4 comportamientos pasivo-agresivos de los que casi todas las chicas son culpables

Aunque siempre hablamos de los defectos de los hombres, es hora de admitir la horrible verdad que los chicos nunca pueden descubrir: Nosotras tampoco somos perfectas.

Most of us aren’t abusive or prone to infidelity, but there is something almost every girl is guilty of.

Ese algo se llama agresión pasiva.

While you might not like to admit it, I know that you’ve caught yourself in the following behavior patterns at least once in your life.

Well, good news: You’re not alone.

Comentarios sarcásticos

Sarcasm and irony are all fun and games when you find someone who’s on the same wavelength as you.

Sin embargo, eso es bastante raro y este tipo de comentarios son más bien una forma de comportamiento pasivo-agresivo.

Verás, las bromas son una cosa. Al fin y al cabo, a todo el mundo le gustan las chicas con sentido del humor.

Pero el sarcasmo es otra cosa, y utilizarlo para burlarte de tu pareja nunca es aceptable.

Entiendo. Intentas enmascarar tus comentarios con humor.

If you see that he got insulted, you can always tell that you didn’t mean it and that you were joking.

But it’s time to stop doing it. Your partner needs to know when you’re serious and when you’re just messing around.

El tratamiento silencioso

Simply put, you’re giving your boyfriend the silent treatment when you refuse to talk to him.

However, you don’t tell him that you’ve stopped talking – you just start ignoring him.

This is not ghosting; you don’t disappear from his life. You’re still there, you just pretend that he is not present next to you.

Sometimes you do this because you don’t know to express yourself verbally the right way.

You’re scared that you’ll start insulting him or say something you don’t really mean, so you choose to remain silent.

At other times, you do it deliberately. You don’t want to break up with your boyfriend, but you want to punish him by not talking to him.

Either way, this isn’t relación sana comportamiento.

You might expect your problems to magically go away if you don’t talk them through.

In reality, you’ll achieve precisely the opposite effect. Sometimes, you need to fight your issues out and solve them in that way.

Comportamiento gruñón

¿Sabes que la mayoría de los hombres acusan a las mujeres de regañonas todo el tiempo?

Pues bien, aunque puedas considerarlo un estereotipo, es un hecho probado que muchas chicas son culpables de esta forma de comportamiento pasivo-agresivo.

Básicamente, te quejas habitualmente sin una razón obvia. Vas por casa, malhumorado, demostrando que nada te funciona.

El problema con este patrón de comportamiento es que nunca aparece de la nada. Por el contrario, siempre tiene una historia de fondo más profunda.

For you, it’s more than clear that you’re not satisfied with something in your relationship.

Puede que no estés contenta con algo que hizo tu novio anteriormente.

Sin embargo, déjame decirte una cosa.

Your boyfriend doesn’t have the ability to find a cause-effect relationship between these two things.

So, he concludes that you’re just being grumpy for nothing.

What I’m trying to tell you here is that you’ll accomplish literally nothing with this behavior.

In fact, you’ll just chase him away even more with your negative energy.

En su lugar, piense en su insatisfacción.

Pregúntate qué es lo que realmente te molesta y mantén una conversación madura al respecto con tu pareja.

Crítica constante

If you’re one of those people who constantly criticize their partner, I have a newsflash for you: He was like this when you met him. 

Además, aquí tienes dos opciones: Puedes aceptar todos sus defectos o marcharse.

Don’t misunderstand me.

Nobody is attacking you for not being happy with your boyfriend’s behavior, his progress in life, or the way he treats you.

However, you won’t get anywhere if you point out his imperfections all the time. In fact, he’ll just end up rebelling even more against you.

Puede que empiece a hacer las cosas que te molestan aún más sólo para demostrarte algo. Por ejemplo, podría empezar a ignorando tus mensajes on purpose. Believe me, there’s always a nicer way to give your remark.

En lugar de desaprobar todas sus ideas, sugerencias y soluciones, intenta darle un respiro.

When you judge him all the time, he’ll make even more mistakes, and there you are trapped in an endless circle of him annoying you and you criticizing him.