8 señales de que te está haciendo perder el tiempo aunque estés segura de que es el indicado

Es increíble cómo a veces nos enamoramos y nunca vemos las señales de que alguien no es quien creemos que es.

So, there’s a guy in your life, right?

You think that you’re amazing together but there’s this little scared voice in your head telling you that there’s something wrong.

So, you silence that voice, and make yourself believe everything is just perfect. But what if it isn’t?

Siga leyendo para enterarse a tiempo y ahorrarse una gran decepción más adelante.

1. He doesn’t initiate meaningful conversations

Un chico que se ve a sí mismo pasando toda la vida contigo estará ansioso por aprender tantas cosas sobre ti como pueda.

La intimidad y la conexión entre dos personas que están realmente enamoradas es un vínculo muy importante que hace que la gente quiera compartirlo todo con esa persona especial.

If he only talks about random, shallow stuff with you, he doesn’t truly care about discovering who you are deep inside.

This goes to show there isn’t true intimidad entre vosotros dos y deberíais dejar de idealizar vuestra relación.

2. Carece de coherencia

You maybe haven’t thought about this much, but pay attention. Does it seem to you that he only calls you up when it’s convenient for him?

¿No está dispuesto a cambiar sus planes por ti y quedar contigo cuando tú quieras verle?

Lamentablemente, esto significa que probablemente only calls you when he’s bored y de hecho te tiene en un segundo plano.

You shouldn’t put up with a guy who doesn’t cherish you as su primera opción – he’s wasting your time.

3. He doesn’t give you the smallest sign of affection or attention

You can’t really remember a time he called just to tell you he was thinking of you.

Everything seems okay when you’re together, but once he’s away, he’s definitely away, with no sign of his existence whatsoever.

Of course, everybody has a lot on their plate, but sending a quick message doesn’t really take much time.

This probably means that he’s not thinking of you as much as you’re thinking of him, which is a clear sign he’s a time waster and not who you believe him to be.

4. He doesn’t ask about your day

When you get together he’s willing to talk about anything and share details of his day, but he hardly ever asks about yours.

Cuando alguien nos importa de verdad, nos interesamos muchísimo por lo que le ocurrió durante el tiempo que estuvimos separados de él.

Not asking how your day went means he’s focused on himself and the fun part of your relationship – he doesn’t really care much about you, your feelings, habits, or your life in general.

You may not notice this at first, but as time passes you’ll start sentirse solo y abandonado en tu relación.

5. Te miente

You may never have caught him lying about something big, but you’ve noticed he isn’t a stranger to telling quite a few small lies.

He feels comfortable lying and you can tell that it’s a part of who he is.

Podrías pensar que sólo te dijo esas mentiras para quedar mejor porque estaba nervioso por conseguir que le vieras de la mejor manera posible.

Still, the truth is, if he ever planned anything serious with you, he’d be open about who he is from the very beginning.

You can’t base a relationship on lies.

6. Nunca se fija en los detalles

Even though it’s not uncommon for guys not to notice every little detail about us gals, a guy who truly loves you will notice plenty.

He’ll at least know your favorite movie, band, food… what makes you laugh and the things that you don’t like or those that make you mad.

When you think about it, most of us know these things about many of our acquaintances, why wouldn’t he know about yours?

Well, the answer is simple – it’s because he isn’t interested in getting to know you better or making you happy.

7. Nunca te pregunta por tus planes de futuro

Una persona que te quiere se preocupa por tus sueños, tus objetivos y tus planes de futuro.

Whether you’re at the beginning of your relationship or you’ve been dating for a while, a guy who wants to be with you will be intrigued by how you want to spend your time in the future.

If he envisioned spending his future with you, he’d definitely ask questions about the way you see yours.

If he hasn’t, I’m sorry to say that he probably doesn’t see himself spending that much time with you, no matter how you feel about him.

 8. Nunca hace preguntas sobre las otras personas de tu vida

You’ve never heard him mention your friends or family. You might think that he’s just not that curious and he only cares about what he has with you, but…

A guy who’s getting to know you and is willing to commit to you will definitely care about finding out at least a couple of things about your upbringing, the names of your parents, if you have siblings, or what are your friends like.