Reparar un corazón roto

So, your heart has been broken and you’re pretty sure you’ll never be able to open yourself up to something new. How can you let yourself be so vulnerable ever again? This is it. You’re destined to be an old maid, alone in a house with a dozen cats. Sigh.

Cuando te rompen el corazón, puedes sentir que nunca volverás a amar. Apenas tienes energía para cumplir con tu horario diario. Lo único que quieres es quedarte en pijama y comer bombones. Pero, no temas, hay una filosofía de vida que te puede salvar la vida.

If it’s meant to be, it will be.

This is as true as it is simple. Learning to let love go, knowing that if the relationship is meant to be, it will return and if not, it’s for the better, is key. There are also some simple steps you must take to successfully make it through to the other side, though. Si las sigues, será más fácil pasar a la aceptación y a un lugar mejor mental y emocionalmente. Será más fácil permitirse sanar.

Atraviésalo, no lo rodees. The only way to truly heal is to allow yourself to fully understand what happened to cause the partnership to end. This means accepting what you could and couldn’t have changed. But, don’t dwell on these things. They are learning lessons. By making mistakes, we understand how we will do this differently next time. In acknowledging how we were hurt by another person, and that there are certain things we can’t control, we better understand what traits we do not want in a future relationship.

Finge hasta que lo consigas. It’s an age-old saying that carries a lot of weight. You’re bound to feel crappy after a relationship ends. This isn’t anything to be ashamed of—it’s perfectly natural. However, focusing on positive thinking will help attract positivity. Try centering your thoughts on life’s optimistic attributes and be grateful for these.

Encuentra y disfruta de nuevo de tu independencia. It’s great to know you’re loved by someone else. It’s even better to have genuine love for yourself. If this feeling was lost in translation when you were too busy giving yourself to another person, find it again. It is important to self-reflect on your strengths and the reasons why you are worthy of true love.

Practica el pensamiento y los sentimientos conscientes. Work on staying in the present rather than focusing too much on the future or dwelling in the past. The present is here, now, and it’s not going to wait. There is a wealth of beauty to learn to appreciate in each moment we’re given. Don’t let the present slip by unacknowledged. Any negative thoughts that creep in should be allowed to exist without judgment. However, using cognitive behavioral concepts to turn them into more positive ruminations will help the healing process.

Recita afirmaciones positivas. Hablando de positividad, recitar afirmaciones es una forma estupenda de mejorar el amor propio and change the way we think indefinitely. Make a list of everything you love about yourself and reference this as often as needed. Add to it continually. When you really pause to think about it, you will realize how much you have to offer. And, you won’t be so quick to give all of this away.

Déjese llevar por la corriente y tenga la mente abierta. Intenta no cerrarte al mundo que te rodea. Emite positividad, pero mantente abierto para recibirla. Lo más probable es que estuvieras abierta mental y emocionalmente la primera vez que te enamoraste de otra persona. Permítete seguir abierto y receptivo a los demás. De este modo, cuando llegue el momento, alguien que merezca todo el amor que aún tienes por dar se cruzará en tu camino.

The number one thing to remember is that no one deserves to take away your happiness and no one can do so unless you let them. This is your journey. It’s not about anyone else—the focus needs to be on yourself, healing from the inside out. You will get through this! And, when you do, you will realize everything happens for a reason. Hang in there.