5 razones por las que las mujeres independientes atraen a hombres emocionalmente poco disponibles
Siempre es la misma historia. Una mujer hermosa y fuerte se enamora de un hombre que le da todo menos lo más importante: amor.
She doesn’t need flowers, she doesn’t need fancy things. All she needs is your attention and someone to love her.
La historia termina en una ruptura inmediata o en el intento de prolongar algo que está condenado al fracaso.
En cualquier caso, el desengaño es definitivo. La mujer acabará llorando y tratando de recomponerse.
She’ll be angry with herself for falling for the tricks of an hombre emocionalmente no disponible.
To all those who are strong and in a happily ever after relationship, this is just BS. They can’t accept that it’s possible for such a man to choose such a woman.
Pero la verdad es, hombres emocionalmente inaccesibles don’t choose strong women—strong women choose them.
¿Por qué?
1. Los ven como convenientes
Cuando eligen hombres emocionalmente inaccesibles, los eligen por una razón.
And that is that as long as they are with them, they can rest assured that these men won’t question their authority.
They won’t do anything to compromise their power. These men don’t have the guts to do it.
They won’t stand up to them and they won’t question their decisions. They will go with the flow every time.
Although this seems like an upside, it’s not. Over time, although their authority is unquestionable, these women wish for their emotionally unavailable men to change.
Quieren que muestren más afecto, que demuestren que les importan.
Esto no suele ocurrir nunca, por lo que siempre se repite la misma historia con dos posibles resultados.
2. Piensan que estos hombres no son arriesgados
Significa que están a salvo con ellos. No les harán daño, son demasiado fuertes para eso.
But what they don’t see is that love sneaks up on them, blinds them and they end up getting hurt either way.
Independent women promise themselves they won’t become the girl who is waiting by the phone, waiting for him to call her back.
They promise themselves they won’t wait around or suffer for anyone.
So they tend not to get too close to anyone. They’ve all done this in the past and it didn’t end well. It ended with them getting terribly hurt.
3. Aunque en el fondo quieran seguridad emocional
Ninguno de ellos lo admite porque parece débil. No hay nada de débil en querer ser amado.
Pero, por lo general, les hace sentirse vulnerables y, por tanto, expuestos a que les hagan daño.
En el fondo, las mujeres fuertes realmente quieren y necesitan compasión y amor incondicional, pero eligen hombres emocionalmente inaccesibles, hombres distantes e incapaces de mostrar lo que sienten porque les parece más seguro.
It seems like they aren’t getting hurt.
4. Saben que los hombres emocionalmente no disponibles mantendrán las distancias
Strong women are so good at pretending everything is okay. They will put on their ‘I don’t give a shit’ face and keep calm when they are on the verge of breaking down.
Construyen muros emocionales a su alrededor para protegerse.
They treat this man the same way. They always have a serious face on because that way the man won’t get close to her. He will keep his distance.
Y para mantener viva la relación, de vez en cuando sonríen o tienen una cita. Sólo para mantener la relación.
5. Los eligen porque es más fácil
Valoran su capacidad para tenerlo todo bajo control. Y si la soledad es el precio a pagar, sellarán el trato.
They choose these men because they know they won’t get emotionally involved and they won’t question their abilities or their authority.
No hay nada peor para una mujer fuerte que comprometerse, dejar que su pareja vea su lado vulnerable y la toma de decisiones mutuas.
The only people they trust is themselves. So the ideal choice for a relationship is a man who won’t get involved too much. Because he doesn’t care.
Sometimes, the heart makes its own decisions and their mind gets overwhelmed with questions like: “What if he hurts me?”, “What if I let him love me and he doesn’t know how?”, “what if he tries to manipulate me?”
Se cuestionarán a sí mismos, pero al final nunca se rendirán. Nunca van a permitir que nadie ponga en peligro su libertad o su independencia.
Underneath it all, they are so scared to lose what it took them so long to build. That’s why women choose emotionally unavailable men. Because they choose to.
