Guía paso a paso para despertar el instinto de héroe en los hombres
Todos los hombres tienen algo en común: sienten el impulso de proteger a sus seres queridos y cuidar de ellos.
This is called a hero instinct in men: every man’s biological drive to keep his dearest ones safe and sound and his need to earn respect from the rest of the world in the process.
Pero, ¿por qué es importante este instinto de héroe para todos los hombres? ¿Es crucial para una relación feliz?
Y lo más importante: ¿cómo despertar el instinto de héroe en tu hombre?
Well, if you read on, you’ll have all of these questions answered and you’ll find out everything there is to know about hero instinct in men.
¿Qué es el instinto del héroe?
Simply put, the hero instinct is the basic, fundamental emotional need of every man. It’s what takes for him to feel important and essential – especially in his woman’s life and in the circle of his closest friends.
Esta necesidad es lo que le empuja hacia adelante y le hace esforzarse por ser lo mejor que puede ser. La pura verdad es que ningún hombre puede tener una vida con sentido si no se siente necesitado.
Se pone a sí mismo el listón muy alto y se atiene a él. Los hombres se enamoran de mujeres que les hacen mejores, que les hacen esforzarse más y que les hacen merecer su amor.
Every man’s deepest desire is to be the one and only in his woman’s heart.
Cuando lo consigue, le entrega a esa mujer su corazón en bandeja de plata y está ahí para protegerla en los buenos y en los malos momentos. Más aprecias a tu hombrecuanto más te apreciará.
It’s a known fact that this kind of a behavior unlocks this natural instinct inside him. Give him your heart, let him be your rock, and don’t hesitate to vent to him. (premijesteno i dodana poneka rijec ili fraza u paragrafu)
¿Por qué el instinto de héroe es crucial para una relación feliz?
Como mujer, puede que no lo entiendas, pero el instinto de héroe es lo que hace que tu chico se sienta un hombre de verdad. Necesita demostrarse a sí mismo que es capaz de mantenerte y que es lo bastante fuerte como para que confíes en él, pase lo que pase.
La capacidad de una mujer para ser atenta, cariñosa, desinteresada y simplemente estar siempre ahí es una de las cosas más exquisitas de ella.
Las mujeres somos cuidadoras por naturaleza. Queremos ayudar.
You’re no different. You want to fix things and make your man feel needed.
Quieres ser la voz de la razón y un hombro sobre el que llorar para los hombres de tu vida.
You are drawn to those in need because of your intuitive abilities to help when you’re needed most.
You are almost able to read your man’s mind or at least know what’s bugging him.
Pero lo que no ves es que al ser tan desinteresada y dar con tu amor y esfuerzo, niegas a tus hombres sus impulsos primarios y las necesidades con las que todos nacieron: sus instintos de héroe.
You can’t keep a man by giving him everything he thinks he wants. The ultimate way to make him see you’re THE ONE es aprender todo sobre Su obsesión secreta and unlock his hero instinct – the driving force behind all his actions.
You see, when you’re always on top of things and never allow your man to prove to you how worthy and capable he is, you are, in a way, taking away a man’s hero instinct. I understand this may sound a bit perplexing, but think about it.
Utilice ESTA HERRAMIENTA MÁGICA para desbloquear su instinto de héroe y mantenerlo para siempre.
¿Por qué es tan importante para los hombres el instinto de héroe?
Men are taught their whole life to idolize superheroes. Just look at all the Marvel fascination in the past God-knows-how-many years. They dress up as superheroes. When it comes to your man, it’s probably his secret obsession as well.
Los adoran, y de lo único que hablan es de qué superpoder es el mejor que pueden tener. Y cuando trasladas esto a sus vidas reales, lo que realmente quieren es ser un héroe para ti.
They can’t exactly have actual superpowers and spur into action when a villain suddenly decides to destroy their city, but they sure can be the best damn hero to their girl!
Así que cuando les dejas sin nada en lo que ayudarte, y sin ninguna forma de serte útil, se sienten un poco inútiles e innecesarios. Y lo único que quieren los hombres es que los necesiten y los quieran.
La mayoría de las veces, sus circunstancias cotidianas no les hacen sentirse especialmente realizados, por lo que se esfuerzan por encontrar una chica que va a dejar que sean su propio héroe personal de vez en cuando.
In a way, this is a really sweet notion, and you can’t really blame your guy for feeling this way, can you?
Ser tu propio héroe vs. Desencadenar el instinto heroico en los hombres
Now, I know you’re probably more than capable of being your own hero. You are fuerte y rudo.
Pero ¿cuántas veces has oído que los hombres temen a las mujeres independientes? Don’t get me wrong: I’m not saying that you should lose your strength just for your guy to feel better.
Nevertheless, you can’t tener una relación sana if he gets the impression that you don’t need him for anything. That’s exactly the key of this concept: your guy’s necessity to be needed. To be exact, I’m talking about his desire to become indispensable.
Cada coach relacional will tell you the same: a man who is needed by his woman equals a happy man. Yes, it’s as simple as that.
You’ve never felt that need for a man to complete you, and that is admirable. Good on you.
Eres amable. Tienes mucho que ofrecer, y lo último que esperarías en tu vida es que viniera un héroe y te arrasara.
And that’s the whole point. You don’t necesita pero puedes dejar que tu hombre lo haga por ti de vez en cuando.
You’re good on your own. But your man needs to have a purpose in your life as well, don’t you agree?
He needs to know that you do need him to some extent, otherwise, what’s the point? He needs to feel like he’s the one you’ll call when you’re in need, without thinking twice.
Cuando cedas un poco el control, comprenderás lo increíble que es tener tu propio héroe que te estar allí siempre que lo necesites.
He knows you can do it on your own. All he needs is to show you that you don’t tienen que hacerlo todo tú solo y dispersarte tanto.
He’s got you!
¿Cómo desencadenar el instinto de héroe en un hombre?
In short, if you want to trigger your man’s hero instinct, from time to time, you have to act like a damsel in distress. You know the drill: you’re the Princess in danger and he is the Prince Charming who comes to your rescue.
Yes, it’s the tale as old as time. But trust me: it never goes out of style.
Pídele ayuda con cosas cotidianas
If you want to learn how to trigger the hero instinct in your man, start with small things. You don’t want him to see right through your intentions.
La mejor manera de empezar es pedirle ayuda con las pequeñas cosas cotidianas y aleatorias.
I’m sure you can take care of your basic needs, and you don’t need a man to do stuff for you.
But the next time your computer starts acting up, think about giving him a call and asking if maybe he’s got an idea what’s up with it. Before you google the solution or call tech support, give your man an opportunity to be your own personal Superman and to resolve your problem.
Ask him for advice because, who knows, maybe he’s had similar issues recently.
Even if he’s not a computer whiz, he may remember his own experience with the same issue.
If your car won’t start, go to him for help. That’s going to make him feel needed and manly (and what guy doesn’t like to feel manly, let’s be honest…)
If you can’t open a jar of pickles, there’s your excuse to give your man a chance of being a real hero. If he’s taller than you, ask him for help if you can’t reach something on the top shelf.
Todos estos son realmente pequeños gestos and simple ways to make him feel better but they all do the trick. Besides, he’ll be none the wiser as to why you’re asking him to help you with it.
And then offer a big smile of appreciation for his kind assistance. And remember, it’s always those little things that go a long way! In fact, every relationship expert will tell you the same: this los cimientos de una relación duradera.
Simplemente disfruta y aprecia su compañía
Según la mayoría de los consejos sobre relaciones, los hombres son criaturas bastante simples. Enamorar a un hombre y mantenerlo a tu lado es realmente pan comido.
For starters, it will be enough to show your man that you’re happy by his side. I’m not talking about being happy on your anniversary or when you get a unique Valentine’s day card.
I’m talking about enjoying and appreciating his company on regular days. About being content just for having a chance of doing some random things with him, such as taking a walk in the park, cuddling or watching TV.
Los chicos aman a las chicas que pueda simplemente relajarse con ellos en su casa, sin necesidad de hablar siempre de cosas serias o hacer todo tipo de cosas todo el tiempo. ¡Simplemente disfruta de su compañía y de las cosas que le gusta hacer!
So what if his place isn’t the neatest place you’ve ever been to? He’s a guy!
As long as it’s not a complete pigsty, let him enjoy his messy apartment. Men don’t have the need to clean 24/7 as most girls do, and that’s totally fine.
Déjale disfrutar de su equipo de fútbol fantasía sin regañarle todo el rato. Si quiere ver a los Knicks, ¡ve el partido con él!
Don’t you think he’d be happy que su novia se interese por las cosas que a él le gustan?
Don’t force him to always do stuff you want to do. Sometimes, it’s necessary to let your man just be a man, and dedicate time to things he’s passionate about.
Most importantly: don’t grumble all the time. It’s one thing to call him out on his actions when you’re really bothered by something. But it’s completely different to spend all of your time criticizing him and every little thing he does.
It’s not just about the things you say- your body language matters as well. You’ll go nowhere if you keep on giving him a nasty look and put a grumpy face on.
Besides, whatever you do, don’t try controlling your guy’s every move or word.
He doesn’t have a problem with you getting your hair done or going for mani-pedis all the time, so why shouldn’t he enjoy his sports and have a few beers?
Grab one yourself, get cozy on the couch, and do stuff he likes to do. He’s going to feel appreciated and like a total man!
Desafíale y deja que se gane tu respeto
¿Qué es lo que más les gusta a los héroes? Un desafío. Una oportunidad de demostrar su valía, hacer el bien y servir a quien necesite su ayuda.
So indulge your man, and let him be your hero by making him earn your respect. Don’t make things too easy for him because if you do, he’ll realize that you’re manipulating him. Just like that, his hero instinct will be lost.
So, in order to avoid this, don’t just give him your love and respect on a silver platter. Haz que se lo gane. Así, disfrutará más profundamente.
Créeme: los hombres son así: si consiguen todo lo que quieren en un abrir y cerrar de ojos, pierden interés muy pronto.
Lo que tu hombre anhela es tu amor y tu tiempo.
Pero darle un reto que demuestre he’s the man for you is going to make it all feel that much more satisfying for him… and perhaps even for you.
Sit back, relax, and make him work for it- that’s how you’ll build a successful and long-lasting relationship. Provide him with opportunities to prove he’s the hero you want in your life.
Que siga luchando por ti
El problema en la mayoría de las relaciones es que un tipo lucha por ti in the beginning. But the moment you become his girlfriend and the moment you open up to him- he’s done.
He’s won you over and he thinks his job is over. The worst part is that most women let their men get away with that, instead of showing them that they need to keep on fighting.
Si quieres evitar que esto le ocurra a tu relación, haz que tu hombre se gane tu admiración y disfruta viendo cómo hace todo lo posible sólo por ti.
It doesn’t matter how long you two have been together, let him keep on winning you over, and it’s guaranteed you will make him feel emotionally fulfilled.
Y cuando una mujer sabe satisfacer la necesidad emocional de su hombre, no hay nada más que pedir.
Ese es el máximo nivel de compromiso. Esto colmará su corazón (así como la suya), and there won’t be a thing he wouldn’t do for you.
La gratitud es el camino a su corazón
You won’t awaken a hero instinct in men if you just give them the opportunity to prove their masculinity. You also have to show them that you notice all the effort they’re putting into protecting you.
Tu novio tiene que saber que you appreciate everything he’s doing for you and for your relationship. He has to be aware that you see him as a real hero and most importantly, that you’re thankful for the way he acts.
Don’t take anything he does for granted. Even if he just changes a flat tire, show your gratitude.
I’m not saying that you should prepare him a candlelight dinner just because he changed the lightbulb or something like that. A simple thank you and a huge smile that shows you really mean it will be more than enough.
Let’s not forget about a kiss o un abrazo un poco más fuerte de lo habitual. A todos los hombres les gusta el afecto físico y tu chico no es una excepción.
Also, a compliment will do the trick as well. For example, when he is fixing something around the house, you can tell him that you can’t take your eyes off him or that he’s the best-looking handyman you’ve ever seen- things like that will melt his heart.
Créeme: en muchas ocasiones, los hombres son como niños pequeños. Lo admitan o no, florecen cada vez que reciben un aplauso.
But please be careful because too much gratitude can create a counterproductive effect. You don’t want him to get the impression that he’s moved mountains for your sake just because he brought your grocery bags home.
This way, you’re getting at risk of bajando el listón. If you’re so thankful for those little things, why would he bother doing something bigger?
Besides, always have in mind that he is not stupid. You won’t achieve anything if you go over the top and he realizes that you’re doing all of this just to make him feel better.
Either way, balance is the key. Find a way to make him realize that you’re thankful but be a little sneaky about it at the same time.
Elogiarle delante de los demás
I know what you’re about to say. A mature man doesn’t give a damn about what others think of him. Yes, that’s how things should roll.
But whether we like it or not, all of us enjoy being praised- especially when it’s by the person we deeply care about.
Por lo tanto, si desea captivate your man’s heart, the best way to do it is through celebrating his accomplishments in front of others. Make sure you talk about his good qualities when you’re in the company of family and friends.
Remember that his male friends are the most important link here. When you as his girlfriend talk about how capable your man is, you’re giving him the position of the leader of the pack.
You don’t have to see it right away but trust me when I tell you that they’ll admire him more if you compliment him. He’ll earn their respect and they’ll start seeing him as an Macho alfa.
Lo peor que puedes hacer a un hombre es humillarlo de cualquier forma delante de los demás. Aunque no estés de acuerdo con tu hombre, díselo en privado.
Avoid any type of arguments when you two are not alone. Don’t diminish his worth and don’t do your best to prove him wrong.
Don’t get me wrong: this is not me telling you to nod your head on everything he has to say. I’m just asking you not to take someone else’s side if he’s in the middle of an argument, not to contradict his every word and not to pick unnecessary fights when you’re in company.
Even if he’s not the best man in the world and even if your love life isn’t all that flawless, don’t let others see it. Instead, have the world think that he is your own personal Superman.
After all, you chose him to be your life partner. Therefore, by praising him and your relationship, you’re also praising yourself.
Demuestra tu apoyo infinito
The last but definitely not the least important thing is this: A man has to be his own hero before he becomes yours. Therefore, if you’re wondering how to trigger a man’s hero instinct, have in mind that his self-esteem is the first thing you have to work on here.
It won’t be enough for him to feel like the best boyfriend in the world only. This guy has to be aware of all of his good qualities and he has to feel like the best man in the world.
A way to a man’s heart and mind is by pushing him forward. Of course, you’re allowed to have an opinion of your own and you should say it if you think he’s making a mistake.
Nevertheless, instead of focusing on criticism, do your best to give him your endless support. Show this man that you got his back and that you’re his number one fan.
If you believe in him, he’ll start believing in himself too. And when you get that, you’ll have yourself a mature man for the rest of your life.
¿Qué son las 12 palabras de El Instinto del Héroe?
El coach sentimental James Bauer, que acuñó el término instinto de héroe, ideó un texto de 12 palabras que desencadena el instinto de héroe en los hombres.
En su libro Su obsesión secreta, James habla de su amiga Rachel y su novio Mike. Los presenta como el mejor ejemplo de lo importante que es el instinto de héroe para una relación sana.
Basically, James taught Rachel how to awake a man’s hero instinct and this is how he did it.
When Rachel asked for James’ help regarding her relationship problems with Mike, James resolved everything in a blink of an eye. He advised Rached to send Mike a 12-word text that will turn the tables in her favor.
And that’s exactly what happened- that single text managed to activate Mike’s hero instinct and changed their relationship for good.
What does that mean for you? Well, it is proof that it’s possible to awaken every guy’s inner hero- if you just use the right words.
Aquí está la lista de las frases que no sólo harán eso, sino que también animarán, tranquilizarán y enseña a tu hombre a tratarte mejor en el futuro.
1. Hoy tenías muy buen aspecto mientras cambiaba mi rueda pinchada. Me entraron ganas de saltar sobre ti allí mismo, en medio de la calle.
2. You’re my Prince Charming and my own personal hero.
3. ¿Qué más podría querer una chica al lado de un hombre como tú?
4. Could you please help me with this lightbulb? I’ve been struggling to change it.
5. Gracias, mi amor. Nunca lo habría logrado sin ti.
6. Never mind you didn’t succeed. It matters that you tried and I’m sure that next time, you’ll rock it!
7. You’re irreplaceable! I don’t know what I would do without you in my life.
8. Hey, big man! I’m your biggest fan.
9. Estaría totalmente perdido sin ti.
10. You’re the toughest guy I’ve ever known.
11. Oye, me vendría muy bien tu consejo en este caso.
12. You know I value your opinion over everyone’s.
What Is A Man’s Infatuation Instinct?
Once you manage to wake up a man’s infatuation instinct, este tipo solo tiene ojos para ti. Le resulta imposible desarrollar sentimientos románticos por cualquier otra mujer del mundo.
All of a sudden, he sees that you’re the only one for him. Every doubt he might have had disappears and he’s ready to do whatever it takes just to make you his.
Olvídese del miedo al compromiso most men deal with. Forget about him not being sure if you’re the one.
When this guy’s infatuation instinct triggers, you can be certain that you’re the only woman he could ever love. It means that you’ve succeeded- he’s all yours and he’s not going anywhere.
¿Qué decirle a un hombre para que te desee?
La mejor manera posible de get your man’s attention is through compliments on his strength, intelligence and let’s not forget humour. Don’t be a kiss-up (because he’ll read right through you and he’ll lose interest in no time) but make sure he knows how much he fascinates you.
Según James Bauer (coach de citas, psicólogo especializado en relaciones y autor de un libro de citas superventas Su obsesión secreta), a man who is in a relationship where his hero instinct isn’t triggered is less likely to stay in that relationship.
So if you know how to trigger a man’s hero instinct with the help of useful hero instinct phrases (you can find out if they work for you in Su obsesión secreta review) you’ll figure out exactly what your man wants and needs from you. This will result in many perks for both him and you!
- Puede utilizar mensajes de texto para hacerle saber las mil y una maneras en que te inspira y enriquece tu vida a diario.
- Alcanzarás niveles increíbles de influencia cuando aprendas a hablar su lenguaje del deseo. Habla claro y dile lo que necesita oír.
- Your relationship will thrive once your man’s needs to protect and love you are fulfilled because it will make you both feel more comfortable and at ease with each other.
- Sus necesidades emocionales estarán cubiertas y ambos se sentirán satisfechos con su papel en la relación.
- As independent and strong as you are, it is always comforting knowing your man’s got your back, and then some.
Para concluir
Now that you’ve learned how to trigger the hero instinct in men, all the power is in your hands. Believe me when I tell you that this is the secret not many women know of, so use it wisely.
Nevertheless, this doesn’t mean that you must stop being a mujer fuerte e independiente just because you’re letting your man be your hero.
See this as the fulfilment of your man’s emotional needs- nothing else. It might sound a little manipulative but trust me- it’s for his own good.
Aplique estos métodos, siéntese, relájese y observe que tu relación prospere!
No sólo eso: este tutorial también puede resultarte útil a la hora de analizar tus rupturas y relaciones anteriores.
Don’t get me wrong: I’m not saying that you want your ex-boyfriend back. Still, at the end of the day, this can certainly help you not to repeat some old mistakes in your new relationships.
