Un hombre se niega a sacrificar una noche a la semana para ayudar a su mujer con un recién nacido

Ladies, be honest. Who does more work around the baby, you or your partner? Yeah, that’s what I thought.

Este nuevo capítulo es increíble y está lleno de alegría, pero también de noches sin dormir y muchos retos. Everything’s easier when you have a devoted man by your side who’s not afraid of dirty diapers and a little screaming creature.

Por desgracia, seguimos viviendo en un mundo en el que people think that a man’s only obligation ends with making a baby. Cuando la realidad les abofetea en la cara y se dan cuenta de que ser padres es un trabajo a tiempo completo, quieren salir corriendo. 

Las mujeres, en cambio, son otro tipo de héroes y pueden aguantar mucho. Pero esta madre finalmente llegó a su punto de ruptura.

Una madre exhausta se queja en Reddit

Una mujer contó su historia en Reddit hoping other people would confirm her expectations weren’t unreasonable. She recently gave birth to a baby girl and was stunned by her husband’s behavior.

Empezó a explicarle su rutina habitual antes de la llegada del bebé:

“Before I was pregnant, he used to go to his soccer games (and, more importantly, the drinking afterward) twice per week, and he went running on Sunday and/or on his day off for hours on end. There used to be weeks when we would only see/talk to each other for a few minutes in bed.”

Así que, como era de esperar, su mujer quería que pasara más tiempo con ella y su recién nacido. Ella escribió:

“Since I got pregnant, I asked him to scale back his soccer/drinking to once a week and to plan his runs closer to home so that he’s not gone an entire day. He reluctantly agreed after lots of fighting and drama.”

Un día, cuando volvió a casa del trabajo, se marchó después de sólo dos horas. La barbacoa con los amigos era más importante para él que pasar tiempo con su familia. 

Since he didn’t come back until 11 p.m., she texted him saying to sleep downstairs so he wouldn’t wake her and the baby up. Una petición aparentemente pequeña se convirtió en una gran discusión. Fue entonces cuando empezó a quejarse de todo.

“My husband says I’m taking away his freedom”

Su marido pensaba que las expectativas que tenía eran injustas. Ella se lo explicó:

“Apparently, he believes I take away his freedom when I ask him to let me know when he will be home. He needs to ‘feel the atmosphere of the night’ before he can decide when to come home. I ask him so I at least know something so I can plan my night accordingly, but to him, that is unfair.”

But it didn’t end there. He continued complaining about how Sacrificar una noche a la semana ha sido duro para él. The baby’s only been with them for one week, and he’s already tired? Poor guy. She continued by writing:

“He has also said that taking care of my needs during pregnancy (so basically giving up one night of soccer and drinking) has pushed him to the edge of burnout. During pregnancy, he threatened to leave me if he would not be allowed to do whatever he wanted once the baby arrived.”

¡Imagínate la audacia! ¡Creo que el padre actúa más como un bebé que como su propio hijo! Oh, qué sorpresa, tenemos que renunciar a nuestro tiempo libre una vez que tenemos hijos. ¡¿Quién esperaría eso?!

People also agreed he’s acting selfish and is not setting his priorities straight. One person commented:

“He’s behaving like this with a 3-week-old child? I’m all for parents finding a way to make both solo and couple social time happen, but the ink on that baby’s birth certificate isn’t even dry yet. Home needs to be his first priority 100% of the time right now.”

I couldn’t agree more! At this point, divorcing him now wouldn’t change anything since she’s living like a single parent either way.

Sin embargo, no todo el mundo piensa que el padre es el único equivocado aquí. Some say that he deserves to have his free time since he’s the one working. Someone wrote:

“IN MY OPINION, you’re both wrong. He seems to work quite a bit, and he needs to take a break from that as well. However, the same courtesy needs to be applied to BOTH of you. If you are a SAHM, and/or you don’t have your own friends, you are relying on HIS interaction with you to be your social fill and that is asking for a lot from a person. He needs to do his part as a parent too, but, realistically, if you both do your part and give each other grace, you both will get your needs taken care of.”

¿Le parece justo? Porque working shouldn’t be an excuse for not taking care of your family, especially in these important moments. No one wants to be tired but that’s just life. Women are often exhausted but still, no one bothers to ask them if they need a break.

Las madres lo dan todo y sacrifican su cuerpo, mente y alma during 9 months of pregnancy and even after. And dads can’t let go of one night with the boys. Talk about disrespect! 

Mientras que algunos padres hacen más de lo que pueden por sus familias, otros no lo hacen. hay que recordar a los hombres que también deben cuidar de sus hijos (chocante, ¿verdad?). Todo es más fácil y divertido cuando se hace en equipo. Y la paternidad no es una excepción. Al fin y al cabo, el trabajo en equipo hace realidad el sueño. 

Así que, la próxima vez que decidas tener hijos, mantener una conversación abierta y sincera con su pareja sobre sus expectativas. Puede que te sorprenda lo que alguien considera normal y razonable.