Por eso no pasa nada si no quieres una relación ahora mismo

Due to the insane pressures of society, we always feel this overwhelming need to be in a relationship. We are made to feel like there is something wrong with us if we’re single.

But guess what, there isn’t. These societal constraints only tie us down and make us play to their tune.

But just because somebody who doesn’t know you makes you feel a certain thing, does not mean that they are right.

Don’t let these insane pressures of society make you feel like you need to be in a relationship just for the sake of it.

It’s not supposed to be an obligation. A relationship means love. And you can’t force love.

La gente es juzgada constantemente por su situación sentimental, y cada vez son más los que se comprometen en relaciones sin amor, todo ello en un intento de no ser juzgados por el mundo exterior y de sentirse diferentes.

Sinceramente, no sólo es totalmente normal ser soltero, but it’s actually good for you!

Te brinda una oportunidad increíble para descubrirte a ti misma, averiguar qué es exactamente lo que quieres de la vida y del amor, y aprender a ser la mejor versión de ti misma.

So, why should you feel guilty for not conforming to society’s norms and keeping yourself happy?

 

Cuando llegue el momento, y sientas la necesidad de cambiar tu situación sentimental, trabajarás en ello, saldrás y te esforzarás por encontrar el con la que quieres compartir tu vida.

But until you’re ready, it is perfectly fine to enjoy life by yourself and explore all there is to learn about love, life, and yourself.

Un poco de introspección es bueno para el alma y, en última instancia, te hará mejor pareja cuando llegue el momento.

If you don’t feel the need to be in a relationship, it’s really simple – don’t be in one.

Siempre me permitía escuchar a la gente a mi alrededor y siempre tenía a un chico cerca, sólo por el hecho de no estar sola.

But it wasn’t for me. It was for all these other people who have absolutely no business telling me, you or anyone who to date and who to spend our time with.

If you don’t feel like spending the majority of your time with a specific individual, that’s okay! You don’t have to.

You can go out with whomever you like, stay as long as you want, and you don’t have anybody to report to.

Eres libre de pasar el día como quieras, y si eso significa quedarte delante de la tele en tu pijama favorito, viendo un reality y bebiendo vino, ¡que así sea!

¡Lo que haga flotar tu barco, chica!

Enjoy this now because when you have a partner, there won’t be much alone time on your plate.

So why not make the most of it! Screw anyone telling you otherwise. They’re just miserable people, unhappy with their own lives.

No todo el mundo tiene las mismas prioridades en la vida, y eso es completamente normal. Todos estamos conectados de forma diferente, y todos hemos tenido nuestros propios altibajos en lo que se refiere al amor.

Tienes tus razones para elegir estar soltera en este momento, y más poder para ti.

It’s okay whichever way you want to live, for as long as it’s your own decision and nobody else’s. You are in control of your life.

People like to pry and ask around as to why you’re not with somebody right now. But you don’t have any reason to explain anything to anyone.

They are not a part of your life, and therefore, they shouldn’t play a role in how you feel about ser soltero.

Puede que ahora mismo te encuentres en un momento increíble en el trabajo y quieras dedicarte a ello, lo que te deja muy poco tiempo para una vida plena. amar la viday esa es tu decisión.

It could be that you are simply sick and tired of boys playing mind games with you and always ending up disappointed in the male species, so you’re taking a little much needed break from men.

Una vez más, la decisión es tuya y sólo tuya.

Whatever makes you feel good and comfortable is what you should do. Don’t feel like you have to explain your decisions to irrelevant people.

Cuestiones de compromiso son algo real.

En algún lugar de nuestro interior, existe un miedo silencioso a atarnos. De perder una parte de ti misma dándolo todo por un chico.

Personalmente, siempre he tenido este miedo dentro de mí.

Siempre acabo estropeando mis relaciones porque me da mucho miedo y paranoia comprometerme, y siempre me hace sentir mal conmigo misma.

That is exactly why I decided to take a little break until I figured myself out, and you should too! Don’t feel bad if you are scared of commitment.

You’re only human. There is this fear in all of us, and we all deal with it in our own way.

El hecho de que lo hagas a tu manera no te hace peor por ello.

Te hace valiente hacer lo tuyo, independientemente de lo que piensen los que te rodean.

Pasar tiempo contigo misma es sumamente importante y no se valora lo suficiente. Haz lo que necesites para volver a sentirte bien y escucha a tu cabeza.

After all, it’s your life. You’re the only one living it. So you might as well make it a good one.

Sometimes, it’s okay to be your own number one priority. If you want to have freedom to do what you need to do, then that is exactly what should happen.

 

In relationships, we often lose a little part of ourselves, and our priorities inevitably change. It’s not necessarily a bad thing, but it can be if you don’t feel ready for this step yet.

En lo que a mí respecta, siempre sentí ese rencor malsano hacia mis parejas porque estar con ellas ocupaba gran parte de mi tiempo, sin dejarme a solas conmigo misma lo suficiente para averiguar si eso era lo que quería.

Y tardé un tiempo en darme cuenta de que era culpa mía y no de ellos. No estaba en el estado de ánimo adecuado para una relación seria, y eso solo me ahuyentó cuando ellos querían tanto de mí.

Avoid sacrificing yourself for the sake of pleasing others. You have a long life ahead of you. There is plenty of time to be happily in love. If that time isn’t right now, listen to your gut!

If you feel too flirty and casual to be in a committed relationship, then, by all means—do as you please. It’s better to be single and be able to hook up with whomever you want, than to be in a relationship and have all these desires for other people!

Explore your feminine side, see what the city has to offer, meet new guys, flirt your ass off, and make out with hot strangers. There’s no better time for it than right now!

And when you’re done with this, you’ll feel ready and capable of being in a serious, relación comprometida, without having all these annoying needs for freedom and other guys, and you won’t end up cheating.

As long as you’re honest about what you want with yourself and with others, you’re doing absolutely nothing wrong. Be true to yourself, and make yourself a priority. Nobody knows what you need better than you.

Don’t give a shit about people talking and making you appear like you’re not the relationship type. There is a time for everything. You need to focus on whatever is important to you at that particular time.

If your career is the most important thing to you right now, it’s okay to shift your focus solely to it. There’s plenty of time for love. Make a name of yourself in the business world, and you’ll feel less strained when you meet someone new who you want to spend time with.

Life is about being happy and finding your place in this world. It’s about getting to know exactly who you are, what your desires are and how to accomplish them, without hurting anybody in the process.

It’s about discovering who we want to share our lives with—be that family, friends, coworkers, lovers. They all somehow end up shaping us into one whole person, so it is important to let yourself live your life to the fullest, and do what feels right.

Sólo se es joven una vez. Asegúrate de tener algo que contar a tus nietos algún día.

Disfruta de tu soltería sin remordimientos porque cuando encuentres a tu verdadero amor, te sentirás completa y preparada para el siguiente paso, sabiendo que has vivido tu vida al máximo.