Así es como te convertirás en el tipo de mujer que no necesita validación

¿Te preocupa lo que los demás piensen de ti? ¿Te tomas a pecho la opinión de los demás y permites que controle tu vida y afecte a tu estado de ánimo?

Yes, I could say that’s wrong. Don’t allow others to have such power over you, or all that BS about how you’re a strong woman on your own and you should dejar de buscar validación from others to start flourishing…

But no, I’m going to be honest and say that I totally get you.

I get you because I was once struggling with that same overwhelming constant need for other people’s validation. Nunca tuve fe en mí misma. Nunca creí que fuera inteligente, guapa o lo suficientemente buena a menos que alguien me lo dijera.

Some people say it’s a habit, but I wouldn’t agree. Habits can be easily broken – this is something way different and way more difficult to get rid of.

I can’t say I freed myself from the shackles of that constant craving for affirmation-validation, but I definitely did find a way to tame it and keep it under control.

Ser plenamente consciente de tu propia valía y no necesitar la validación de nadie es, sin duda, una de las mejores y más atractivas cualidades que puede tener una mujer.

Let’s tame our cravings for validation together through some very simple steps.

Acéptate tal y como eres

La verdad es que todos tenemos algunos defectos e imperfecciones y ninguno de nosotros es completamente perfecto.

Por desgracia, muy a menudo, nuestros defectos y esos lados malos nos ciegan y nos volvemos completamente incapaces de ver ese otro lado de nosotros, ese lado mejor y más brillante.

Para ser completamente feliz y sentirte a gusto en tu propia piel, debes aceptarte tal y como eres. Tienes que aceptar cada parte de ti, por imperfecta que sea.

Haz lo que te haga feliz

You. You. You. Everything in your life should revolve around you, and that’s why your own happiness should be more important to you than anyone else’s.

Siempre debes escuchar a tu corazón y hacer cosas que te hagan feliz. Nunca por favor todas las personas.

There will always be some who will agree with your actions and choices, while on the other hand, there will always be those who’ll condemn them all and make you look bad.

Por favor, deja de disculparte demasiado

Yes, you should be strong enough to accept your mistakes and offer your sincere apologies. However, that doesn’t mean that you should apologize for everything you do.

You should never apologize for things you don’t consider wrong or for things that were beyond your control.

Utilizar declaraciones diarias de autoestima

One of the things that really affect your need for other people’s validation is the way you communicate with yourself.

If you never have positive self-talk, then surely it will make you think bad about yourself, and you will try to find people who’ll give you the affirmation you need.

Véase también: Las 180+ afirmaciones diarias más poderosas para mujeres

Deja de intentar explicarte todo el tiempo

You don’t owe anyone explanations about your actions. You’re an independent woman, so start behaving like one.

Even if you make a mistake sometimes, even if your own choices and actions lead you in the wrong direction, you shouldn’t be sorry for it. If others don’t like it or don’t agree with it, it’s their problem.

Critiques, along with advice from other people, are always welcomed, but don’t give them the right to interfere too much in your life.

Your life is yours and only yours. You’re the only one who has the right to control it. Respalda siempre tus palabras, tus actos y tus decisiones, por equivocadas que puedan parecer a los demás.

Aumente su confianza

Aprendí que las personas que tienen la necesidad de buscar la validación de otras personas para sentirse bien consigo mismas tienen enormes problemas de autoestima.

That’s why you always have to work on yourself. Self-awareness and self-confidence are two very powerful weapons in this fight.

That’s why you have to sharpen those tools. You have to build your core confidence if you want to win this battle and become a strong, fearless, and independent woman.

It’s time to take your eyes off your insecurities

La verdad es que ninguno de nosotros es inmune a la horrible sensación de sentirnos inseguros de nosotros mismos a veces.

It’s good to be aware of some of those not-so-perfect parts of us, but instead of hating yourself because of your inseguridades and allowing them to make you a weak person, you should embrace them because, after all, they’re a part of you, too.

Sometimes it’s necessary to mute the background noise

There will always be some people who think they know better than you and who’ll want to interfere in your life or try to control it.

Think of that as unnecessary noise that you need to silence. It’s just their opinion, it doesn’t mean it’s right. Haz caso a tu instinto.

Escucha a tu corazón y sigue sus deseos pase lo que pase.

Marcha al ritmo de tu propio tambor

Choose a path you like and stick to that choice no matter what. Stick to that path you’ve chosen for yourself even if the whole world chooses to go the other way.

This is a decision that only brave people can make. I want to warn you, it’s not going to be ideal always.

Sometimes, life will throw many lemons on your path and try to knock you on the floor and defeat you. When that happens, don’t expect others to tell you what you should do with it.

Cuando eso ocurra, cuando la vida empiece a tirarte limones, cógelos todos y cada uno de ellos, añádeles un poco de vodka y prepárate un maldito martini. Disfruta de tu cóctel con el hermoso aroma de la victoria.