5 maneras de evitar una relación condenada al fracaso

Sería estupendo que existiera una forma de huir de esas personas que no están destinadas a serlo desde el principio.

That there would exist a possibility of us knowing when things won’t work out antes de nos enamoramos de la otra persona de todo corazón y antes de es demasiado tarde.

Well, even though nobody can give you a recipe which guarantees that you’ll never have your heart broken or that you’ll never make the wrong choice, there are some ways that can help you avoid getting into a relationship without a future.

1. Deja de esperar que los demás cambien por ti

The first thing you need to admit to yourself if you want to save yourself from a lot of unnecessary relationship headaches is that you won’t like everything about the guy you’re into.

Siempre tendrá defectos que tendrás que aceptar como parte de él.

Actually, to be more precise—when you first meet a guy, you have to be honest with yourself: can you accept the real him or are you hoping to modify the parts you don’t like?

Recuerda que, aunque tu pareja y tú lleguéis a un acuerdo sobre muchas cosas, la esencia de su personalidad seguirá siendo la misma.

Así que si esperas que tu amor puede cambiar a un hombre who doesn’t want to do it himself, think again because that can never work.

2. Y dejar de cambiar por culpa de los demás

The same goes for your personality, as well. If you want to avoid getting into a relationship which is doomed to fail, you have to stop pretending to be someone you’re not.

The last thing you should allow is for some douchebag to mold you his way and to manipulate you into thinking that you’re not enough just the way you are.

Sooner or later, all of this acting will tire you, and you’ll lose yourself in the process.

Besides, you want a guy to fall in love with the real you and not some imaginary person that doesn’t even exist.

Por lo tanto, en lugar de esforzarte por gustar a los demás, empieza a quererte a ti mismo antes de esperar que lo hagan los demás.

Te aseguro que una relación sana contigo mismo es la base de una relación sana con todos los demás, incluidas tus parejas sentimentales.

3. Aprende de tus relaciones anteriores

Una de las reglas de oro de las citas es deshacerse de todo el equipaje emocional del pasado antes de lanzarse a una nueva relación.

However, this doesn’t mean that you should put aside or completely forget all the harsh but valuable lessons your relationships taught you.

Everything you’ve been through happened for a reason, and now is the time to take advantage of all the pain you’ve experienced.

Your previous relationships helped you realize what you want or don’t want.

Te han ayudado a ver con lo que nunca debes conformarte y lo que te mereces. Ahora es el momento de poner en práctica esos conocimientos.

4. Don’t lower your standards

Don’t get me wrong—I’m not saying that you should be too picky when it comes to men.

I’m not telling you to wait for a Prince Charming who will magically appear in your life.  

The truth is that there is no such thing as perfection, and you shouldn’t look for it either.

However, this doesn’t mean that you should ever lower your standards.

Always be aware of what you want and need, and don’t let anyone convince you that you’re asking for too much.

Remember—it’s always better to remain single until the right guy comes along then enter new relationships which don’t have any chance of surviving.

5. Sea sincero sobre sus expectativas

Otra cosa que puede ayudarte a evitar quedarte atrapado en un relación condenada al fracaso es ser honesto sobre lo que aportas a la relación, así como sobre lo que quieres de ella.

Y lo mismo puede decirse de su pareja.

Hablen de sus planes y expectativas de futuro.

See if you’re compatible and if you can meet each other halfway. Besides love, this is a recipe for success.