Cuando hay amor pero no respeto en la relación

Todos estamos un poco cegados por las hormonas cuando empezamos una relación y no vemos las cosas como realmente son al principio.

We feel happy and we want to hold on to it forever. The truth is, you can’t really stay in a relationship for the same reasons you entered it.

Al principio, caemos por las miradas y la atención, pero a medida que pasa el tiempo, la relación debe crecer.

If you keep giving the same things all over again without adjusting to the needs of another person, there is the possibility that the person you’re with might get fed up with you playing the same movie on repeat.

Mira, me enamoré de tu afecto. Me enamoré de tus dulces palabras y cumplidos, y me encantó la forma en que me miras. Tenías una mirada que decía mucho de lo mucho que me querías.

And it felt good to be wanted. But these kinds of feelings don’t last forever.

I know you want me. I know you love me. But that’s just it. And I’m sorry, at this point it’s just not enough.

Me compras flores. Me besas en la frente cada mañana y me preguntas cómo me ha ido el día.

You remember all the important dates. I get hugs, cuddles, and your hand in my hand on a regular basis. It feels good—I swear it does.

No dejas de hacerme cumplidos sobre mi aspecto y eso nunca cambia. Me dices lo guapa que te parezco y lo feliz que estás de tenerme a tu lado.

You often tell how you don’t know what you did to deserve such a stunning woman. Little do you know, there was no need for you to deserve me—I chose you because I wanted you as much as you wanted me.

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But….

I am afraid that’s all I am to you. Just a pretty face and nothing more.

I don’t want you to admire me for my looks. That was my birth gift—I didn’t earn it.

Quiero que me admires por mi intelecto y lo apasionada que soy y cómo me brillan los ojos y cómo mi voz adquiere otro color cuando hablo de algo que me apasiona.

I want you to acknowledge my hard work, my dedication, to tell me you’re happy to have such a purpose-driven woman next to you.

Quiero que me quieras por lo que soy y no por lo que parezco.

Haces todas estas cosas para demostrarme tu amor, pero me cuesta ver algo más en tu mirada.

You don’t respect my decisions. You don’t think I can make it no matter how hard I work. You think your success is more important than what I do.

Nunca me dijiste lo inteligente que soy y nunca apoyaste ninguna de mis ideas. Simplemente me cortaste sin siquiera escucharme y te fuiste a tratar tus problemas por tu cuenta.

Even when I am happy to help, you rush to somebody else for advice. You don’t do these things in a relationship.

No comprendes que el respeto es un factor clave que nos permite comprender y reconocer las ideas y decisiones del otro.

True respect cannot be forced and I’m not doing that, however, in most situations, people respect others due to power differentials.

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Una mujer puede ser guapa e inteligente al mismo tiempo.

If you’d just give me the benefit of the doubt and listen to my advice for a change, you’d see that what I say does make sense, in fact.

If you’d trust me with your problems, I’d feel more appreciated.

I don’t want you to be proud of how beautiful I am—I’d get that anywhere.

Cualquiera puede ser guapa y cualquiera podría sustituirme, porque hay al menos mil millones de mujeres tan guapas como yo.

I’d rather have you be proud of what kind of women you have next to yourself.

I am not a trophy and I wish you’d just stop treating me like one.

I don’t want just your affection, I want your admiration as well—but not for how I look but for what I am.

I don’t want to be just a pretty face. I don’t want to be weaker than you. I want my opinion to count. I want you to actually hear what I have to say, and I want you to respect me.

I want you to scratch the surface and see what’s beneath it.

Because if you don’t start respecting me, if you don’t try to see another side of me, I might just respect myself enough to walk away from you.