4 razones por las que estar con un narcisista puede haberte traumatizado

Todo el mundo admitirá el hecho de que una relación con un gaslighter / narcisista es extremadamente perjudicial y peligroso.

However, everyone talks about the impact it leaves on you while you’re a direct victim of this abuser; the impact it leaves while you’re still involved with him.

Sadly, these consequences don’t end with the end of your toxic relationship. In fact, this experience traumatizes you for life and here is exactly how. 

Asesinato espiritual

A narcissist is not always physically violent. It doesn’t mean that he will actually punch you or leave bruises on your body but he will certainly abusar emocionalmente de ti y mentalmente.

What I’m trying to tell you is that this man won’t kill you in the real sense of that word. Your life won’t end with everything he does to you. However, he might do something even worse; he can make you wish it had. 

After this kind of man is done with you, you feel like you’ve been spiritually murdered and that is one of the worst sensations you’ll ever experience. 

When this kind of man is done with you, you feel dead on the inside. It’s like you’re not living but merely surviving day to day.

What you feel is very similar to depression. You have lost the will to live and you don’t see a light at the end of the tunnel. 

Su sistema de creencias

Una relación con un narcisista destruye tu creencia en la bondad inherente a las personas. Desafía todo lo que creías saber sobre la vida y el mundo. 

Antes de que este hombre horrible desfilara por tu vida, creías de verdad que había algo bueno en todos. 

Aunque las personas hicieran cosas malas, siempre encontrabas una razón para su comportamiento; intentabas comprenderlas y siempre buscabas sus cualidades positivas, aunque no estuvieran a la vista.

However, this toxic romance changed all of this. After having experienced this real-life hell, you didn’t only perder la confianza en el amortambién perdiste la fe en toda la humanidad. 

If the man who swore he’d love you forever could do this much harm to you, what can you expect from others?

If someone you wanted to spend your life next to destroyed it, how can you have any hope that others won’t do the same?

Besides, as much as you try, you can’t seem to find anything good in this guy.

Te llevó mucho tiempo aceptar esta horrible verdad, pero el hecho es que, esencialmente, es una persona malvada sin ninguna empatía ni bondad.

No, he doesn’t hide his good sides; they’re not buried deep inside of him, underneath all the layers he shows to the world.

It’s pretty simple; there is no good in him. So, I guess it is possible that there is no inherent goodness in every human being.  

El impacto perjudicial en tus otras relaciones

When you’ve spent a significant amount of time next to a narcissistic person, he somehow manages to shut you off from the rest of the world.

For a long time, you see him as the only person who matters in your life, the only one whose opinions are important and the only one who knows what’s right from you. 

En consecuencia, todas tus demás relaciones se resienten. Este tipo hace todo lo posible por alejarte de todos tus seres queridos para poder manipularte con más facilidad. 

Al cabo de un tiempo, cuando finalmente pongas fin a tu relación, estas son las personas cuyo apoyo más necesitas.

Nevertheless, whether you like to admit it or not, your relationships are now not the same. Also, you don’t trust them unconditionally anymore even though they have never done you any harm. 

You’ve simply changed and you have become extra careful so you can’t relax in front of anyone. 

This is especially true when it comes to any new, potential romances. As much as you try, you can’t seem to expect anything good from new guys who come into your life.

Usted supone que todos los hombres son iguales y que todas las relaciones acabarán igual. 

Duda de sí mismo

Lo que pasa con la luz de gas, que es casi siempre una gran parte de relaciones narcisistases que te hace cuestionar tu cordura.

La otra persona pone todo su empeño en hacerte parecer loca para poder tener un control más fuerte sobre ti.

After you finally escape this abuse, you know that you aren’t crazy. However, you’re just aware of that on a conscious level.

Por otro lado, siempre hay una vocecita en el fondo de tu cabeza que te dice que debes dudar de ti mismo, que debes cuestionar cada movimiento que haces y cada palabra que dices. 

This shouldn’t come as a surprise since you were exposed to this voice for years.

You had a man by your side who kept telling you that nothing you ever did was good enough so it’s perfectly normal that this left some marks on you. 

The truth is that all of this sounds harsh. However, trust me when I tell you that you’re in no way damaged beyond repair.

Aunque no me creas, al final sanarás. Tu alma rota se reparará y todo esto quedará atrás.

The only thing you have to do is cut this guy off for good, if you haven’t done that already. Put all of your strength into kicking him out of your life, mind and heart.