9 señales de que le gustas (pero tiene miedo al rechazo)

Los hombres no son tan sutiles cuando se trata de ellas enamorado de ti. Which is, let’s be honest, a good thing.

Pero incluso cuando tenemos todas las señales de que realmente les gustamos, cuando todas nuestras novias lo han dicho, él sigue estancado en un lugar y que haga un movimiento es tan imposible como ir al espacio.

So, we end up wondering if maybe it’s us, if maybe he’s not attracted to us after all. We are wondering could it be that we have misread the signs.

But, trust me ladies, it’s not us. Looking for señales de que le gustas es tan fácil como buscar a Hulk en el club.

Men are so obvious to everyone except the woman that’s attracted to them. Yes, love has a way of making us blind.

Pero, ¿qué pasa con los hombres que no son tan obvios? ¿Qué pasa con los hombres que te tratan de una forma especial, pero no tan especial?

Hombres que te hacen sentir como una diosa con piropos y te llaman ‘buddy’ al minuto siguiente.

Then, it’s time to look for señales de que le gustaspero tiene miedo al rechazo.

Porque, verás, todo hombre tiene tres miedos principales: el miedo a la irrelevancia, a la decepción y al rechazo.

A los hombres les aterroriza defraudar a las mujeres, sobre todo a las que de verdad les importan.

He will seem like the toughest of them all, but deep down, he will go crazy trying to figure out why you’re suddenly sad. Another fear that breaks them is feeling irrelevant.

Men hate feeling like a piece of furniture or a walking paycheck in a relationship, so naturally, if they’re treated that way, they will treat you back the same.

O simplemente se marchará, buscando relevancia en otra parte.

And lastly, fear of rejection. You can say it’s both of the fears before combined.

Teme que su encanto y su trabajo pasen desapercibidos, que le defraude de alguna manera.

Y esta es también una razón por la que los hombres adoran a las mujeres que inician las citas y las cosas en las relaciones.

No hay que enfrentarse al rechazo y difícilmente habrá un hombre que te rechace, a menos que esté pillado.

It’s completely natural that he is taking some time to see if you are feeling the same as he does, to see whether you really want to go out before he pops the question.

Because, no matter how thick-skinned you believe they are, they’re not.

Todo rechazo duele, independientemente del nivel de compromiso o de embriaguez.

Pica y quema tu confianza como el ácido. Así que, para aliviar tus preocupaciones, hemos reunido señales de que realmente le gustas, even if he still hasn’t made a move.

Lenguaje corporal

This is something he can’t really control. His words could be distant and cold, but his body will tell you a whole different story.

You will catch him more than once looking at you with that look—you know which one.

En cuanto lo atrapes, apartará la mirada o seguirá mirándote, porque los hombres son criaturas visuales. Cuando les gusta algo, lo miran. Mucho. Así que esta es en realidad una buena señal de que le gustas (pero tiene miedo). Contacto visual prolongado nunca es una coincidencia.

Another cue to look for is the way he behaves around you. If he seems nervous and keeps on fixing his appearance (hair, tie, shirt etc.), that’s because he wants to look his best for you and he wants to charm you off of your feet.

Y el miedo a la decepción le está poniendo nervioso, así que podría estar jugueteando mucho con los dedos.

Incluso parecerá que ha olvidado cómo usarlas. Su cuerpo siempre estará inclinado hacia ti y se inclinará más hacia ti.

He will also find any excuse to touch you. Whether it’s a strand of hair that got lost on your face or to touch your back while you’re sitting down.

To him, you’re like the strongest magnet he simply can’t resist. And to be honest, he’s not even trying.

También sonreirá mucho. En cuanto entres en la habitación, se le dibujará una estúpida sonrisa en la cara de oreja a oreja.

When we’re spending time with someone we are interested in, we are happy.

Nervous and nauseous maybe, but still happy. It’s the same with him spending time with you.

His face will light up when he sees you and his eyes will smile. That’s a genuine reaction to you which he cannot fake.

Mientras que las sonrisas falsas se quedan en la boca, la suya ilumina toda la habitación, no sólo la cara.

Se pavonea y habla de sí mismo

He will smell his best, fix his hair and dress better than usual. This one is easy to catch on to if you’ve seen him with his friends.

If he is not trying so hard with them but you can see he tried hard for you, that’s the only sign you really need.

He will fix his appearance while you’re around all the time. Fix his tie, his jacket or pop a breath mint in his mouth.

He wants to be the best version of himself, so he can show you that he’s actually worth it.

While we’re at the best version of him, he will talk himself up. He will keep on talking about how he is successful at his job but not in a douche, asshole, arrogant kind of a way.

He will give you enough info for you to know what it is about, but not too much to smother you—often called, ‘humble bragging’.

On the other hand, if he’s talking about himself and nothing but himself in that ‘I’m-the-best-one-out-there’ kind of tone, it’s time for you to back away.

No es más que un narcisista and that’s not someone you really want to have in your life.

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Agradece cualquier toque

While he’s trying to find a way to touch you, how does he react when you touch him? Does he flinch or move away when you touch him? Or he’s relaxed and actually enjoys when you do it? This is a big sign that he likes you because he would move away if he didn’t.

Pay attention to the subtle moves he makes. If your legs are touching and he doesn’t move his away, he’s more than okay with touching you.

Or if your high five or handshake lasts longer than the usual ones do, maybe it’s time for something little bit more intimate than that?

BUT. With this one, you need to look at the bigger picture. If he’s moving away but you know that he is shy, that doesn’t have to be a sign he doesn’t like you. It could simply be saying that he’s just too shy to make a move.

O si sabes que es un jugador, podría estar recibiendo caricias de cualquier mujer.

Fíjate siempre en el conjunto y no en los pequeños detalles. Fíjate en cómo os movéis juntos y en la química que hay entre vosotros.

His phone is nonexistent while he’s with you

This one is really important and goes both ways. My friends always say that they can notice when I’m in love just by looking at where is my phone when I’m with the guy.

Debido al ritmo y la forma en que vivimos nuestras vidas hoy en día, nuestros teléfonos son un mal necesario.

Son todo lo que necesitamos y esenciales para nuestra existencia. Tristemente, pero lo son.

If you notice that he didn’t even get his phone out of his pocket while sitting with you, there are no worries that you te hará perder el tiempo con él. Su atención se centra por completo en ti; parece que no hay nadie más que tú.

Like the whole world disappeared to him and you’re the only thing that’s left.

E incluso si recibe llamadas o mensajes de texto, los atiende rápidamente y se disculpa varias veces.

To him, you are more interesting than thousands of phones and that’s something worth fighting for.

Honestly, as someone who is addicted to the phone—and I rarely drop it out of my arms—if a man is amazing enough to make me leave my phone, that’s the kind of a man I’m willing to do anything for. And it’s the same for men too.

Se burla de ti

This is a great way for him to check the ground, to see if you’re up for something a little bit more than just goofing around or hanging out as friends.

Se burlará de ti juguetonamente o te empujará ligeramente, sólo para mantener el ambiente ligero y desenfadado.

Plus, it’s a great way to make an excuse for touching you. Men don’t ever really grow up.

From pulling your ponytail to teasing you about the stain on your shirt, it’s all about game and finding a way to your heart through smiles and laughter.

Y otra forma de burlarse es que bromee sobre que le gustas. Es una forma estupenda de que los hombres que tienen miedo al rechazo afronten sus sentimientos y vean a qué atenerse contigo.

Muchos hombres tímidos o con miedo al rechazo bromean sobre estar con la persona exacta con la que quieren estar.

Nunca le oirás bromear sobre eso con otras mujeres, créeme.

De esta forma, aunque se produzca el rechazo, podrá decir que todo fue diversión y juegos, sin sentimientos.

Si encuentra este signo junto a otros de la lista, no hay necesidad de buscar más.

Quiere conocerte

Y me refiero a conocerte de verdad. No le interesan las cosas que le cuentas a todo el mundo cuando charláis.

He is interested in dreams you’re dreaming and passions you’re following. And he will truly enjoy listening to you while you’re talking.

Recordará todas las pequeñas cosas que mencionaste una vez y te preguntará por ellas.

And even if you feel uncomfortable talking about yourself all the time, with him it won’t be the case.

You are the one person he wants to spend all of his free time with and you don’t have to look for any signs to prove this one.

If he’s texting you and calls you to go out all the time, not because he wants something from you but because he just wants to spend some time with you, he is interested in you.

If you know that he’s not going out of his way for anyone else and that he’s even cancelling some of the plans he already made just so he could be with you, it not because he is a great friend.

It’s because he really likes you and wants to move things to the next level, but he is just demasiado tímido para hacer un movimiento.

Te hace cumplidos únicos

I don’t mean those ‘You’re pretty/hot/smoking’ kind of compliments but rather the compliments where he actually looks at you and sees you.

He noticed how your eyes change the color in the sunlight and how they’re gloomy when it’s raining.

He noticed how your face lights up when you see Marvel-themed anything and he’s even sending you Marvel memes to bring a smile to your face.

Se ha dado cuenta de lo ocurrente que eres y admira tu esfuerzo y tu mente brillante.

He’s not spending time with you just because you’re good-looking.

He’s doing it because he enjoys talking with you and listening to you, not just looking at you.

And you know that when he gives you a compliment, that’s not something he usually does.

Realmente puedes sentirlo en tus entrañas. Empezará a sonrojarse enseguida o cambiará de tema tan rápido como pueda.

He’s not comfortable with being vulnerable around you and that’s exactly the time when he is open to you.

Se dio cuenta de algo que no todo el mundo ve y él lo sabe, pero se dejó llevar por el momento y se le escapó.

So, he will try to step away from it as soon as possible and that’s a sign he has feelings stronger than just as ‘a friend’.

Es muy protector

He makes sure that you got home safe and sound and checks on you how you’re doing after a crazy night out.

E incluso si trabajabas en el turno de noche, se quedaba hasta tarde, haciéndote compañía por teléfono, asegurándose de que estuvieras bien.

When you’re walking, he makes sure that you’re walking on the safer side of the sidewalk and no matter what happens, he is always there.

The moment you call him, he picks up his phone. The moment you tell him that you’re upset, he is already looking for a solution to the problem and trying to figure things out so you get better soon.

He goes out of his way to make sure you are doing okay, to make sure that you’re safe and protected.

And it’s highly possible that he is protecting you even though he’s not making a move.

This is because he’s not sure about your feelings and he’s worried that you’ll cut him out of your life when he makes a move.

Or, he thinks that he’s not worthy of you. He is happy with just being around you and doing whatever it takes to keep you protected.

Así, mantiene sus sentimientos bajo el radar y te hace feliz como amigo. Si hay sentimientos por tu parte, asegúrate de que él lo sepa.

You’re the only one he wants to spend time with

Even if his schedule is tight, he still finds time for you. Whether he and you are going out with the rest of your friends or alone, it seems like you’re the only one there.

Toda su atención se centra en ti y eres lo único que le importa en este momento.

Si hay alguien más contigo, se sentará a tu lado y continuará burlándose de ti con bromas internas, haciendo que parezca que sois pareja.

Pero en cuanto alguien lo menciona, se ríe o hace bromas al respecto.

Aprovechará la ocasión para comprobar su reacción y actuar en consecuencia, evitando al mismo tiempo la posibilidad de ser rechazado.

Y en cuanto le llames, despejará su agenda sólo para ti, aunque eso signifique que se quedará despierto el resto de la noche, terminando el trabajo que le queda por hacer.

Podría tener miedo de que su corazón roto una vez más, si tuvo una ruptura desagradable en el pasado.

Or he’s simply afraid of rejection if he never had any luck in love. The important thing is that you let him know where he stands.

If you want him just as a friend, it’s up to you to decide if you want to keep him around or cut him loose so he can get over it. But, if you want something more, go for it girl!