Quiero Un Novio: 15 maneras probadas de encontrar al chico adecuado

In today’s world, everywhere you look, you hear girls saying: I don’t want a boyfriend. Ves a chicas disfrutando de su soltería, sin planear cambiarla por algún hombre.

However, you’re different. You’re tired of being alone and you think it’s time to find someone to share your life with.

As one of the most famous I want a boyfriend quotes says: you’re not desperate, you just want a boyfriend because you’re sick of sitting back and watching everybody else fall in love.

You want someone to wake up next to every morning, someone to text you on a regular basis, someone to understand you, someone to kiss you… You want someone you will love and someone to love you back.

Well, if this is something you can relate to, you’ve come to the right place because we’re about to help you find a boyfriend the easiest way possible. Just follow this step-by-step guide and you’ll have your dream guy in no time.

1. Averigüe lo que quiere

Antes de hacer nada, debe hacerse algunas preguntas.

¿Quiero un novio? 

If the answer is no, why don’t I want a boyfriend? Am I scared of rejection or am I really good on my own?

Sin embargo, si la respuesta es sí, ¿por qué tengo tantas ganas de tener novio?

¿Sólo quiero un novio por tenerlo o estoy preparada para compartir mi vida con otra persona? ¿Estoy intentando dar celos a alguien de mi pasado?

¿Quiero recuperar a mi ex novio o estoy lista para conocer a alguien nuevo?

Once you answer all of these questions, it’s time to set your standards. I’m not advising you to be extra picky, but it is crucial to know what you want and what you’re looking for before trying to get it.

Si te cuesta darte cuenta de qué cualidades buscas en un hombre, escribe tu factores decisivos y deseos en un trozo de papel.

This doesn’t guarantee you that you’ll find exact perfect man, but at least you’ll have some kind of framework to help you with your search.

Otra opción es ponerse delante del espejo y repetir lo siguiente:

Quiero un novio que me quiera, me respete y me trate como me merezco. Quiero un novio que me comprenda y me acepte tal y como soy. Lo que quiero en un novio es un amante y un amigo, todo en uno.

Of course, you can always add some other qualities that are important for you personally. Either way, what’s crucial is to verbalize the characteristics you’re searching for and stick with it, no matter what.

2. And don’t settle for less

Como ya se ha dicho, ser demasiado exigente con los hombres y tener un alto nivel de exigencia son dos cosas distintas.

Por mucho que desee mejorar su vida sentimental, encontrar a su príncipe azul y entablar una relación seria, lo último que debería pensar es en conformarse con menos de lo que se merece.

Lamentablemente, cuando empiezan a sentir que se les acaba el tiempo, muchas solteras tienen la costumbre de liarse con el primer chico que se les acerca, por miedo a la soledad.

Please, don’t make that mistake – you’ll only worsen things. Just because your love life is on pause right now, it doesn’t mean that you should be with someone who doesn’t meet your needs or isn’t compatible with you.

Don’t forget that it’s always better to permanecer soltero hasta que llegue el hombre adecuado.

3. Ser realista

Otra cosa importante que debes recordar mientras buscas a la persona adecuada es ser realista también con tus propias cualidades y expectativas.

Be aware of your own worth – don’t underestimate yourself, but don’t try going out of your league either.

All of us have an idea of our prince charming and you’re no exception. However, that doesn’t mean that you’ll necessarily find this man in all of his perfection.

Lo importante es encontrar a la persona adecuada para ti: alguien cuyas imperfecciones se lleven bien con las tuyas.

4. Aumenta tu confianza

I won’t lie to you, physical appearance is the first thing every man notices about a girl. That said, if you don’t have charisma or some kind of X factor, all of your looks are in vain.

Before going out on a first date with a new guy you’ve met, you have to feel confident in your skin (and your body language should show it) if you want things to work out.

This might sound clichéd, but you really have to learn how to love yourself before you try to find love elsewhere.

I’m not advising you to become cocky or egocentric, but this guy has to see that you’re a woman who feels good about herself and is certain in her qualities. That you are perfectly fine on your own and not desperate to find a life partner.

This man has to realize that you know exactly what you want, that he can’t diminish tu valor, and that he can’t ruin your confidence, even if he tries.

He has to see that you’re not here looking for his approval. That you like him, but will never allow him to treat you poorly, and that you will never be with someone who doesn’t match your standards.

5. Mejore sus habilidades sociales

Una de las formas más probadas de conseguir novio y aumentar tu confianza es mejorar tus habilidades sociales y ampliar tu círculo social. De este modo, tienes la oportunidad de conocer a gente nueva, lo que podría llevarte a conocer también a un novio adecuado.

Ten cuidado de no agobiarte con la idea de encontrar al hombre adecuado, a pesar de que éste sea tu objetivo final. En lugar de pensar sólo en eso, relájate al máximo y déjate llevar.

Permite que entren en tu vida personas nuevas, sin expectativas ni obligaciones. Esto te ayudará a practicar para el mundo de las citas.

You’ll have a chance to get to know someone new, talk to strangers, and practice your communication skills, all of which will come in handy in your love life, as well.

Don’t be scared of exiting your comfort zone. Go to a new gym, find a new hobby, or start taking a foreign language class.  

6. Conviértete en novia material

This might sound harsh, but the truth is that you ought to observe the dating scene as a kind of business. After all, you’re looking for something in particular, but in return, you also have to offer something valuable.

Actually, it’s pretty simple: if you look for a man who is cut out for a serious relationship, firstly you need to become a woman this kind of guy would want.

I’m not saying that you should compare yourself to anyone, but you have to understand that there are a lot of single women out there who are looking for the same thing you are, and that the competition is huge.

Por lo tanto, necesitas convertirte en material de novia. Sé todo lo que los hombres quieren y mucho más.

Para lograrlo, tienes que invertir en tu mente y en tu cuerpo. Para empezar, intenta tener el mejor aspecto posible en todo momento, mejora tu imagen en las redes sociales y trabaja en tu personalidad.

Trabaja en las pequeñas cosas: tu sentido del humor, tus habilidades comunicativas. Amplía tus horizontes, mantente al día sobre temas interesantes del mundo, aprende a ligar.

This way you’ll attract some interesting people in your life and your potential boyfriend might be one of them.

7. Ponerse en el mercado de las citas

Un conocido meme de Quiero un novio dice así:

Yo: Quiero un novio

Also me: Doesn’t go out, doesn’t put myself out there…

Well, real life is not a fairy tale and your dream guy won’t magically arrive on a white horse knocking on your door, asking you to be his. Instead, you have to actively search for him.

Así pues, el siguiente paso para encontrar a tu alma gemela es ponerte en el grupo de citas.

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t advise you to hit the street, asking every man who passes by if he needs a girlfriend, or to Google single men in your area.

Antiguamente, la única forma de encontrar pareja era salir o preguntar a un amigo común si tenía a alguien que pudiera recomendarte.

However, if you’re not into clubbing and if you want to get to know a guy better through texting before going out on a first date, there is a solution for you too.

Por suerte, en las citas modernas hay muchas otras opciones para encontrar una pareja adecuada, como las citas online (puedes utilizar tanto las redes sociales como numerosas aplicaciones de citas en Google).

It’s your job to use these tools to your advantage. One of these dating apps is Tinder, a dating site that’s helped many find love.  

8. Mostrar iniciativa

I bet you’re used to a guy always making the first move. A guy being the one to approach you first in person or on dating sites.

However, times have changed. Now, there’s nothing wrong with a woman hitting on a man. This way, you’ll show him that you’re a modern girl who has no trouble taking life into her own hands.

After all, men also need to be reassured that they are doing the right thing. They need a green light that you’re interested in them.

I’m not saying for you to be pushy or stalk a guy you like. However, there is nothing wrong in asking him on a second date after you two had a great time on the first one.

9. But don’t rush things

Nevertheless, it’s important not to appear desperate to find a boyfriend.

Even when you meet someone you’re interested in, let things go slowly and at their own pace.

Don’t act as if your only goal in life is to find a man and don’t push him over his boundaries.

For example, if you like a guy you’ve already been on a date with, but you’re too shy to ask him out again directly, you can indirectly imply that you would be thrilled for a segunda cita to happen soon and that you can’t wait to see him again.

10. Pedir ayuda

If you’re not into dating apps such as Tinder and online dating in general, but have trouble finding a boyfriend on your own, there is no shame in asking your social circle for help.

Díselo a tus mejores amigos,Quiero un novioy escucha sus consejos a la hora de encontrar pareja.

Also, it’s not shameful to find a boyfriend through a mutual friend. Just ask your best friends to set you up with some guy he or she knows would suit you the best.

Of course, you don’t have to go out with this man on a cita a ciegas de inmediato. Puedes flirtear con este chico a través de mensajes de texto o incluso pedirle a un amigo que organice un encuentro para los tres antes de ver a este chico en privado.  

Otra posibilidad es pedir ayuda a entrenadores de citas que organizan encuentros para personas que tienen problemas para encontrar a su media naranja.

Estos expertos pueden aconsejarle eficazmente y ayudarle a encontrar su pareja en función de sus cualidades.

11. Presentar un reto

Most men like the chase, at least in the beginning of a relationship. When they’re getting to know you, they want to feel that they have competition and need to win you over from all those other guys trying to have your attention.

That’s why you have to tweak your strategy and present a challenge for a guy in order for him to run after you.

I’m not saying to act like a bitch or never send him a signal that you like him back, but playing a little hard-to-get can bring you much more guys than you think.

Don’t play with men, but don’t act as if they can have you whenever they feel like it either.

Send them body language signals you’re into them, but don’t act as if your only purpose in life is to win their affection.

Flirt with them, but don’t be all desperate for their attention. Show them that you have your options open and that you’ll never beg them to be yours.

12. Tenga claro lo que quiere

Conocer a un chico que te invite a salir es pan comido. Tener un ligue al azar es aún más fácil.

However, what is more difficult in today’s world is finding someone who is dispuestos a comprometerse. Y esto es exactamente lo que quieres.

Tweak your game plan. Be clear about what you’re looking for right from the outset. Don’t hesitate to tell your potential boyfriend that you’re not interested in casi relacionesen aventuras casuales o en acuerdos sin compromiso.

This way, you’ll give him the chance to back out in the beginning and you’ll avoid wasting time on someone who doesn’t want to get serious.

Además, los hombres apreciarán tu sinceridad y el hecho de que tengas claros tus objetivos en la relación.

13. Don’t be too needy

No matter how crazy he is for you, every guy needs his space – this is especially important in the beginning of a relationship.

You might be head over heels for this dude and it’s understandable that you want to spend every second of your free time hanging out with him, but trust me, being too needy will only make him grow tired of you.

It is one thing if you insist on putting a label on your relationship (which is something you should definitely do without hesitation), but it’s another thing entirely if you start acting like the two of you have been together for ages after only a few dates.

Una de las peores cosas que podrías hacer en las etapas iniciales de tu relación es enviar un mensaje de texto a tu novio Quiero un bebé o Quiero casarmeson formas seguras de ahuyentarlo.

Sí, hay muchas mujeres que dicen Quiero que mi novio me pida matrimoniopero esta no es la forma de conseguir que le ponga un anillo.

14. Muéstrale tu lado femenino

You’ve often oí decir a las mujeres, Quiero que mi novio sea más dominante. Quiero sentirme protegida y segura a su lado. Well, if you’re one of these women and you want a real man, it’s time to show guys your gentle, delicate side.

Actúa como una dama, incluso cuando flirtees con un chico. Presta atención a los pequeños detalles de tu aspecto y comportamiento.

Let him feel like a macho man – allow him to spoil you, but don’t ask for too much.

Let him protect you, but don’t make him think you’re an immature brat who can’t handle life on her own.

15. Espere antes de tener relaciones sexuales

Let’s face it, sex is a crucial part of every healthy relationship. Besides being a physical pleasure, it also makes a couple more connected on all levels.

When you first meet a man you’re attracted to, it is natural that you two can’t keep your hands off each other. He’ll probably ask you to come over for some Netflix and chill as soon as you two get a little more comfortable.

However, it’s at this moment where you need to set some boundaries.

Sleeping with a guy right away can give him a wrong impression and can lead your potential relationship to a disaster before it’s even started.

Así que, si quieres que un hombre te tome en serio, lo mejor que puedes hacer es esperar antes de tener relaciones sexuales. Wait until you’re ready; wait until you two make things exclusive

This way, every man will respect you more because he’ll see that you’re a woman who appreciates her body and her feelings.

He’ll see that he can’t get just parts of you – that he has to be in for the entire package if he wants to have you.