Ser soltero nunca fue un golpe de mala suerte, siempre fue mi elección y mi decisión

Cuando veis a una chica como yo, la mayoría sentís lástima.

After all, I’m, without any false modesty, a good looking, attractive, intelligent and successful girl.

Sin embargo, tengo un defecto crítico que anula claramente todas mis buenas cualidades: I’m single y no están listos para mezclarse.

Según muchos, algo debe de andar mal conmigo. Everything in my life is going smoothly – everything besides one thing: relationships.

I’ve been alone for ages so people end up making conspiracy theories. They can’t believe that I haven’t been seeing anyone for such a long time.

¿Espero demasiado? ¿Soy demasiado exigente? ¿Los hombres me ven siquiera como material de novia?

What is even harder to believe for most is that I’m not desperate about my relationship status. In fact, I’m not in the dating market and I’m not actively looking for a boyfriend.

Of course, most think that these are just false pretenses and that I’m lying when I say I’m not bothered by the lack of a boyfriend.

Suponen que me paso las noches solitarias llorando hasta quedarme dormida y rezando a Dios para que por fin me envíe a alguien.

Bueno, déjame decirte algo: As hard as this is to believe, I don’t think of my single status as a curse or bad luck. In fact, I’m single by choice.

Sí, has oído bien: Pasar todo este tiempo fuera de cualquier tipo de implicación romántica fue exclusivamente mi decisión y lo que consideré la mejor opción para mí.

Verás, no hay nada más fácil que ponerte ahí fuera y agarrar al primero que se te ponga por delante.

Some might call it spontaneous – and I don’t like to meddle in anyone’s choices – but that’s just not my cuppa.

De hecho, esto es probablemente lo que yo haría si tuviera miedo de estar solo.

It’s exactly how I would behave if I thought that I needed a man to complete me and expected another human being to make me happy.

Esto es lo que haría si me preocupara lo que piensen los demás.

If I were to fall under pressure from my friends and family who keep asking me when I will settle down or if I’m too embarrassed to keep on showing up to different events without my plus one.

This is how I would behave if I was a regular girl who lives her life by the book and according to someone else’s rules. However, this is just not how I roll.

Don’t get me wrong. This doesn’t mean that I’ve sentenced myself to an entire life of solitude.

It doesn’t mean that I’m running away from the possibility of ever encontrar el amor o nunca lo permitiría en mi vida.

Pero.., Nunca me involucraré en una relación por las razones equivocadas.

I won’t settle for less than I deserve just out of fear of dying alone. I won’t go around dating a bunch of guys who want to get into my pants just so I could have someone to sleep next to at night.

I won’t be in a loveless relationship just because I’m tired of being an outcast. I won’t lower my standards because I’m afraid that everyone will accuse me of being too picky.

I won’t trade my perfectly ordered life for a relationship that will make me miserable and heartbroken. I won’t trade my peace for chaos!

Most importantly – I won’t seek happiness elsewhere until I acquire it by myself. I won’t be searching for my other half. Instead, I’ll do my best to complete myself.

You see, I don’t need validation from anyone. I don’t have to be in a romantic relationship to see my value or consider myself enough.

I don’t need a man to respect me in order for me to feel confident in myself and I certainly don’t need one to love me so I could love myself.

Therefore, if true love ever appears in my life, I will welcome it with open arms. If a man who deserves me crosses my path, I won’t chase him away.

However, if none of this happens, I’ll be perfectly fine the way I am.