No ser elegido dolerá como el infierno, no importa lo grande que sea tu autoestima

At the end of the day, we are only humans. We need other people in our life. We all want to feel like we belong – like we are important to someone who is important to us.

Still, we cannot force other people to be with us and to love us. Sometimes, no matter how much we try, we just can’t keep some people in our lives.

That’s how things are and you should accept it as it is because you can’t change anything. Feelings can’t be forced. Friendships shouldn’t be forced. Love mustn’t be forced.

You must realize that sometimes it’s just not meant to be, no matter how much you want it to happen.

You should get comfortable with the fact that you’re not going to get everything and everyone that you want in life.

No one does. That’s enough for consolation, right?

Love isn’t that simple, nor is friendship. It is something that you can’t manipulate and in order to make it work, you have to fight for it every day.

That doesn’t mean that you should set some unrealistic expectations for love and friendship. You’ll feel helpless if it doesn’t work.

Some people won’t choose you no matter what you do for them and that’s their loss, not yours.

You’ll say “That’s easy to say, but it hurts badly,” when it actually happens to you. I know. I’ve been there myself. I was hurt also.

Yo. La mujer más segura de sí misma. Me sentí herida, enojada, traicionada y aplastada.

All those awful emotions were mixed inside me and I couldn’t see the real picture in that situation. All I saw was his rejection.

Nunca nadie me hizo sentir así. Bueno, nadie podía porque yo tenía la mejor opinión sobre mí misma. Mi confianza era mi fuerza.

It didn’t allow me to give up in any situation no matter how difficult it was.

Until then. The irony is that his rejection didn’t make me doubt myself, it actually made me curious about the reasons why he turned me down.

¿Cómo pudo hacer eso? Yo era la chica más perfecta para él. En realidad, yo era incluso mejor que eso.

Every day I was blaming him for not seeing it. For turning me down when I was all he ever wanted. And I was sure of that, that’s why his rejection was so unclear to me.

I always considered confidence as one of my best character traits because I thought it’d help me to deal with any bad days and hurtful emotions.

Siempre pensé que el desamor es lo peor que puede sentir una chica. Pero estaba equivocada. El sentimiento de un rechazo duele aún más que eso.

Provoca un mayor dolor emocional y puede dejar algunas psychological wounds that don’t heal tan fácilmente. Lo aprendí por las malas, por desgracia.

Los psicólogos dicen que, de todas las heridas emocionales que experimentamos en la vida, el rechazo es la más común y dolorosa.

Being confident couldn’t help me. I was aware of my worth and I knew that I’d find someone else who’d choose me no matter what.

But still, it hurt. The pain I felt was so unexplainable. All I thought about were his reasons for turning me down, which part of me he didn’t like, and why he didn’t even want to try something with me.

After some time, I realized that we weren’t meant to be. And that was the only important thing I needed to know from the beginning. It was his choice and I couldn’t do anything about it.

Excepto dejarlo ir. Y lo hice. Dejé ir todos esos horribles sentimientos.

I hoped for a better future and for a man who’d want my love and be able to reciprocate it in a way I deserve.

And trust me, this is the best advice you’ll ever get: Cuanto más rápido avances, the sooner you’ll forget all about the terrible feeling of being rejected.

But still, your self-esteem and self-love play an important role. If you are not confident, you’ll be more vulnerable to rejection.

La gente tiene todo el derecho y la libertad de elegir a quien quiera y lo que quiera. Puedes influir en sus decisiones haciendo cosas buenas por ellos, pero nunca puedes elegir por ellos.

Rejection doesn’t mean that you are not enough. In most cases, the problem is the other person, not you.

You should never let the rejection get the best of you. Be stronger than that. It will pass and you’ll eventually forget about it as if it never even happened.