No desperdicies los atardeceres con hombres que se irán al amanecer

No tiene nada de malo ligar con un tío cualquiera en un bar. Te lo llevas a casa y mañana actúas como si nada hubiera pasado.

Come on. It’s the year 2021 – we’re perfectly capable of being physically intimate with someone who will look the other way la próxima vez que nos encontremos en la calle.

Him not calling back ever again isn’t a big deal, right? We enjoyed ourselves, and then we both continued with our lives.

At least, that’s what we keep telling ourselves. We put a lot of effort into being like men. Nos esforzamos por enseñar a nuestros corazones a no encariñarse y romperse tan fácilmente.

Wouldn’t that be perfect? Wouldn’t it be great if you could have some fun with a guy you like without any emotional consequences?

Sadly, things don’t always work out like that. As much as you try not to give it a second thought, you’re always left wondering.

¿Me llamará? ¿Fui sólo una aventura para él? ¿Cuándo me llamará? ¿Está pensando en mí?

Don’t get me wrong: I’m not only referring to one night stands here – this was just an example. I’m talking about all the men who were gone from your life in the blink of an eye.

Sin embargo, lo cierto es que nunca te hicieron ninguna promesa.

You weren’t exclusive, so you’re convinced that you don’t have the right to be mad. You two didn’t put any labels on it, so you think they were in no obligation to stick around.

The worst part is that all the red flags were there. From the very first moment you met them, deep down, you knew very well that they weren’t here to stay.

But you tried anyhow. You put effort into these relationships that weren’t going anywhere.

Estabas prestando tu atención a alguien que sólo te veía como un alto en el camino, y esperabas para siempre de hombres que sólo te veían como algo temporal.

No, this doesn’t mean that you’re not enough. It just means that you kept giving yourself to the wrong men.

A los hombres que se fueron en cuanto consiguieron lo que querían de ti. A los hombres que fingieron estar emocionalmente rotos pero que en realidad fueron unos imbéciles desde el principio.

You were giving yourself to the guys who weren’t ready to commit and whose only goal was to use your heart, body, and mind.

A los tipos que te veían como su juguete y que te tiraron en cuanto se acabó su jueguecito.

You wasted years of your life on immature boys who didn’t know what they wanted. On men whose call and text you had to desperately wait for and on guys who kept giving you breadcrumbs of their affection.

Te conformaste con hombres que se negaron a corresponder a tu esfuerzo. Con hombres que te trataron como si fueras su segunda opción y que nunca se dedicaron por completo a vuestra relación.

And let’s face it: you need to take a part of the blame – the fact that you were wasting your sunsets with men who you knew would be gone by the next sunrise.

El hecho de que estabas buscando amor en todos los lugares equivocados y de todas las personas equivocadas.

Look, I’m no Judge Judy. I’m not advising you against casual flings because they’re inappropriate, or because other guys won’t see you as wife material, or some crap like that.

I’m begging you to save your heart and body for the ones who deserve you. You’re a whole package, and you can’t allow any man to take just the parts of you they like.

It’s todo o nada. And if they can’t handle you entirely, they should be out of your life. In that case, they don’t deserve the privilege of your presence.

I’m begging you not to waste an ounce of your energy on someone who doesn’t have the intention of sticking around. Not to let a guy into your life until he proves to you that he deserves a place there.

En lugar de conformarse con medias tintas, casi o relaciones unilateralesespera al verdadero. Espere a que un tipo que es digno de su amor y atención.

Please, stop forcing anything. I’m not saying that you should sit in your bedroom and expect for your Prince Charming to come knocking on your door.

But you can’t expect things to work out when you’re the one going through all the blood, sweat, and tears while the other side couldn’t care less.

Oye, te lo prometo: el amor de verdad llegará. Experimentarás una conexión genuina con un hombre que está hecho para ti.

¿Y mientras tanto? Bueno.., ser soltero es mejor que saltar de una relación condenada al fracaso a otra en cualquier momento.