7 señales de que la gente te encuentra increíblemente atractivo

Do you also get those 3 a.m. thoughts when you overthink your life choices and go over random situations that happened? I think that’s a universal experience. 

I would lay in my bed thinking about how that guy flirted with me 2 months ago and I never realized it. Ugh, that’s the worst! ¿Quién sabe cuántas grandes oportunidades has perdido?

I actually don’t know if it’s worse when you don’t realize someone likes you or when you think someone likes you and they’re just friendly. Both are embarrassing, to be honest.

Pero sí, descifrar a las personas es una habilidad artística. That’s why I read so many books about body language and the psychology behind attractiveness.

And you know what? They all talk about the same things people do when they find you attractive. I’m not gonna lie, some are not really obvious but they make sense when you think about it. It all comes down to:

1. Señales sutiles del lenguaje corporal

Every movement of the body means something. We don’t think much about our posture, what we do with our hands, or how we greet someone, but El lenguaje corporal puede revelar mucho más de lo que pensamos.

For example, if someone’s arms are not crossed it means they are open and feel comfortable around you. Try to see if he leans in when you talk or faces you directly rather than looking somewhere else. This is often a good sign he’s interested! And it works both ways!

Recuerdo una vez que estaba sentada frente a mi enamorado en un grupo de amigos en una fiesta. Él siempre se inclinaba y tenía una postura relajada cuando yo hablaba de cualquier cosa, realmente prestaba atención a mis palabras. No voy a mentir, ¡eso me dio un subidón de confianza instantáneo!

2. Ojos que desvelan la verdad

Alguna vez has pillado a desconocidos mirándote en público y tu primer pensamiento es: “Omg, do I have something on my face?!” Don’t worry, those are only your insecurities speaking! People stare because they admire you!

Truth hides behind eyes, so when you talk to someone, pay attention to them. It’s true when they say that los ojos son la ventana del alma.

Otra pista, más sutil que el contacto visual, es la dilatación de las pupilas. La ciencia dice que hablar con alguien que te resulta atractivo libera las “love hormones” en el cerebro que hacen que tus pupilas se dilaten. Qué locura, ¿verdad?

3. Sonrisa que lo dice todo

Cuando la gente se siente atraída por ti, siempre te sonreirá, pase lo que pase. Incluso los desconocidos te sonreirán sutilmente cuando pases a su lado. 

Aunque se puede fingir, it’s hard to hide it when you really like someone! It’s pretty easy to see when a person is (not) genuine around you. And if they laugh at your jokes (even the lame ones) that’s a real deal!

I’ve never been really good at telling jokes so whenever I tried to be funny no one would laugh. But not him. He would always laugh heartily even at my lamest jokes! I wish I realized sooner that maybe I had a chance with him.

4. Lluvia de cumplidos

Now this one can be a bit tricky, but over some time it’ll become clear who is sincere in their words. Some might try to manipulate you to get something in return by using sweet words around you. 

Sin embargo, la gente que se encapricha de ti a menudo te dará cumplidos que se centran en algo específico o único. They won’t be superficial when it comes to you. Honest compliments don’t feel forced or too calculated. 

A guy once told me how my eyes get a really special spark when I talk about things I’m passionate about so he would listen to me all day even if he didn’t understand anything about it. I blushed so hard and was in awe by his words that I didn’t even realize the underlying message at that moment!

5. Reflejar su comportamiento

Es algo que todos hacemos inconscientemente. Miramos a las personas que admiramos e intentamos actuar como ellas para ganarnos su aprobación. 

Si las mujeres a menudo imitar sus gestos con las manos y su lenguaje corporal, just know they’re totally into you! Sometimes they’ll even use phrases specific to you and talk in the same way. Men do the same!

Just think about how you’re acting when you’re near different people you like and you’ll see that each time you adapt and show the other side of yourself. 

6. Deseo de su presencia física

I have an incredibly attractive friend. No matter where we are, people just gravitate towards him, even strangers! They want to stand and sit next to him or join any conversation he has. He was always oblivious and didn’t realize any of it!

When people think you’re attractive they naturally want to be close to you. You are like a magnet that attracts them and they simply can’t resist it.

Hay muchas pistas que pueden darte, como sentarse siempre a tu lado en un grupo de gente, o ir a donde estés. Créeme, ese choque fortuito contigo o ese toque sutil de tu mano no es accidental como puedes pensar.

7. Buscar la conexión

If they really like you, people can’t get enough of you! Siempre quieren saber más y nunca me cansaré de escucharte hablar de ti mismo, de tu vida, aficiones, pasión, trabajo, ¡lo que sea!

I realized this when I talked to one guy and we somehow ended on my favorite topic – science! I swear I talked so much and he just stood there and listened. Later on, he admitted he didn’t understand half of the things I was saying but just enjoyed listening to me.

Los hombres también te harán muchas preguntas si te encuentran interesante y quieren llamar tu atención. Cada minuto que pasas contigo es precioso and men don’t want to waste their time. And trust me, women are the same!So there you have it! Decoding people doesn’t have to be so complicated anymore and you don’t need to worry about missing signals from your crush like me. Don’t be afraid to also use these cues to show someone you find them attractive. Who knows where that’ll lead you!