5 señales de que sois almas gemelas (y 5 cosas que significan que habéis terminado)
The ultimate result of the dating Hell everyone goes through is finding your forever person. So, don’t tell me you don’t believe in soulmates because I know that’s crap.
Perhaps you don’t call what you’re looking for a soulmate, but finding the person to spend the rest of your life with and finding a soulmate is essentially the same thing.
Great, now that we’ve cleared that up, déjame seguir.
After so many fails, after so many dates which you want to forget as soon as possible, there comes a time when you think you’ve hit the Jackpot.
He shows up. He takes you somewhere nice. You laugh. You tell each other jokes. You completely get each other. It’s a fairytale come true.
Soon, you find yourself thinking about him and missing him when he’s gone. He sends you textos de buenos días, and the vibration on your phone makes you wish you’ll see his name on the screen.
Soon, you’re completely hooked.
But something is bothering you nevertheless. Is it too soon to think he’s your soulmate, your person, or whatever you want to call it?
No hay una forma definitiva de demostrar que la persona por la que sientes algo es tu alma gemela. Pero si tu instinto te dice algo, yo te digo que te arriesgues y escuches esa sensación.
If you don’t want to listen to your relationship sixth sense, there are other ways to decide whether he is your soulmate or your relationship will be over pretty soon.
1. Alma gemela: Te apoya pase lo que pase
Soulmates don’t question your decisions. They support you even if they think you’re doing the wrong thing. Of course, they won’t let you do it without telling you what they think.
Pero, si significa tanto para ti, te dejarán hacerlo de todos modos.
La diferencia es que un alma gemela va a estar ahí cuando todo se desmorone. Te apoyará en tu propósito y te consolará cuando fracases.
Un alma gemela nunca te abandonará.
2. You’re done: You’re not up high on his list of priorities.
Tiene algo más importante que hacer. Siempre elige salir con sus amigos en vez de contigo.
Cuando le necesitas no está en ningún sitio y, al final, aparece con un montón de excusas.
This is not the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. This is an emotionally immature boy who hasn’t quite figured out yet what love and relationships are really about.
Las cosas pueden seguir así durante algún tiempo, pero la fatalidad está escrita en vuestra relación, así que mejor acabar ahora antes de que empeore.
3. Almas gemelas: Tienes rutinas que haces los fines de semana
Spending your days off with the person you love is the most beautiful thing a couple can do. Having a weekend routine also shows that your relationship is going places, and it’s serious.
Piénsalo. La persona que amas sacrifica su tiempo libre para pasarlo contigo.
He doesn’t care about other things. He wants to be by your side doing something you do every Saturday morning or Sunday night.
You go for walks, on a picnic or you snuggle watching a movie. It’s not important what you do it’s important that you do it together.
4. You’re done: He chooses his friends over you
It’s not wrong for him not to spend every single weekend with you. You can’t expect him to ignore the fact he had a social life before you came along.
Sería un error por tu parte esperar que pasara contigo cada minuto de su tiempo libre.
Teniendo eso en cuenta, si hace lo contrario y nunca pasa su tiempo libre contigo, entonces algo no va bien.
A man in love would never pass up an opportunity to be with the woman he loves. If he chooses his friends every single time, then, I’m sad to say, you two are over.
5. Alma gemela: Respeta tu opinión
Siempre encontrará tiempo para callarse un segundo y escucharte. No porque lo necesite, sino porque quiere.
This man you fell for and consider to be your soulmate thinks you’re intelligent, confident, and pretty much awesome. He even thinks he could learn things from you, so he listens to you.
No sólo escucha porque podría aprender algo nuevo, sino también porque se preocupa de verdad por ti y quiere obtener toda la información que pueda sobre ti.
Quiere saberlo todo de ti porque quiere darte el mundo. Necesita asegurarse de que nunca necesites nada más que a él.
6. You’re done: You don’t feel comfortable around him
Something just doesn’t feel right. You keep telling yourself that everything is okay, and you so badly want to convince yourself that it’s going to be fine, but that gut feeling just won’t leave you alone.
When everyone’s gone, when you are left alone with your own thoughts, one question bugs the hell out of you: What if he is not the man for me?
When you’re around him, you carefully choose your words because sometimes your words are misheard and misunderstood.
The point is, you can’t be your true self around him. Well, if this is the situation, that is one big NO-NO for your relationship.
7. Alma gemela: Ama a tu familia
You love his family, too. You both feel like you belong with them. There are no awkward silences, no uncomfortable situations when you’re with them.
Cuando le invitaste por primera vez a pasar las Navidades con tu familia, estaba encantado y, por supuesto, no tenía motivos para ser otra cosa.
Your dad and he clicked instantly. He teased your mom in a cute way…
En conjunto, le encantan porque te quiere. Los respeta porque te respeta a ti.
8. You’re done: He thinks your family has ganged up on him
He doesn’t want to go near your family at all. I’m not saying he should move in, but it would be nice and polite of him to visit them with you every now and then.
He doesn’t need to love them, but he needs to show some respect.
En cambio, los evita y piensa que son ellos los que le excluyen. Se siente amenazado y mal recibido por alguna razón.
I’m not saying that this can’t happen, but if he treats you with respect and loves you, there is no reason why your family shouldn’t love him.
9. Almas gemelas: Viajan juntos
Like all couples who are meant to be with each other, who don’t mind spending every moment of their free time together, you love to travel together.
Te encanta explorar cosas nuevas y vivir nuevas experiencias, nuevos recuerdos.
More importantly, he enjoys being adventurous with you. You are more interesting than anyone else. He can go with his friends, but that won’t be the same – hence you’re soulmates.
10. You’re done: He prefers going solo
Opposite to traveling together, he chooses to go with the guys. Again, I’m not saying that’s a bad thing, but if this continues and in the end, he is traveling with them more than with you, you definitely have a problem.
Or even worse, he is going on his own. In the beginning of a relationship when you’re still getting to know each other, traveling on your own is not a surprise.
Pero como la relación evoluciona y nada cambia, significa que los dos no vais a tener futuro. Más vale que lo terminéis ya.
