’ve never done anything about that crush you feel, it’s probably something that won’t last for a long time.

Normalmente, la idea de enamorarse va seguida de dar el primer paso, hablar con la persona que te gusta o pedirle una cita. Se trata de establecer contacto y empezar a salir con él.

23. ¿Te sientes sola o realmente te gusta?

This is a trap that is easy to fall into. Many people enter relationships only because they don’t want to end up alone.

Tienen miedo de no enamorarse, así que se obligan a enamorarse sólo para evitar la soledad.

So, if you only think of him at the end of the day, when you’re home and alone, that’s a bad sign.

It means you’re only trying to find someone to keep you company, someone who will prevent you from ending up single and miserable.

But, if you’re thinking about him even when you’re out with friends or in a crowd, then there is something special about that person. Then, you’ve definitely fallen in love with him.

24. ¿Te pone celosa la idea de que esté con otra?

If just the thought of him being around other girls drives you crazy, then what you’re feeling is far more than just simple infatuation.

And, no, you’re not crazy for freaking out imagining him with other women despite the fact that you’re not with him.

Esto sólo significa que realmente te preocupas por él y que quieres ser esa persona especial en su vida.

So if your answer to this last question is yes, then you really do like him and you don’t have to wonder anymore. Just go for it!

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