3 señales de que no eres más que su chica de rebote

Si tu novio ha salido recientemente de una relación duradera, es perfectamente normal que te preguntes si las cosas han terminado realmente entre los dos.

You know that most people take time to get over a relationship and to find someone else and that scares you. You don’t know if your boyfriend has given himself enough time to grieve his past relationship and to process the break-up before he met you.

On the other hand, the relationship between the two of you is going great, so you simply don’t know what to think. Has he really gotten over his past relationship or is he just faking that he’s moved on con su vida?

¿Te está utilizando para superarla y ponerla celosa o de verdad está preparado para algo serio? Estas son todas las preguntas que te rondan por la cabeza, pero las respuestas no aparecen por ningún lado.

Así que, si tienes dudas sobre si sirves sólo como chica de rebote a tu novio, aquí tienes 3 señales claras de que es así.

1. Su ex novia sigue formando parte de su vida

It is perfectly normal for an ex-couple to stay in friendly relations and it’s the same with your boyfriend and his ex-girlfriend. The fact that they’ve stayed on good terms doesn’t have to mean anything.

But it’s one thing if they are polite to each other when they accidentally meet and another if they call each other for some reason. If she still has an active role in his life, it is quite likely that things between the two of them are not quite over.

If your boyfriend still hangs out with his ex or with her friends and family on a regular basis, it is possible that he’s still not ready to move on with his life and that he wants to stay in hers, one way or another.

You can’t expect him to pretend like she and everyone around her were never a part of his life but if he acts like the two of them never ended things, it should ring alarm bells for you.

Otra cosa que puede servirte como bandera roja es el hecho de que se cruce constantemente con su ex novia.

Is it really a coincidence, due to the similar habits they developed while they were in a relationship, or maybe he has an urge to see her but doesn’t want to admit it, so he makes it all look like a coincidence?

2. Habla de ella todo el tiempo

Si tu pareja ha mantenido una relación duradera con alguien, tienes que aceptar que esa persona fue una parte importante de su vida.

Therefore, you shouldn’t be bothered if he mentions her from time to time, when she is relevant to some event from his past which he wants to share with you. But it doesn’t mean that he ought to talk about her all the time.

Si él sigue mencionando a su ex novia sin ninguna razón en absoluto, que puede ser una de las señales que usted está atascado en un relación de rebote malsana. This can mean that he probably thinks about her all the time and can’t help but mention her.

Si constantemente sientes que te compara con ella y si sientes que necesitas competir con los fantasmas de su pasado, no eres más que su chica de rebote, sin duda.

3. Está demasiado ansioso por mostrarte en público

Cuando conoces a un chico que quiere que vuestra relación sea lo más pública posible, sueles tomártelo como una gran señal. Piensas que es locamente enamorado de ti y que está orgulloso de tener una novia así y que quiere que todos los que le rodean también lo sepan.

But this isn’t always such a good sign. Every relationship has its own pace and if your boyfriend wants to move things too fast, you need to ask yourself what he is trying to prove and to whom.

He’s been introducing you to all of his friends and family and he keeps posting pictures of the two of you all over social media but is it possible that he is only trying to make his ex-girlfriend jealous? Does he invest more energy in making your relationship look good from the outside rather than improving it for real?

If this is the case, it is likely that your boyfriend just wants his ex-girlfriend’s attention. He doesn’t choose which ways to get it and he is ready to do whatever it takes just so she finds out that he is completely over her.

La cruda verdad es que puede que sólo seas su herramienta para restregarle su nueva felicidad por la cara.