Salir con un chico tímido es un reto, pero merece la pena

I have a confession to make. For a long time, I thought that shy guys were extremely boring creatures. So, whenever a shy guy asked me on a date, I would make an excuse only to avoid “the torture” of going out with one.

Y entonces me di cuenta. I realized how foolish I was for not giving shy guys a chance because, let’s be honest, everyone deserves a chance (except players, of course).

My first date with a shy guy was unexpectedly awesome. Okay, it was a little bit awkward for the first few minutes, but later on, everything felt so refreshing and fun. I didn’t need to be convinced to go on a second or third date because I REALLY wanted to and enjoyed every single minute of it.

Today I feel it’s my holy duty to spread the word about shy guys being true undiscovered gems!
Puede que no hablen mucho, pero cuando lo hacen, pueden hacerte reír con unas pocas palabras sabiamente elegidas.

Su aura misteriosa es algo tan adictivo que resulta irresistible estar cerca de ellos.
Dating a shy guy has so many benefits, but I would be a liar if I told you that you wouldn’t face any challenges.

It’s hard to decipher if a shy guy likes you, and it takes a lot of time and effort to help them open up to you.

Otra cosa complicada es diferenciar a un chico tímido de un jugador (porque los jugadores pueden ser realmente astutos). PERO, ¡no todas las esperanzas están perdidas!

If you’re thinking about dating a shy guy (or you’re already dating one), here’s everything you need to know about them!

¿Es un jugador (disfrazado) o un tipo genuinamente agradable que sólo es tímido?

It’s difficult to differentiate between a shy guy and a legit player because they have one thing in common: Ambos dan señales contradictorias.

Let’s say that you meet a nice guy and notice that he has difficulty opening up to you. If he’s a player, he could easily pretend that he has trust issues or that he’s a shy guy who needs more time to feel comfortable around you.

Or he could be a genuinely nice guy who is just shy. It’s hard to decipher their intentions and make valid conclusions about their personality.

But there are some things that are specific to every shy guy out there. If you notice that he’s doing these things, know that these are legit señales de que estás tratando con un chico tímido (y no un jugador):

• He prefers texting over calling

• He doesn’t tell you much about himself (in the beginning)

• He doesn’t enjoy public displays of affection too much

• He’s a true gentleman

• He puts a lot of effort into being romantic in his own way

Remember that shy guys aren’t like other guys out there. They have a specific personality and require time and patience to get to know them better.

At first, you might think that they aren’t interested in you because they have difficulty showing their.

Pero, después de algún tiempo, te darás cuenta de lo intrigante que es realmente su mentalidad.

¿Cómo saber si le gustas a un chico tímido?

Otro reto cuando se trata de chicos tímidos es cómo saber si les gustas o no. De hecho, ¿cómo sabes que están interesados en ti cuando realmente no lo demuestran y no te lo dicen?

I’m too afraid to imagine how many romances failed before they even started because a girl couldn’t read between the lines and realize that a shy guy liked her.

Eso puede ser frustrante tanto para los chicos tímidos como para sus chicas potenciales. Entonces, ¿cómo puedes saber si le gustas a un chico tímido?

La forma más fácil de entender lo que les pasa por la cabeza es prestar atención a su lenguaje corporal y a estos señales de que le gustas a un chico tímido:

• He looks at you A LOT (when you’re not looking)

• He has difficulty creating meaningful sentences in your presence

• He’s extra clumsy around you

• He goes out of his way to please you (and be at your service)

• He listens to you carefully

• He showers you with likes on social media

• His friends tease him about having (a secret) crush on you

• He tries hard to impress you

• He has difficulty locking eyes with you

Hay muchas otras señales de que le gustas a un chico tímido, pero éstas son las más comunes, así que asegúrate de prestarles mucha atención.

Now, if you’re having second thoughts about whether you should date a shy guy (or not), here is my humble experience with shy guys.

En mi opinión, ¡los tímidos son los nuevos guapos!

I’ve had my fair share of dealing with players and other types of toxic men, so maybe that’s the main reason why I’m a firm believer that shy guys are the new hot. Whatever it be, I know that I’ll never look at them the same way I used to.

If you’re still a little bit skeptical about the nature of shy guys (like the old me), I’ll do my best to explain their peculiar personality in detail.

At first, you might think that there’s nothing interesting going on in their minds, and spending time with them equals ultimate boredom. After some time, you will realize how mysterious, humble, and down to earth they are.

It’s truly impressive how their minds work and how they always manage to say the right thing at the right time.

There’s nothing more exciting in the whole world than revealing their enigmatic personalities bit by bit. There is so much you can learn from them and about them, trust me on this.

So, if you ask me, shy guys are DEFINITELY the new hot. Their inspiring perspectives and enticing personalities are things that can capture any girl’s heart, only if she decides to give them a chance. So, will you give him a chance?

Si lo desea, aquí tiene algunas cosas que debes tener en cuenta al salir con un chico tímido:

• Focus on asking him open-ended questions.

If you ask a shy guy questions that can be answered with a simple “Yes” or “No,” you will not establish meaningful communication with him. Instead, focus on asking him interesting open-ended questions. These questions can be about shared interests, things he likes, his childhood, hobbies, etc.

• Find some common interests.

The easiest way to bond with a shy guy is by finding common interests (I’ve realized this the hard way). Think about all the things that you could have in common. It could be anything from your favorite sweets to movies.

Remember, the goal is to find one thing that you’re both passionate about because this will tell a shy guy that you’re just like him (well, to a certain extent).

• Stick to his preferred method of communication.

No shy guy ever would be pleased with talking to you over the phone. Mostly, their preferred method of communication is via text, so you should stick to it. Don’t force him to call or, God forbid, video call you because this could make him feel uncomfortable and scared.

• Don’t rush introducing him to your friends and family.

You shouldn’t rush with introducing a shy guy to your friends and family because that might scare him off. Keep in mind that meeting new people is a real challenge for them because they have difficulties opening up.

Intentar impresionar a tus amigos y padres y, al mismo tiempo, lidiar con sus pensamientos ansiosos puede resultar agotador para ellos.

• The GOLDEN RULE of dating a shy guy: Always give him enough space.

Los tímidos necesitan su espacio más que nada en el mundo. Don’t force them to talk to you when you see that they’re not interested in it at that moment. Don’t force them to do anything if you know that they’re not comfortable with it.

That’s the golden rule when it comes to mastering the art of dating a shy guy.

• Don’t pressure him to open up to you.

Si crees que presionando a un chico tímido conseguirás que se abra a ti, piénsalo otra vez. El único resultado de presionarlo será ahuyentarlo.

Los chicos tímidos necesitan tiempo para sentirse cómodos compartiendo cosas contigo, y una vez que se sientan cómodos a tu lado, te dejarán entrar en su mundo mágico. Además, te agradecerán que les des tiempo para poner en orden sus sentimientos.

• NEVER share things he tells you in confidence.

Once you betray a shy guy’s trust, the game is over, and I truly mean it. Earning their trust and helping them open up to you is a challenge in itself.

So, if they find out that what they’ve told you in secret has been shared with other people, they will instantly become reserved again. Be smart and never share things he tells you in confidence (this applies to other non-shy people as well).