7 señales trágicas de que tu relación se está consumiendo lentamente
Siempre es importante ser honesto y franco con uno mismo, por dura que sea la realidad a la que te enfrentas.
Sometimes, you stay in a relationship that you know has run its course, simply because it’s familiar and comforting.
It’s nice having someone there, even if the thing that kept you together has started fizzling out…
It’s a hard pill to swallow, admitting to yourself that tu relación ha terminado, because your pride is making you give it another try, even though you know there’s really no point.
Prolongar lo inevitable sólo te hace sufrir innecesariamente y ni tú ni tu pareja os sentís felices y realizados. Entonces, ¿quién gana aquí?
It’s better to just rip off the band aid and face the facts, because that is the only healthy way to cope with a relationship that is no longer thriving.
Quedarse por las razones equivocadas no es razón para quedarse.
If you feel like your relationship is heading towards its demise, it’s likely that your gut is trying to tell you something, so you should pay close attention and listen to it.
Aquí tienes 7 señales que indican que tu relación se está consumiendo poco a poco y que ya no hay razón para seguir con ella.
1. No tienes problema en imaginarte con otra persona
If the thought of being intimate with another person doesn’t repulse you at all, and actually makes you feel positive and excited, that’s the first sign that you are already halfway out the door.
When you are happy and fulfilled in a relationship, you can’t really imagine being with another person.
Pensar en eso sería imposible, ya que tu pareja es todo lo que podrías desear.
But when you’re already seeing yourself with another man (regardless of who it is), it’s a true sign that it really is over, at least on your part. You just need to embrace it and accept it.
2. Your goals and dreams are completely different and you can’t find middle ground
Cuando dos personas se aman, se dejan la piel para alinear sus dos mundos lo mejor posible, por todos los medios.
El compromiso es la clave para dos parejas con estilos de vida diferentes que realmente quieren que funcione.
Pero cuando tú y tu hombre can’t seem to find middle ground on anything, that’s a huge problem.
That is something that is likely going to cause more and more friction in your future and it’s only going to get messier.
Cuando quieres a una persona, haces todo lo posible para que funcione.
But when you don’t want to give up on any of your ideas and dreams, it signifies that your love is not that strong after all.
3. You wouldn’t trust him with your life
This is the biggest red flag there is. If this person you’re with is not somebody you would trust with your life, then what are you even still doing there?
Se supone que tu pareja es la única persona que tiene toda tu confianza.
But if you find yourself unsure and uneasy about trusting him with serious things, you’re truly done with this relationship.
Sea lo que sea lo que causó esta falta de confianza en tu pareja, está claro que ha hecho daño, y ahora sólo tienes que encontrar la manera de afrontarlo lo mejor que puedas, y decidir cómo seguir adelante.
4. Sigues teniendo los mismos argumentos una y otra vez
This is a big problem. If you can’t put any of your arguments behind you, it’s a sign of a much bigger issue.
Sure, everybody fights sooner or later, and there’s no way around it. But eventually, they also find a way to work it out.
However, when you just can’t find a solution that benefits you both, at least in part, you two really can’t seem to find your way back to how it was, or you simply don’t want to. It’s up to you to recognize which one it is.
Las personas que se preocupan por los demás acaban encontrando puntos en común, porque amaos los unos a los otros demasiado.
If you can’t seem to do that, it’s probably for the best that you end it before it gets too messy.
5. You don’t really care how he feels anymore
You just aren’t as bothered about hurting his feelings as you used to be.
You definitely don’t mean him any harm, it’s just that his pain no longer affects you that much. Not the way it used to, anyway.
This doesn’t make you a bad person, it just means you have probably fallen out of love with him, and you’re no longer part of this relationship in your head.
Si así fuera, sus sentimientos serían mucho más importantes para ti y su estado de ánimo afectaría literalmente al tuyo.
6. Las cosas más pequeñas sobre él te molestan muchísimo
The little quirks about him used to be so cute and endearing to you, but now, you can’t stand them.
Se ha vuelto tan molesto que quieres gritarle que deje de hacer eso que antes te parecía tan mono, pero de alguna manera te recompones y mantienes la calma.
Este es un claro indicio de una relación que se está quemando.
Cuando las cosas que antes os parecían bonitas del otro os irritan más de la cuenta, es evidente que ya no hay amor romántico.
Te preocupas por él como persona, seguro, pero definitivamente no como novio. Ya no.
Véase también: 7 consecuencias de ser furtivo en una relación (+ cómo afrontarlas)
7. Pasáis mucho tiempo lejos el uno del otro y ambos lo lleváis bien.
Cero necesidad de gastar tiempo juntos es una de las señales más claras de que tu relación se ha esfumado de verdad.
You don’t have to be attached at the hip, but you do need to want to spend time with each other.
When that feeling is gone and you’re perfectly fine spending lots of time apart, there is really nothing left to be said there.
Perhaps it’s best you two just have a heart to heart in order to realize when it all started going downhill and simply try to end things on a good note.
Just because you’re no longer crazy in love with each other, doesn’t mean you don’t care about each other as individuals.
Take this as an opportunity to have one of those amicable breakups where you both leave with zero resentment towards each other, and take pride in that because that’s the adult way to break up!
