Cómo salvar un matrimonio: 10 Métodos Probados Que Siempre Funcionan

Have you and your spouse grown apart? Do you feel like you’ve become total strangers? Then you should immediately look for ways to save your marriage by implementing the best methods and pieces of consejos matrimoniales. 

A veces puede parecer imposible y el divorcio la única salida. Sin embargo, antes de tomar una decisión, tienes que pensarlo bien.

Marriage isn’t just a piece de papel, es un compromiso serio. Hay que luchar y esforzarse por salvar el matrimonio porque es importante.

Tu pareja importa y los votos que os hicisteis también importan.

Remember, for better or for worse… till death do you part? Well, those “worst” times are now and you have to stick together.

Luchen y superen juntos esos periodos difíciles.

Trust me, every healthy marriage faces peaks and troughs, but what’s important is to stick through everything TOGETHER. That’s the only way you’ll solve your marital problems.

As relationship expert, Dr. John Gottman says, “The “honeymoon” phase in any committed relationship is not meant to last—eventually it becomes obvious that sharing a life with another person requires a special set of skills.”

Marriage isn’t a relationship and you can’t break up with your partner every time you have a disagreement or you don’t like something.

El matrimonio es construido sobre la promesa that it will last “until death do you part”.

Si cree que su matrimonio está condenado, o está al borde del divorcio, continúe leyendo a continuación para conocer algunas formas sencillas que le ayudarán a salvar su matrimonio.

1. Cuanto antes busques ayuda de un consejero matrimonial, mejor.

As soon as you realize that you’re having marital problems, you should seek professional help. The longer you wait, the harder it will be to save your marriage and get it back on track.

Marriage counseling is going to help you to identify specific issues you’re facing in your relationship.

Entonces, un consejero matrimonial va a encontrar la manera más eficaz para que usted pueda hacer frente a esos problemas y salvar el matrimonio.

After only a few sessions, I guarantee you’ll see some positive changes. It’s going to help you both learn more about you and your relationship.

Los consejeros matrimoniales dejarán que ambos cónyuges cuenten su versión de los hechos.

Entonces le enseñarán que la comunicación lo es todo en una relación, y que una comunicación eficaz es la clave para superar y resolver los conflictos en un matrimonio.

You’ll learn how to support your partner in everything that is important to them. You’ll learn that your partner should be the only person you can lean on.

La terapia de pareja es un gran paso para muchas parejas, y la mayoría considera la terapia cara y compleja. Pero, por favor, piénselo. Es la forma más eficaz de salvar su matrimonio.

Antes de someter su relación a esta revisión, debe asegurarse de que tanto usted como su pareja se sienten cómodos con la terapia de asesoramiento de parejas.

2. Recuerda por qué te enamoraste en primer lugar

Vuelva al pasado. Recuerda cuando viste a tu pareja por primera vez. Recuerda las mariposas que sentiste en el estómago.

Remember the first time they said, “I love you”. Go back in time to when you were happy. So happy and so crazy in love.

Piensa en todas las cosas que te gustan de tu pareja. Piensa en cómo aceptaste sus defectos e imperfecciones y nunca pensaste en cambiarlos.

All those feelings are still there. You still love your partner like you did on that first day. Put down your defensiveness and you’ll see it. I’m sure your partner also has the same feelings for you.

Tienes que entender que esto es sólo una fase de tu matrimonio. Una fase que todas las parejas casadas tienen que afrontar. Sólo tienes que encontrar una manera de lidiar con ella y hacer que tu matrimonio funcione de nuevo.

You will be happy again. This will just strengthen your connection and prove how strong and deep your love is. Don’t let these hard times ruin your marriage.

3. Haga de su relación una prioridad

Your relationship should always be a priority but now, it’s essential it becomes a priority for both of you. You have to work on your marriage every single day.

Por muy apretada que esté tu agenda, siempre tienes que dedicar tiempo a tu pareja. Es más importante que el trabajo, los amigos y todo lo demás.

Give your spouse the attention they deserve. Remember, they aren’t your friend nor your roommate, they are your lover and partner.

Make them feel cherished and loved. Your partner should never doubt your feelings for them. If they do, it means that you aren’t trying hard enough to show them how much you love them.

Hay que esforzarse para que tu matrimonio funcione y hacer que dure toda la vida. Tienes que cumplir tus votos y todas las promesas que le hiciste a tu pareja el día de tu boda.

If you don’t make salvar su matrimonio a priority, you’ll lose something precious. You’ll lose the most valuable relationship in your life.

If you don’t fight for your partner, you’ll eventually lose them. You won’t feel complete without them. You’ll lose one part of yourself because they were your other part.

4. Anotar los problemas específicos que causan conflictos

Si hay algunas cuestiones específicas que están causando desacuerdos y conflictos en su relacióntienes que escribirlos.

Your partner should do the same. After you’ve done this, you need to exchange your papers. Then, talk about all those things.

Tu pareja debe conocer todas las cosas que te molestan. A continuación, debes ofrecerle algunas soluciones sobre cómo te gustaría resolver esos problemas.

Créeme, ser honesto y directo sobre las cosas que te molestan es una de las maneras más fáciles de resolver tus problemas matrimoniales.

Also, you have to accept that some things can’t be fixed, no matter how much you try. The past can’t be changed and you need to let it go. Learn how to forgive and forget.

5. Desintoxica todas tus emociones negativas

Once you’ve had the talk with your partner and said all things that were bothering you, it’s time for an emotional detox.

When someone hurts us, the easiest thing to do is to ignore it and suppress your emotions. The problem is that you won’t make your emotions go away if you ignore them.

Suprimir las emociones durante mucho tiempo puede tener consecuencias en tu salud mental. Puede hacerte sentir triste, deprimido o incluso frustrado y amargado.

You have to take control of your emotions again. You shouldn’t let them control you.

Don’t say something in the heat of the moment because you know you’ll regret it later. And then it might be too late for forgiveness.

By removing all those negative feelings, you can create space for some new and better ones. After you release all those awful feelings, you’ll be more relaxed and you’ll be able to achieve inner peace.

6. Reaviva la chispa en tu relación

¿Sabes por qué la chispa nunca se apaga en una relación sana? Porque ambos se esfuerzan por mantenerla.

It’s really all up to you and your significant other. You have to be willing to work on your relationship and bring the spark back. There are so many simple ways you can do this.

Regain lost intimacy. It’s one of the most important parts of every relationship. It reflects the level of trust and connection between you and your spouse.

Planifique la cita más romántica de su vida. Escápese un fin de semana. Planifique un viaje o unas vacaciones. Sorprenda a su pareja y organícelo todo sin que se entere.

Da un romántico paseo por la playa al atardecer. Prepara un picnic y trae una manta. No hay nada más romántico que tumbarse juntos bajo las estrellas.

Flirt like you’ve just met. Compliment your partner whenever you get the chance, but be careful, you have to mean it.

Get out of your comfort zone and do something you’ve never tried before. Get your adrenaline pumping. Try bungee jumping together or another similar activity.

7. Los insultos rompen el trato

Insultar es un abuso verbal and it is the first red flag of an unhealthy and abusive relationship. It’s not how you’ll resolve your conflicts.

Por mucho que te enfades con tu pareja, siempre debes intentar evitar los insultos.

Both you and your partner should set some boundaries on what’s acceptable behavior and how should you treat one another.

You mustn’t cross your partner’s boundaries even when you’re fighting and you get angry.

Sé que nunca queremos decir algunas de las cosas horribles que decimos mientras peleamos, pero aun así pueden herir a nuestro ser querido.

You know that you’ll regret it later for sure and apologize to your partner, but maybe by then it’ll be too late to apologize.

If you do it often, you’ll ruin your partner’s self-esteem. You’ll make them feel like they aren’t worthy of you. One day, your partner may forgive you for those insults, but they’ll never be able to forget it.

If you’ve already made this mistake, you have to stop name-calling right away because verbal abuse – like any other abuse – gets worse with time.

8. Aceptar el pasado

Si tu pareja te hizo algo malo en el pasado y decidiste perdonarle, entonces tienes que olvidarlo y dejar que se quede en el pasado. 

Why talk about it all the time when you can’t change it? You can do nothing about it. You can only believe your partner will change and that they won’t repeat their mistake ever again.

I know that it’s not easy, but you have to accept your past in order to move on properly (even if it means going through an recuperación de la aventura). 

Date un poco de espacio si lo necesitas. Quédate a solas con tus pensamientos y piensa en todo lo que ha pasado en tu matrimonio.

That’s why expressing your emotions is important, once again. If you don’t let your emotions out, you’ll stay stuck in the past.

The only thing you should think about and be focused on is your future because that’s where you’re going. Don’t look back. Don’t bother with things that have passed.

9. Vuelve a centrarte en ti mismo

It’s human nature to blame the other person for failures and mistakes. Well, you can’t blame your partner for all the bad things that happened in your relationship. It’s not all your partner’s fault.

Don’t focus only on their mistakes because you made mistakes also. Think about that. Think about your mistakes and how much they contributed to ruining your marriage.

Don’t say that they’ll have to fix their mistakes to make your marriage work again. Remember, a marriage is all about teamwork.

Tenéis que trabajar juntos en vuestros errores. Tenéis que funcionar como uno solo. Si le haces algo a tu pareja que sabes que te haría daño si alguien te hiciera lo mismo a ti, ¿por qué lo haces?

You bear the same guilt for the situation you’re currently in. You’re both guilty for ALMOST ruining your marriage.

10. Mejórate a ti mismo y conviértete en un mejor cónyuge

You constantly have to work on yourself and try to be a better spouse. Don’t be too stubborn and let your pride be more important to you than your partner.

Learn to admit when you’re wrong. Always apologize for your mistakes and take responsibility for them.

Think about all the things that your partner does for you every day. You have to show that you see them and that you’re grateful for everything.

Las pequeñas cosas son siempre las más importantes. Prepárales un baño cuando vuelvan del trabajo. Prepárales su plato favorito. Dale un masaje.

Pregúntales cómo les ha ido el día. Da las gracias siempre que hagan algo bueno por ti. Demuéstrales que les aprecias.

You can’t start working on your relationship until you start working on yourself. You have to change the things about yourself that were obviously damaging your relationship.

Don’t give up

As we already said, this is just a phase and it’s going to pass. You have to be patient and willing to work to make things right.

Entonces, ¿cómo salvar un matrimonio? No abandonando. Hay un millón de maneras de intentar salvarlo, y abandonar es la última.

I’m not going to lie and say it’s going to be easy. Marriage is hard work. But if you ask me if it is worth it, my answer will always be the same. Marriage is sacred and YES, it’s worth fighting for.

Sin embargo, antes de hacer nada, tienes que daros un poco de espacio a ti y a tu pareja. Tienes que pensar en tu matrimonio y en tus propios sentimientos.

El único caso en el que no merece la pena salvar un matrimonio es cuando usted y su pareja han dejado de quererse. Entonces, realmente, nada merece la pena.