4 razones por las que tomarse un descanso equivale al fin de una relación

Lately, taking a break from a relationship has become a common practice for couples. This way, technically you haven’t ended your relationship but you’re not a couple anymore either.

But, is it really possible to just “take a break”? Let’s hear what the experts have to say about the subject.

Ojos que no ven, corazón que no siente

I’m sure you’ve heard the saying “out of sight, out of mind”. Well, let me tell you that this kind of saying actually is more than just an empty phrase.

Por supuesto, hay situaciones en las que la ausencia hace que el corazón se vuelva más cariñoso.

Sin embargo, hay una diferencia entre elegir estar separado de tu ser querido y estar obligado a vivir en esas circunstancias.

Basically, what I’m trying to tell you is that there is a huge possibility that you and your partner will desenamorarse entre sí durante este periodo.

Raras son las parejas que aprovechan este tiempo para replantearse su relación y reflexionar. De hecho, la mayoría acaban dándose cuenta de lo maravillosa que es su vida de solteros.

Not only that: the time apart will give you both a chance to meet someone else. You don’t have to actually start a new relationship but you will certainly act like you’re single.

If nothing else, you’ll probably end up flirting with another person. Of course, this increases the risk of this person fascinating you and erasing your boyfriend from your mind.

Problemas en el paraíso tras las vacaciones

Aunque tu pareja y tú sobreviváis a la ruptura y decidáis volver a intentarlo, sería demasiado optimista esperar la perfección en vuestra relación.

In fact, it is likely that you’ll have to face numerous post-break troubles.

Whether you like it or not, there will be some inevitable trust issues you won’t be able to escape.

What did you both do while you weren’t together? How can you trust that you both remained faithful during this break?

On the other hand, if you agreed to act like you were single while you weren’t together, don’t think that you’ll be able to ignore this fact once you reconcile.

You’ll want to know who your partner dated. Did he sleep with other girls? Most importantly: did he start feeling something for them?

If the answer is yes, you’ll wonder whether the love he feels for you is even real. If you spent all of your time apart echándole de menos¿cómo pudo olvidarte con tanta facilidad?

Running away from the problem doesn’t get you anywhere

Let’s be honest here: when you’re taking a break in your relationship, you’re actually running away from each other.

You and your boyfriend clearly don’t have the capacity to resolve your problems otherwise you would stay together until you find a solution.

Instead, you shut your eyes, bury your issues, and expect them to magically go away after some time. I’m sorry – but how exactly do you expect this to work?

Sé que supones que el tiempo te aportará cierta claridad. Crees que te dará la oportunidad de cambiar de perspectiva.

Lo ves como una oportunidad para que se enfríen las pasiones. Una oportunidad para reflexionar y tomar la decisión correcta sin que las emociones se interpongan.

However, the bottom line is that these are all empty excuses. What you’re actually doing is running away from the problem and hoping it won’t chase you any further.

Well, I hate to be the one to break your heart but this approach won’t get you anywhere. Your issues and dilemmas will still be there afterward and they can’t be solved without healthy communication.

It’s an empty excuse

Al fin y al cabo, las rupturas de pareja no suelen ser más que excusas. Normalmente, la persona que pide una ruptura lo tiene todo planeado.

Si tu novio es el que inicia este cambio, en la mayoría de los casos, significa que simplemente tiene miedo de decirte la verdad.

Maybe he is afraid of how you’ll react and is scared of crushing your heart, so he’s masking his real intentions by asking for a break.

On the other hand, maybe he is the one who can’t accept that the end is near. It is possible that it’s easier for him to suggest taking a break than actually ruptura contigo.

Sin embargo, todo esto es una cuestión de terminología y teoría. Hay algunas diferencias entre las interpretaciones, pero los significados son los mismos.