40 señales de que ya no te quiere (ni te desea)

¿Tienes la sensación de que tu relación se está deteriorando y necesitas empezar a buscar las señales que él doesn’t te quiero más? Well, you’ve come to the right place!

Men won’t ever tell you they don’t love you right to your face, especially if they still have some feelings for you.

Pero, lo que una vez fue un relación sana, a relación seria, is facing problems for the first time, and it’s probably about to fail.

If you want to know for certain what’s happening, read on and get your answers.

40 Clear Signs He Doesn’t Love You Anymore

It’s not easy to recognize the signs he doesn’t love you anymore, especially because we often refuse to admit to ourselves that it’s actually happening.

Pero ha llegado la hora de la verdad.

Para saber si realmente se acerca una ruptura, fíjate en estas señales:

1. Sientes que algo no va bien

¿Quién lo sabe mejor que tu propia intuición? If your mind is picking up signs that he doesn’t love you anymore, then you should trust it.

No todo se puede explicar, pero nunca te equivocas si sientes que la relación ha cambiado.

Yes, he might be having a hard time, but if that has been going on for very long, it’s no wonder you are worried.

Aligera tu pesado corazón por comunicarse con él. La comunicación siempre es clave.

Sin embargo, si ves que nada ha cambiado, eso te dice todo lo que necesitas saber.

2. You can’t recognize the person he has become

Your man used to be so sweet and loving. You shared a closeness not easily encountered, but somehow, it has suddenly vanished… What does it mean?

Well, if it has been bothering you for longer than you can remember, then you can bet that it’s a warning sign.

El cambio es normal, y bienvenido. Pero.., se supone que crecéis juntos, no separados.

So, if you can no longer recognize the person in front of you, that’s your cue.

3. Nunca se fija en tu aspecto

¿Solía fijarse en cada pequeña cosa sobre tu aspecto, pero ahora, ¿apenas te mira? ¿Ha dejado de hacerte cumplidos?

If so, that’s an obvious sign he doesn’t want to be with you anymore porque un hombre que te adora nunca dejará que se menosprecie ninguna parte de ti.

I know it’s hard to admit it to yourself, but deep down, you are aware that it’s time to suelta…

4. He doesn’t respect your boundaries

Límites son la base de toda relación sana, y si quieres que esa relación tenga éxito, tienes que respetar los límites que ponga tu pareja.

Por ejemplo, si tu pareja habla de tus asuntos personales fuera de la relación con otra persona (a tus espaldas), eso es claramente una violación de tus límites, y un aventura emocional en eso.

You want to keep things private… just between the two of you, which is a perfectly normal thing to expect from the person you love.

5. He makes you feel like you’re not good enough

Nada de lo que hagas será suficiente para él. Por lo general, este tipo de comportamiento se asocia más a menudo con y se asigna a las personas con tendencias narcisistas.

Narcissists love to make their victims feel inferior and incapable. They feed off their victim’s inseguridades.

What they do is give you a ‘task’ and persuade you that it will make them happy and satisfied.

Naturalmente, quieres que se sientan así porque les quieres, así que das lo mejor de ti.

Once you do what he asked you to do, he will say it’s wrong and you could have done it better.

You can never satisfy a man like that because he will never give you credit. In other words, he doesn’t love you… he uses you for something else.

6. Nunca se pone celoso

No existen los hombres que nunca se ponen celosos. Pueden fingir que no son celosos, pero créeme, todos y cada uno de ellos tienen esa pizca de posesividad sobre ti escondida en su interior.

It’s just a matter of how well they are hiding it. Yet again, even if they are ocultando sus celosSi prestas un poco más de atención a su comportamiento, te darás cuenta de ello.

So, logically, after careful observation, you’ll notice if he’s not showing any sign of jealousy at all. Well, that is really a bad sign.

If your man has no problem with you hanging with guys all the time or going out with your girlfriends without even mentioning where, then you should seriously start thinking about the option which you won’t like at all.

A guy who loves a woman will always be a bit scared that someone will take her away from him. If he’s not, then maybe he wants someone to snatch you from him.

7. He doesn’t flirt with you anymore

No boyfriend will ever stop giving you compliments, even if you’re in a long-term relationship.

La razón es que siempre te encontrará atractiva y guapa porque te quiere.

A normal boyfriend will stop you and tell you that you look like a princess today… he will use every opportunity to make you feel special and loved.

Sadly, a man who doesn’t love you anymore won’t give you the time of day.

He will stop noticing how cute and beautiful you are because you’re not working for him anymore… because he doesn’t ya no te quiero.

Slowly, you’ll become invisible.

8. Te aleja de tus amigos y familiares

This is classic abusive behavior. The type of man who wants to isolate you from everyone else is especially dangerous. He wants you for himself, and he doesn’t want to share.

That possessive behavior is something that a man cannot control, and it’s something that will slowly destroy you.

Juega convenciéndote de que te alejes de tus amigos y de tu familia porque él es todo lo que necesitas.

That is not love… that is possessiveness. He is looking at you like a prize he must have. Therefore, there is zero trust and respect in that relationship.

9. Te ignora

It’s like you don’t exist anymore. He completely begins to live a life of his own. You start to think nunca te quiso.

Before, anything he or you did was a mutual decision, and now you don’t even know that he’s planning on doing anything.

When you are around, he gets all weird, and he pretends he’s alone.

Even if he needs something like: “Did you iron my shirt?”, he won’t ask you. He’ll go and find it, and if it’s not ironed, he will do it himself.

10. Falta de comunicación

One of the biggest signs he doesn’t love you anymore is falta de comunicación. Esto no es como ignorarte.

Esto es mucho más serio y a un nivel más profundo.

Cuando pierda el interés por ti, cortará contigo. Perderá la necesidad de comunicarse contigo de cualquier manera.

Whether it’s lenguaje corporal comunicación, verbal, or just eye contact — he will break off all of these.

Then, it’s time for you to realize it’s over.

There’s no point in trying when you can’t even talk properly. There is no point in prolonging this already momento difícil.

11. Te evita

¿Ocurre que, de algún modo, no podéis encontraros aunque viváis en el mismo piso?

That is not a coincidence. He has learned your daily routines and your schedule by now, and he knows when you’re coming home.

Por lo tanto, se asegura de que no está allí cuando llegas a casa. Cuando un hombre deja de quererte, intentará evitarte para que te des cuenta de que quiere dejarte.

Spending time together will be something you’ll rarely experience. All in all, this is a very bad sign and you should take it seriously.

12. He’s not involved in your life

Quizá solíais hacer cosas juntos, pero ya no. De repente ha abandonado todo lo que te interesa.

He hates your hobbies all of a sudden, and he thinks they are irrelevant. If he doesn’t respect your interests, that means he thinks you are irrelevant.

También abandonó a tus amigos. Cuando vuestra relación era sana, le encantaba pasar tiempo contigo y con tus amigos.

Ahora, cada vez que le invitas a salir, sola o con tus amigos, te rechaza. Literalmente está rompiendo todos los lazos que tiene contigo.

13. Es grosero

He is harsh with his words in private and in public. I mean he really doesn’t choose what he’s going to say.

It’s not even that he doesn’t care about you at all. Maybe he’s just too big of a coward to admit he doesn’t love you anymore.

So, he’s using his words and rude behavior to let you know he wants out.

If you notice that he’s acting like this and is using some ‘smart’ comments every time you say or do something, either confront him or take this as a gran bandera roja y marcharme.

14. Te humilla

¿Sientes que siempre encuentra la manera de menospreciarte? Incluso cuando estás con amigos o familiares, intenta humillarte haciendo bromas a tu costa..

This humiliating behavior has become kind of his thing lately. He started by saying something offensive once in a while, so okay… you think to yourself that maybe something is bothering him, and you let it slide.

Lamentablemente, últimamente se comporta como un completo imbécil. De hecho, you can’t even remember the última vez te trató con respeto.

Most people would ignore this kind of behavior due to their denial, especially if he’s prone to cracking jokes, but you just know it’s something more than a joke — it’s personal.

15. He’s secretive

See if this scenario rings any bells: he gets ready, takes a peek at his phone, and smiles… or someone calls him, and he goes to the other room to answer.

Moments later, he’s at the door grabbing the doorknob, leaving you wondering where he’s going, and with whom.

Esto no está bien. Si elegís vivir juntos, tenéis que compartirlo todo. Tienes que estar en esa relación a tiempo completo.

Créeme, esta es una gran señal ha perdido interés.

If he doesn’t feel the need to tell you where he’s going just so you won’t worry about where he is, then he has really stopped caring about you.

El tiempo que pasó contigo y los sentimientos que sintió por ti ya forman parte del pasado.

16. Te miente

¿Puede ser peor? No hace falta escribir nada más sobre la mentira.

It’s as simple as this — if he hides things from you, he doesn’t respect you or your relationship, and he is probably finding a way to tell you that.

He doesn’t want to spend time with you anymore, so he makes excuses every time you call him.

Or, if he’s with you, he’ll lie his way out to go and meet someone he actually likes.

It’s just that he lacks the courage to tell you the truth, so miente.

Eventually, you’re going to get fed up with his behavior and leave. That’s what he wanted from the start, but didn’t have the guts to do it himself.

17. Esconde su teléfono

If he’s texting someone and you are sitting right next to him, he’ll probably move his phone screen in another direction so you can’t see it.

And, even if you try to invade his privacy a little and try to get your hands on his phone, it’s impossible.

Se asegurará de que nunca lo encuentres porque estará a su lado todo el tiempo.

This is definitely a cheating alert. Who knows, maybe he’s even tener una aventura if he’s on the phone all the time, but consider even a long distance affair. Everything’s possible.

18. He’s hot ’n’ cold

One moment… he is all into you, ready to give you the world, and the next… he acts like you don’t even exist.

Esto ocurre porque no es una máquina sin emociones a pesar de lo que pienses de él. Le quedan sentimientos por ti.

It’s not easy to simply erase someone’s existence and involvement in your life up to the moment you decide to walk away.

He’s probably still struggling with the idea of whether he is going to leave you or not. That’s why he’s acting hot ‘n’ cold.

But, nevertheless, if he acts this way, it’s only a matter of time before he’s going to leave you.

19. Se enfada con facilidad

Se enfada por cualquier cosa. Su nivel de tolerancia disminuye cada día más y su mecha se acorta.

Lo que una vez fue una gran relación se está convirtiendo poco a poco en una película de terror.

Se impacientará cada vez más contigo de un día para otro.

Conseguirá explosivamente enfadadote gritará sin motivo y armará un escándalo de la nada.

In other words, he’s screaming he wants out! Don’t let this behavior surprise you, and don’t think it’s happening to you exclusively.

Muchos hombres se enamoran y aman a su pareja hasta la luna.

Pero de repente, por alguna razón, se distancian y hacen trucos como éste para apartarte de su vida.

20. There is no ‘I love you’

You stopped being ridiculously cute. But, not just that… you stopped saying things and acting as lovers do. He stopped telling you he loves you.

Incluso eso no es gran cosa porque la gente dice que las acciones hablan más que las palabras, pero en tu caso, las acciones junto con las palabras se fueron hace mucho tiempo. Entre todo lo demás, ¡tu vida sexual es bastante inexistente!

21. Deja de hacerte feliz

Ha dejado de hacer cosas por ti. Todas esas cositas bonitas que te gustaban, que te hacían sentir especial, que te hacían sentir que eras suya y sólo suya, han desaparecido.

He’s not even trying anymore. Dejó de importarle en conjunto.

Cuando esta indiferencia total entra en una relación, significa que la relación está con respiración asistida.

22. Te compara con otras mujeres

Te compara con cualquier mujer que ve por la calle, diciendo que deberías parecerte más a ella, que deberías vestirte como ella o cambiarte el peinado.

También te compara con su exy esa es la parte que más duele.

Sometimes, during a casual conversation, he will mention her in a positive light — this way, giving you hints that you should follow her example.

Quiero decir, ¿por qué diablos tiene que traer a su antigua novia en su relación en el primer puesto? Eso es ser cruel.

23. Nunca se disculpa

Aunque se equivoque, nunca te pedirá disculpas, mientras que, por otro lado, cuando metes la pata y hieres sus sentimientos, quiere una disculpa cuanto antes. Si no, pondrá mala cara y se pasará el día enfurruñado.

Pero, cuando mete la pata, nunca recibirás una disculpa. Actuará como si nada hubiera pasado.

That’s a clear sign that he doesn’t respect you because he doesn’t care whether your feelings get hurt or not, which leads to the conclusion that he probably doesn’t love you at all.

24. Usted no es su prioridad

He puts you at the bottom of his priorities list. If he has to choose between something he likes and you, he won’t choose you.

This means he doesn’t love you because a man who loves you would always lo primero eres tú — no matter what.

Si necesitabas su ayuda, ese hombre dejaría todo inmediatamente para venir a rescatarte si así lo querías.

Basically, your partner is your best friend, and best friends don’t treat each other like this.

25. He doesn’t talk about the future

He never talks about your future together, which basically means that he doesn’t want you in it.

Tal vez, por ahora conveniente para ély te quiere cerca por alguna razón, pero eso no va a ser a largo plazo.

When this happens, you know that the spark that kept your relationship alive is gone. There’s no point in forcing it back to life — just let it burn out.

26. He doesn’t try anymore

Nos guste o no, lo cierto es que la mayoría de las relaciones caen en la rutina tarde o temprano.

However, this doesn’t mean that you and your partner should be darnos por sentados just because you’ve been together since high school.

But, this is exactly what your boyfriend’s been doing, isn’t it? He has become so certain of your love for him that ha dejado de esforzarse en ella hacia ti.

Even though you might think that something like this is normal in every long-term relationship, the truth is that it’s a surefire sign your boyfriend’s love for you has vanished.

It is clear that this guy isn’t ready to lift a finger for your sake, and that is not how someone who loves you would ever behave.

27. Todo lo que haces le molesta

Cuando quieres a alguien, todo lo que hace esa persona te parece gracioso y simpático.

On the other hand, when you can’t stand someone’s guts, them just existing, breathing, and doing nothing annoys the hell out of you.

And, this is exactly what’s happening with your boyfriend. All the things he used to consider adorable about you have now become fuentes de resentimiento.

Si este es el caso, está bastante claro que se ha cansado de vuestra relación.

It’s possible he doesn’t want to accept this as a sign that he isn’t into you anymore or that he feels guilty about his lack of emotions, pero si este hombre se siente frustrado por tu presencia en su vida, sus emociones por ti hace tiempo que desaparecieron.

28. Evita el sexo

Yes, you’ve read it right. It is possible for men to avoid intimacy once they lose feelings for their partner.

So, if your boyfriend almost never initiates sex or has suddenly stopped trying with you in the bedroom, it is one of the signs he doesn’t love you anymore.

Este falta de intimidad física we are talking about doesn’t involve your sexual life only. The fact is that the two of you don’t abrazarni besarse, abrazarse o cogerse de la mano.

Incluso cuando intentas animar un poco las cosas, este hombre te rechaza de una forma u otra, lo que, por supuesto, hace que te sientas poco querida y deseada.

29. Se retira

This phase may just be coincidental… it may have nothing to do with you.

Maybe something’s bothering him, but he still isn’t ready to tell you all about it.

But, the more probable explanation for his withdrawal is that he isn’t interested in having a relationship with you anymore.

When a man who was always there for you, sharing everything about himself with you, goes silent and stays silent for quite some time, it’s a mala señal.

Deberías examinar lo que está pasando e intentar hablar con él y conseguir que se abra.

If that attempt fails, then I’m sorry to say, but you don’t have any option left than to assume he doesn’t love you anymore.

30. Ha dejado de enviarte mensajes

Su comportamiento en general ha cambiado. Es mucho más frío y mucho más distante.

Sería una tontería esperar que la relación se mantenga en el fase de luna de miel para siempre, pero incluso después de que haya pasado esa fase, todavía debería quedar algo de esfuerzo.

An example of that effort is texting. If it has become rarer for him to tell you he misses you via text, it’s safe to say he’s not interested in you anymore.

In the beginning, you two were always texting each other, and not a minute would pass by that you didn’t get a text back from him. Now, it’s a completely different story.

Even if you confront him about it, he’ll make some stupid excuse like he didn’t check his phone, or he meant to text you back but forgot. A man who loves you can never forget about you.

31. Pide abiertamente un poco de espacio

This is a tricky sign because it can go either way. Every relationship can only function properly if both sides respect each other’s personal space.

A veces, una persona necesita tiempo a solas para ordenar sus pensamientos y estar sola.

But, if this justified need becomes overused, then it’s a red flag warning you that something is wrong.

If your man feels the need to be more alone than usual, either something big is on his mind, or more probable, he wants out but doesn’t know how to tell you.

Además, si sus intenciones son las contrarias a dejarte, te confesará por qué necesita un tiempo a solas.

Si quiere dejarte, se inventará una excusa vaga y poco clara, dejándote confundida.

32. Siempre te está criticando

Constant criticism can seriously affect a person’s autoestima. It may appear as constructive in the beginning, but if it’s constant and a bit cruel, then it’s definitely something you wouldn’t wish for in a relationship.

If your boyfriend keeps finding new ways to make you feel inferior in the relationship, it means he doesn’t love you.

En lugar de aguantar que te menosprecie, deberías encontrar la manera de romper ese patrón de abuso.

O bien comunicarse con él openly, and tell him it bothers you because there is a possibility that he doesn’t even know what he’s doing to you… or leave him.

He will leave you sooner or later anyway, so it’s better for you to do it first.

33. He’s trying to change you

The first rule in life you have to follow is: “Stay true to yourself and never change for anyone!” If the man you’re with can’t appreciate you with all of your flaws and your virtues, you don’t need him anyway.

Él se enamoró de ti por alguna razón, pero como funciona su mente es que piensa que él es perfecto e impecable, y tú tienes mucho que mejorar de ti misma.

Así que, siguiendo su lógica, eres tú quien tiene que cambiar y adaptarse a sus deseos.

He never even considers himself as having something to do with the problems in your relationship. If you ask him, the core of the problem is you. Never let anyone persuade you to be something you’re not.

34. He doesn’t care when you’re upset

You are bound to love a person in both the good and the bad. It’s easy to love someone when everything is peachy.

Pero, amar a alguien durante los problemas es lo que resulta ser amor verdadero.

A man in love will do anything to put a smile on his girl’s face. When you are sad and down due to something bothering you, he won’t back down… he will love you even more.

If he doesn’t do anything when you’re feeling blue, he doesn’t have any feelings for you.

If he’s truly in love, he won’t be able to look at you and do nothing while you’re hurting. Otherwise, the man you’re in love with doesn’t love you back.

35. Es infeliz

Es normal que cualquiera de nosotros se encuentre un poco indispuesto de vez en cuando.

Que mal humor you’re in prevents you from enjoying life and appreciating what life has to offer.

Now, the people around you, especially the people who love you, notice that you’re not yourself.

Tanto si una persona intenta ocultar su mal humor como si no, su mala energía la delata.

You’ve noticed that your man is not acting the way he usually acts.

Normally, that wouldn’t be a problem, but it seems to you that it’s not a phase anymore. He has been constantly acting like that for a long time now.

Cuando sale a la calle, su humor cambia un poco a mejor, pero cuando vuelve, vuelve a estar malhumorado.

I’m sorry to say this, but this is a huge red alert sign that tu relación está llegando a su fin.

36. He wants to hurt you when you’re fighting

Si tus peleas son sobre quién hiere más a quién, entonces definitivamente tienes un problema.

It’s true… people say a lot of things that they shouldn’t say when they’re fighting. The point is, in the end, you resolve everything that was unclear and you make up.

Vuestras peleas, en cambio, son un poco diferentes. Os gritáis el uno al otro, y decís un montón de cosas hirientes.

During a fight, you think of what to say that will hurt both of you harder. In the end, the problem doesn’t get solved.

Lo único que hacéis es pelearos. Eso no es una buena señal para la supervivencia de vuestra relación.

37. No muestra interés por tu vida

When a guy likes you romantically, it’s normal that he is curious about your life.

He wants to know everything about you. He wants to know what you like and what you don’t like. He wants to know how to make you happy.

In your case, your online friends know more about you than the man you’re in love with. He is simply not interested in anything you say or do.

Es natural llegar a la conclusión de que quiere una relación física más que emocional, o bien que quiere salir.

38. He doesn’t open up anymore

When a man loves you, he won’t hesitate to show you everything that’s on his mind. Being emocionalmente vulnerable es el primer paso hacia a largo-relación duradera.

So, if he refuses to share his happiness with you or talk to you when he’s having a hard time, that’s an obvious sign that he will soon end things. Try talking to him about it, but if it proves to be unsuccessful, accept it for what it is.

Él es no tu alma gemelaAsí que hazte cargo de tu propia vida y vete antes de que empeore.

39. Nunca te consulta nada

En relaciones sanas, couples always come to each other whenever they need advice about a future plan. This is because they are a team, and that’s what a team is supposed to do – ayudarse mutuamente.

If your partner has stopped doing that, and somehow, you are the last person to find out what he’s up to, then that’s one of the signs he doesn’t ya no te quiero.

Sé tú quien romper con él because the longer you’re with him, the tougher it will be to superar el desamor. Cuídate. Tú eres lo primero.

40. Pasa más tiempo con los demás que contigo

You don’t need a relationship expert to tell you that if a man devotes more time to everyone else, that’s a major red flag. It’s not that he ‘necesita espacio‘… he just doesn’t care as much as he used to.

Don’t let him treat you that way.

¿Por qué sufrir a través de tales a relación tóxica cuando podrías tener una satisfactoria amar la vida with a man who can’t wait to meet someone like you?

What To Do When He Doesn’t Love Me Anymore

I’ve read so many times about how to get him back. I’ve read so many tricks and tips to make him love you back. I’m sorry, but love doesn’t work that way.

There is no point in getting him back because you can’t change anyone’s mind. You can’t persuade him to love you.

Al fin y al cabo, lo mejor es que la relación se rompa, porque seguir en una relación unilateral sería desastroso más adelante.

Cuando su autoestima breaks because you are unloved, when you feel like you are not enough and never will be, then it’s too late to save yourself.

After those realizations, the only step you can take is healing and building yourself up from scratch, and then maybe you’ll get another chance with someone new.

So, be smart and leave while it’s not too late. Leave if you recognize your man in these signs because simply… you deserve better.

Permanecer en una relación sin amor te impide encontrar tu verdadero amor.

Relacionado: 10 Ways To Stop Loving Someone Who Doesn’t Love You Back

Reflexiones finales

The signs he doesn’t love you anymore are fairly easy to recognize… if you’re brave enough to see them.

The best relationship advice I can give you is this – sea sincero consigo mismo y ver las cosas como son.

You deserve nothing less than an epic love, so accept only those who treat you like you’re extraordinary… because you are.