Cómo iniciar el sexo con su pareja

Perhaps you’ve been in a relationship for a long time or with someone new and when it comes to initiating sex, you find it difficult to devise a proper way of doing it.

You don’t want to be too pushy, passive or confusing so that your partner doesn’t get the wrong idea of your intentions.

You also don’t want to just say: “Let’s do it!” because it’s totally unproductive and it will create a counter effect.

La mejor forma de iniciar el sexo con tu pareja es hacerlo con sensualidad y de forma creativa, lo cual a veces es difícil, pero cuando le cojas el truco, te aseguro que se convertirá en tu segunda naturaleza.

If you’re a woman, don’t be overwhelmed when it comes to letting your partner know that you would like to have some action.

Don’t let the thinking that men are supposed to be the ones initiating it prevent you from doing the same because that is what society imposes on you all this time. It is not true.

Initiating sex is something you shouldn’t be ashamed of because it is totally normal and desirable by both sexes. It also gives you the opportunity to take control over your sexuality and embrace it.

Te da el poder de tomar las cosas en tus manos y, de vez en cuando, ser la que lleva las riendas, lo cual es (si le preguntas a cualquier hombre) sexy a más no poder.

Cómo iniciar las relaciones sexuales con su pareja

Hay muchas formas de iniciar el sexo (como verás a continuación), pero antes de entrar en materia, debes recordar que, elijas la opción que elijas, tienes que estar relajada.

Mucha gente se frustra por este motivo, ya que procesan mentalmente todos los escenarios posibles antes incluso de intentarlo.

It is especially hard to think positively if your partner seems a little bit upset, and you would like to cheer them up by spicing things up in bedroom or some new pose that you’ve come up by reading Kama Sutra.

Don’t let the environment and other details discourage you from making the first move when it comes to sex.

Si te mantienes relajado y eliges el enfoque adecuado en función de su estado de ánimo, lo más probable es que todo salga como deseabas (o incluso supere tus expectativas), y verás que las cosas no son tan complicadas como podías pensar.

13 formas de iniciar el sexo con tu pareja y darle un toque picante a tu dormitorio

Sea directo

La forma más fácil, y a veces la más eficaz, es ser directo. Sin rodeos, sin presentaciones innecesarias.

Pregúntale a tu pareja si le apetece un poco de acción.

A algunas personas simplemente les encanta porque es atrevida y directa, y le ahorrará nervios y tiempo (y Dios sabe que nunca se tiene tiempo suficiente).

Pero no te aconsejo que utilices este método si tu pareja no está de humor para nada.

Si se sienten mal o están preocupados por algo, preguntarles si quieren meterse en la cama contigo sería totalmente inadecuado.

En cambio, siempre es mejor empezar con un ligero masaje e ir poco a poco al grano (ya me entiendes).

Habla sucio

Dirty talk is underrated most of the times, but it shouldn’t be so. It is a playful and sexy way of telling your partner that you would like to have some fun with them.

Especially if you’re at a party or among a crowd, talking dirty is a nice way of letting your partner know what they should expect when you come home.

It will build great sexual tension, and they will surely know that you’re in the mood for something spicy. Just slowly whisper into their ear and let your imagination do the rest.

Ten por seguro que al instante les entrarán escalofríos y se pondrán cachondos, esperando el momento de abandonar el local.

Hágales cumplidos

Otra buena forma de iniciar el sexo con tu pareja es elogiarlos. Intenta decir lo sexy que es o que te gusta su nuevo corte de pelo o cualquier otra cosa.

Compliments are a great way to increase your partner’s mood and prepare them for action because they work as confidence boosters.

And when your partner is feeling good, your half of your job is done. But, don’t bombard them with too many compliments because it will create a counter effect.

Tiene que sonar natural y como si realmente lo sintieras.

Demuéstrales que son el hombre más guapo o la mujer más bella del mundo. Esto os acercará más, y será una gran transición para intimar.

Turn routine activities into fun (especially if you don’t have time)

Your daily chores and other tasks shouldn’t prevent you from initiating sex with your partner.

Puedes sacar partido de esto y utilizarlo para iniciar relaciones sexuales con tu pareja cuando menos se lo espere. Es una buena forma de romper la rutina y probar algo nuevo.

So, when you’re in the kitchen together or doing laundry, try subtly touching your partner and letting them know that you would like to have sexy time with them.

You don’t have to wait for the perfect moment because every moment is the perfect moment if you know how to approach it sensually and with care.

Utilizar palabras clave

A veces, iniciar el sexo parece imposible debido a las circunstancias que te lo impiden.

Por ejemplo, puedes estar en la misma habitación con tus hijos cuando empiezas a pensar en iniciar relaciones sexuales con tu pareja.

Por eso, la forma más fácil de hacerlo sin que lo sepan es utilizar palabras clave.

¿Cómo se hace? Simplemente inventa algunas frases que utilizarías normalmente en una conversación, y dilo siempre que te apetezca.

You can ask your partner something, and they can reply positively or negatively in accordance with their mood about having sex with you. It’s easy and fun at the same time.

Enviar mensajes coquetos

Puedes intentar enviar algunos mensajes coquetos a tu pareja en los que le digas lo mucho que le echas de menos y que te gustaría que estuviera a tu lado.

Use the power of your imagination and the power of today’s technology to your advantage (especially if your partner is currently not around the house or wherever you are).

Pero, aunque estén en la misma habitación que tú o en la cocina, puedes enviarles mensajes de texto coquetos que serán picantes y divertidos al mismo tiempo.

And when you feel like you can’t endure it anymore, just jump onto each other and do everything that you’ve been texting about all this time.

Idear una llamada de apareamiento

Here’s an interesting one. The concept is simple. Devise a mating call that when one partner imitates it (a certain animal), the other follows them with their own response that implies yes or no.

For example, monkeys have a specific mating call. You can implement this sound. It’s funny, amazing, and it gets the job done.

It’s also much simpler, and more entertaining, to make this sound than just say: Let’s do it! But don’t get me wrong.

If the situation is just right, there’s no need to act like a monkey or certain animal because it will be just waste of time and totally unnecessary.

Actúa

If you’re feeling bold, forget about the verbal approach. Instead, take action by taking your partner by hand and going to the bedroom or somewhere else where you would like to have sex with them.

Especially if you’re a woman, your man will be amazed by your dominant side and the decision to take things in your hands and do what makes you happy.

Además, puedes sorprender a tu pareja paseando en bragas por la casa o simplemente desnudándote cuando menos se lo espere.

This kind of unexpected surprise will definitely be a great initiation for further action. It is simple, effective, and you don’t have to say a word.

Tener sexo por la mañana

Morning sex is in most cases overrated because couples don’t feel that comfortable about engaging into steamy activities when they’ve just woken up and didn’t shower, brushed their teeth or similar.

Pero, sin duda, deberías iniciar el sexo por las mañanas porque a esa hora, la hormona del deseo sexual (testosterona) está en su punto más alto.

A simple touch and kiss will do the job. You don’t have to try hard by going out of your way to initiate something.

Todo seguirá su curso, y lo único de lo que debe preocuparse es de disfrutar del momento.

So, next time you wake up next to your partner, do not be appalled by the idea of having sex with them just because you didn’t manage to finish your bathroom rituals.

Recuerde su pasado acciones apasionadas

If you’ve had some steamy activities before that are worth remembering (and I’m sure you have), try reminding your partner of them.

Simply start talking about whether they remember the day when you’ve got home from your job, started cooking and end up making out, and the rest is history.

Recordar vuestras acciones fogosas del pasado creará un vínculo entre los dos, y tu cerebro lo relacionará instantáneamente con el placer.

And you will be thirsty for more. Your body will also get ready to engage in more pleasure, so that you can recall it again after a few months when you’re about to initiate sex with your partner.

Elija una fecha y hora

If you’re pretty busy during the week, bring out an old-fashioned calendar, circle a date and write down the time of your encounter.

This might sound disturbing because it ain’t spontaneous and it feels like a chore, but this anticipation is what makes you bubble down there, between your legs.

Just simply talk to your partner about a date and time, and I’m sure you’ll come to a mutual agreement.

Although least exciting, this method also has its pros. For example, when you’re being casual all the time, sometimes you don’t have sex that often because one of the two of you is not in the mood.

Pero, cuando has marcado con un círculo una fecha y una hora, lo intentarás seguro, y si no va, a quién le importa.

That way you’ll have sex more often than if you were too casual about it.

Véase también: Cómo tener relaciones sexuales más a menudo

Sorprende a tu pareja con un juego de rol

This is one of my personal favorites. It’s interesting, entertaining and to the point. When you feel like initiating sex with your partner, try surprising them with some role playing.

Cambia la voz, empieza a hablar de algo que no tenga nada que ver con lo que estabas hablando hace unos minutos y ve introduciéndoles paso a paso en tu juego.

You can also surprise them by putting a blindfold on their face while approaching them from the back. I’m sure their heart rate will immediately increase, and the fun will be inevitable.

Sé creativo y piensa en un juego de rol que no sea tan difícil ni demasiado sencillo. Algo que os guste a los dos.

Juguetes sexuales

I don’t mean instantly using your sex toy in front of them because it would be a little bit word (but if it’s something that you’re comfortable with, then why not).

Muéstrale tu nuevo juguete sexual a tu pareja explicándole en broma lo que acabas de comprar. También puedes hacer que adivine de qué se trata.

If it is handcuffs, you can simply put it on their hands in a playful manner and I’m sure they will instantly start to follow your lead and cooperate.

Sea lo que sea, elige el momento adecuado y crea un entorno en el que se sientan cómodos e inspirados para probarlo contigo.

Just choose the approach that you’re most comfortable with and if all else fails, then try to talk to your partner and explain them that something’s not right. But, don’t accuse them.

If you’re the only one initiating sex all the time tell them that you would like them to do the same.

After all, it takes two to tango. If your partner is not willing to cooperate even though you’ve tried everything, the problem could be in them and not you.

Piensa en todo con cuidado y lo más importante, disfruta de cada momento.