Esta es la razón por la que un narcisista no puede evitar engañarte

If you’ve ever had the displeasure of being involved con un narcisista, I’m sure by now you’re aware that nothing good can come out of it. 

Son como una enfermedad que va tomando pedacitos de tu alma hasta que están listos para prenderse de una nueva víctima.

Estar con un narcisista es agotador, agotador, doloroso e interminable.

They charm the shit out of you, whip their claws into you (metaphorically), and don’t let go until THEY decide to.

No se les dan bien las relaciones, por no decir otra cosa. 

Su falta de empatía y consideración hacia cualquier persona que no sean ellos mismos es frustrante.

A veces, uno tiene la sensación de que hay algo más que tu narcisista than his manipulation and deceit – and then he proves you wrong.

And it’s endless cycles of misery, false hopefulness and lies that keep shocking you even though don’t even know why.

Lo único chocante sería exactamente lo contrario.

And this is why cheating is almost like second nature to them. One woman simply won’t do.

And while this is not a fact for every single narcissist out there – it is for the majority of them.

Engañar les da una sensación de alivio, control y logro. Les pone por encima de ti y les proporciona el viaje de poder de su vida.

Pero, ¿por qué necesitan hacer trampas para sentirse realizados?

¿Por qué se sienten con derecho a hacer trampas? ¿Por qué creen que pueden hacerlo y salirse fácilmente con la suya?

¿Qué tiene el engaño que resulta tan seductor?

Here, I’ll break down some of the answers to those. Here are some of the most common reasons why narcissists resort to cheating.

1. A narcissist needs attention and oftentimes, one woman simply isn’t enough.

One could say this about men in general almost, but with narcissists, it’s more severe. A narcissist needs to feel adored and admired.

He needs to be the object of everyone’s attention, and that goes for his romantic relationships as well.

One woman’s attention rarely satisfies all of his needs. He needs more. He needs to feel like he’s on top of the world.

Necesita que le suban el ego y le vuelen la cabeza. Y por eso buscará la compañía de otras mujeres.

Cuanto más se admira su grandiosidad, más se infla su sentido de sí mismo.

2. Un narcisista genuinamente cree que tiene derecho a más que nadie

Un narcisista tiene complejo de superioridad, y eso le hace creer que puede coger lo que quiera porque tiene derecho a ello.

Cree sinceramente que se merece las cosas más que tú y que yo.

And this includes romantic partners (even though there’s really no romance there). To him, right or wrong doesn’t play a part here.

He is above anyone, and rules don’t apply to him. He gets to take what he feels he has the right to, and he answers to nobody.

Por eso te engaña y luego te hace sentir culpable por enfadarte.

Se rige por unas reglas totalmente distintas, que justifican su comportamiento moralmente reprobable.

3. A narcissist’s ego doesn’t let him play by the rules

His ego often gets the best of him. Even if he wanted to be faithful, his inflated ego wouldn’t let him.

Un narcisista se mete en muchas situaciones en las que se siente tentado, y lo hace a propósito.

He can’t stay put, and he can’t stay away from people (read: women). He needs his fix.

So when he’s in one of those situations, his ego won’t let him restrain himself.  He’ll never think of the woman waiting for him at home. 

He will welcome any opportunity he gets to get his fix, and he’ll feel boastful about it.

He simply doesn’t care to do anything discreetly. It’s not his style.

4. Un narcisista tiene un alto deseo sexual

Para un narcisista, el sexo es una droga. Necesita practicarlo tanto como sea posible para darse un impulso y demostrar su valía a los demás.

He has a stronger libido than most people which doesn’t let him stay celibate for long. 

And if the sex with his partner doesn’t satisfy his needs, he’ll start looking elsewhere. You may believe that you have a good vida sexualy es muy posible que así sea. 

But unlike with a normal partner who would appreciate it and never think of straying, a narcissist isn’t built that way.

No matter how much you give him, he’ll always need more. And that is entirely on him.

5. Un narcisista se siente en control cuando engaña

To him, cheating is like a power trip. He is showing you that he can (and will!) do as he pleases, and you’ll just have to put up with it.

Un narcisista disfruta la persecución. Disfruta y se alimenta de poder seducir a otra mujer y llevársela a la cama. 

It gives him control and a sense of accomplishment. And while he’s with that other girl, he knows there’s nothing you can do about it which gives him control over you. 

Y el sexo, especialmente el prohibido, es la forma definitiva de control para él.

Being able to get away with it knowing you’re stuck with him, gives him more control than a person could ever need.