Si tienes que inclinarte hacia atrás para estar con él, no es el indicado

Es muy duro ser siempre el que pone todo el esfuerzo mientras la otra parte no hace absolutamente nada.

You bend over backward for someone, you do the impossible to make things between the two of you work even though you know deep down it’s pointless but you can’t seem to help yourself.

Te preocupas tanto por ellos que no dejas de intentarlo con la esperanza de que te acepten. Por desgracia, casi nunca lo hacen.

Your emotions shouldn’t exhaust you.

Sure, relationships demand investments but they have to go from both sides. They re about give and take and you can’t just keep on giving without getting anything in return.

Agotarás cada átomo de tus fuerzas. Echarás de menos el calor. Echarás de menos tener a alguien en quien apoyarte. Echarás de menos todo lo que sigues dando desinteresadamente.

Te echarás de menos porque, antes de que te des cuenta, estarás emocionalmente agotado sin nada que dar, ni a ti mismo ni a los demás.

You shouldn’t take the role of a martyr in your relationship. True love doesn’t need sacrifices to that extent.

Le has dado tanto que ya no te queda nada que darte a ti misma.

He shouldn’t behave like he is entitled to your heart. He shouldn’t expect your call or text when he hasn’t reached out for hours or even days. He shouldn’t rely on you to make plans and go above and beyond so you guys could meet.

He shouldn’t take for granted the fact that you are always there for him when he needs you. He shouldn’t come and go from your life and assume that you can flip the switch on your heart.

You might be used to all of that but that’s not how things should work.

You will probably come to a point where everything starts to feel normal even though it’s far from it. You are just used to things being bad that you have made peace with it.

This is your wake up call. It’s time to stop fighting for someone who isn’t right for you. It’s time to stop being a doormat he walks on.

Deberías ser la luz de su mundo y no algo que pueda pisar.

Tienes que tomar conciencia de que te mereces algo mejor. Te mereces el amor que sigues dando. Te mereces a alguien en quien puedas confiar.

Someone you can call or wake up in the middle of the night because you just had a nightmare you can’t snap out of. Someone who makes you laugh and enjoys your smiling face.

Alguien que te respete. Alguien que hace todas esas pequeñas grandes cosas como texto con regularidad (en lugar de ignorando tus mensajes) y planificar las citas con antelación. Alguien que se implique e invierta en la relación tanto como tú.

Everything else is too little. Everything else is just crumbs. Everything else is forcing a relationship that isn’t meant to be.

The bad shouldn’t outweigh the good.

Your emotions shouldn’t jump up and down from happiness to sadness based on his mood of that day. Sure everyone has their bad days but that doesn’t mean you can take it off out another person or treat her like crap.

El amor es bondadoso y nunca debe hacerte daño. Nunca debería hacerte sentir pequeño y poco apreciado. Nunca debería hacerte sentirse solo .

True love doesn’t tolerate onesidedness.

It needs balance. It needs equal investments. It needs to flow from one person to the other. It needs reciprocity. Without it, it can’t survive.

You know that well. Just peak into your heart and see that it isn’t full anymore. It lacks affection and attention and, more importantly, it lacks self-love.

If he truly was the one you wouldn’t have to bend over backward to be with him.

You shouldn’t have to work so hard to keep him in your life. You shouldn’t go to all the lengths to make him treat you properly. You shouldn’t read his mixed signals and be the one who always tries and gives more.

He should be there, too. He should give back all that he is taking. He should be there through thick or thin. He should be in this relationship with you. And that’s the only truth.

Al fin y al cabo, el amor está hecho para dos. Dos personas que se quieren profundamente y que harían cualquier cosa por permanecer juntas.