20 cosas que debes tener en cuenta al salir con un chico tímido

En tu constante búsqueda de Casanovas altos, morenos y guapos, a menudo dejas de ver los beneficios únicos de salir con un chico tímido!

Su primera cita con un hombre tímido might not exactly be a walk in the park, but if you’re willing to make the primer paso and follow my brilliant tips, you’re in for a fun ride.

Let’s be real for a second. How many times have you been burned by a hot, mysterious, presumir que acabó siendo mucho más de lo que esperabas?

For me, the number is almost limitless. So let’s switch it up. Let’s start seeing the amazing potential of the quiet introvertido al lado.

Let’s tomar la iniciativa y empezar a dar amabilidad, tímidos la oportunidad de demostrar lo geniales que son. Porque pueden, y muy probablemente se ¡sorprenderte!

En primer lugar, echa un vistazo a estos consejos súper prácticos, después de lo cual comparto por qué definitivamente debe dar un chico tímido el beneficio de la duda

Cómo salir con un Chico tímido20 consejos brillantes

Don’t focus on his quietness from the get-go

Centrarse en su lado introvertido desde el principio es un paso en falso. En su lugar, intente crear un entorno cómodo para pasar el rato where he’ll feel at ease.

Personas con ansiedad social don’t really want to discuss it at length. Your best bet is to observe his lenguaje corporal y ver cómo responde a tus esfuerzos.

Chicos tímidos son realmente buenos oyentessiempre y cuando le vayas sacando poco a poco de su... zona de confort. Whether it’s a cita para cenar or just coffee, don’t be discouraged if there are silencios incómodos.

That’s perfectly normal for any date, let alone with a chico tímido. Toma la iniciativainiciar la conversación y hacer que contacto visual.

Cuanto más fácil se lo pongas, más posibilidades de éxito tendrás. Cara a cara compromisos pueden dar lugar a torpeza for him, so it’s on you to break the ice.

Hágale preguntas abiertas

Con extrovertidos, it’s pretty chill. The conversation is most likely to develop organically as there are no issues with autoestima por ninguna de las partes.

Pero con un chico tímido, you’ll need these consejos de citas more than you know. Even if it’s un tipo que‘ve known since instituto or you’re just meeting him for the primera vezEnfócate en cómo enfocas la conversación.

Ask him open-ended questions that won’t give him the chance to just reply yes or no. That way, you’ll allow him to introduce you to his world a bit without being pushy.

Chicos tímidos (y chicas tímidas) tienen un mal rato abriéndose, así que dale un respiro. Puede que no sea él quien pregunte a usted fuera, but if you do this the right way, soon you’ll be considering ideas para citas ¡para la segunda ronda!

Sé un poco ligar, “trick” him into revealing more than he intended (oops), and watch things develop at a surprisingly great speed.

Encuentre intereses comunes y lidere con eso

Your first task is to search for common interests (perhaps you could ask his sibling, best friend, co-worker?) so that you’re prepared.

I know this sounds so robotic, but I promise you, it isn’t. With an introvertido, it’s vital to make it as comfortable as possible ASAP, or their interest will wither.

By doing some research, you’re simply ensuring that there’s enough to talk about without awkward moments of tranquilidad desde el principio.

Maybe you like the same genre of music? Or maybe you’re both super into dogs? Find out, don’t be shy to introduce the topic, and things should go fine after that.

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Averigua cuál es su forma de comunicación preferida y cíñete a ella.

¿Prefiere cara a cara conversación o quizás se siente más cómodo redes sociales?

If it’s the latter, perhaps you could send him a funny photo on Snapchat ...y bromear un poco hasta llegar a una conversación?

But if he’s more into real-life interaction, then don’t be too overbearing with a constant barrage of texts. To you, it might be nothing, but to him, it could be a deal-breaker.

Basically, just feel it out, and once you think you’ve figured out how he prefers to communicate, stick to that.

Don’t feel the need to fill every silence

And there’s a very good reason for that. You see, when dating a chico tímido (o empezar a salir con él), necesitas tener paciencia. Mucha.

These guys won’t just blurt stuff out and see how it goes. For him, it might take a few seconds, or more, to formulate what he wants to say. Don’t question his ways, but just give him a chance to say it.

Incluso si eso significa soportar tranquilidad durante unos segundos. Porque si sigues llenando cada silencio, ¿cómo va a decir algo?

If you’re willing to bear with him and take things super slow at the start, it truly might be worth your while. He could be a real romantic, you just have to let him show you at his own pace.

Don’t expect a lot of spontaneity on his part

Remember, you’re dealing with an introvertido. And they’re not exactly known for being the initiators of anything. And that’s okay.

During the first stages of dating, do most of the heavy lifting and don’t expect him to woo you off your feet with grand gestures. Is that really what you want?

¿O prefiere un buen oyente with a kind heart who won’t constantly talk over you? Because this guy could be a real soñar despierto. Just because he’s not flashy, doesn’t mean he’s not worthy.

La mayoría de los chicos con los que salía eran suaves... extrovertidos, and let’s just say it never led anywhere good. 

Pero con un introvertido, there’s this peace of mind that overcomes you with time, and it simply can’t be replaced.

Sea sincero sobre su interés

He might not exactly pick up on your subtle signals since he’s not the most extroverted guy ever. So you’re going to have to be upfront.

If you like something about him, openly tell him, don’t assume he’ll figure it out. If you keep things to yourself, he’s just going to overthink everything.

If you enjoy his company, by all means, share it with him. This guy wants to know how you feel, but he’s not exactly going to ask you, now is he?

But that’s kind of the beauty of dating a chico tímido. No hay juegos mentales, ni trucos, ni necesidad de dudar de uno mismo. Las cartas están sobre la mesa, lo que lo hace todo muy sencillo.

Pregúntale por su familia y su infancia

This is a wide-ranging subject that might get him talking, and it’s just the right amount of personal.

Sin esperar un relato íntimo de todos los aspectos de su infancia, vaya a lo básico. Pregúntele dónde creció, si tiene hermanos y cómo es su relación con ellos.

Pregúntale por sus padres, a qué se dedican y si viven lejos. Cada cosa que comparta puede ser el preludio de una nueva conversación.

El truco está en escuchar para comprender, no limitarse a responder y seguir adelante. Para desarrollar una conversación significativa, hay que ser un buen oyente.

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Just because he seems underwhelmed, doesn’t mean that he is

Let’s say you’re on your third date, and you’ve just got a new haircut. It’s quite a change and one would have to be blind not to notice it. But he doesn’t.

And you’re kind of perplexed. You feel good about yourself, it’s edgy, cool, and totally unexpected, yet he says nothing. 

But that’s just his way of expression. Just because he’s not lauding your new cute do, doesn’t mean he doesn’t like it. He’s just not the type of guy to proclaim it openly.

If you really care about his opinion, ask him what he thinks! Chances are he likes it but was just hesitant to say anything first. Give him a little nudge and it’ll be okay.

Nunca compartas nada de lo que te diga en confianza

It’s crucial that you be a woman of your word. If he has broken out of his shell and shared an intimate aspect of his life with you, safeguard it no matter what.

Significa mucho más de lo que crees. Chicos tímidos are really difficult to crack. You seldom know what’s on his mind, and he won’t exactly jump at the opportunity to blab his mouth.

So if you’re familiar with something not a lot of his close friends are privy to, consider it an enormous privilege. This is a sign that he’s starting to feel a deep connection with you.

Y si demuestras ser un buen confidente, vuestro vínculo no hará más que reforzarse con el tiempo.

Don’t rush introducing him to your friends and family

Si hay algo que tímidos don’t like, it’s big audiences. That only creates an unnecessary amount of pressure that doesn’t allow them to feel comfortable.

So hold off on the introductory parts. You want to do this the right way. Take it slow and don’t even mention such serious topics unless you feel he might be okay with it.

And remember, if he feels hesitant or seems anxious about the prospect of meeting your friends, it’s not personal. That’s just who he is.

Wait until he’s fully comfortable with you that you can broach this subject, knowing he could actually be up for it. And once this moment comes, choose a place of his liking.

Procure dejarle espacio suficiente

In any type of relationship, it’s so vital that both partners have enough breathing room. Alone time is super important for introspection and recharging.

But with an introverted individual, it’s double the amount. So be sure to let him just be. Don’t constantly text, call, or expect him to spend all of his free time with you.

This dude needs his alone time more than you know. That’s his escape from the real world and everything he has to put up with daily.

Be considerate of this and don’t crowd him when he’s clear about his need to just chill on his own. The more space you give him, the more into you he’ll be.

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If he’s into cozy nights in, there’s nothing wrong with that

Una vez salí con una hombre tímido who wasn’t really big on Cenas en restaurantes elegantes. Siempre se sentía ansioso y abrumado cuando estábamos en salas llenas de gente.

That just wasn’t his scene and it took me some time to accept that. It wasn’t that he was cheap or that he was ashamed to be seen with me. He simply preferred a snuggled night on the couch.

And honestly, aren’t those types of low-key nights the best? There is no pressure to look your best, and you can just totally relax, order takeout, eat your face off, then cuddle over a movie.

En mi opinión, las noches acogedoras son la nueva moda. cita para cenar! If you can be perfectly content just spending the night together doing nothing, then you’ve got an actual shot of making it work.

Ayúdale a superar su torpeza social

Salir con un chico tímido might mean having to hold his hand in a busy street. It provides him with a sense of relief knowing you’re simply there.

I can’t possibly pretend to understand how introvertidos feel since I’m not one, but I will always do my best to be as considerate as possible.

I strongly encourage you to do the same. Be his rock. Hold him down when he’s ridden with anxiety. Show him you’ve got his back and you’re not going anywhere.

The moment you sense he’s starting to feel even slightly uncomfortable, find a good excuse to get out of that situation. Read his lenguaje corporal and you’ll make life easier for him.

Silencie a su crítico interior

After a certain amount of time with someone, we start to develop this sense of freedom to speak our minds. This means that you’ll find it easy to tell your boyfriend off for something silly.

And in most cases, that’s really good, as it shows that your relationship has significantly progressed and reached one of the ultimate stages.

Pero al salir con una chico tímido, you’re going to want to be careful with that. There will definitely be times when you’ll want to criticize him, but stop to see it from his point of view.

Reevaluate the importance of your complaint, then try to word so that he doesn’t take it personally. Ease him into this new, unique aspect of your relationship.

Estar dispuesto a dar pequeños pasos

Rushing into things almost never amounts to anything positive. At least it doesn’t for me. So this may as well be a true blessing in disguise.

To be perfectly honest, yeah, at times, it may seem as if it’s taking forever to reach a new level of intimacy. It may seem as if he’s not as invested as you are.

But that’s just dating a chico tímido, you know? By now you must’ve realized that his lack of speaking up and initiating things doesn’t mean that he’s not exactly where you are.

It’s just that it might take him a bit longer to transcend your current level of romance. Clearly, he enjoys spending time with you. Just give him time to move at your desired pace.

Nunca uses su timidez en su contra

Sometimes, in the heat of the argument, we all say things we don’t necessarily mean. Now imagine saying something nasty to a guy with ansiedad social that you definitely don’t mean.

You’ll be arguing, throwing insults, and all of a sudden, you’ll mention how difficult it’s been for you trying to acclimate to his introverted lifestyle.

That’s not something he’ll just get over. It’ll hurt him like a thousand knives in the chest. His shyness is part of him. He doesn’t choose to be this way.

So when you use this against him (even if you don’t really mean it), to him, it’ll be soul-crushing and devastating.

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Don’t pressure him to open up

If there are still some aspects of his life that he’s unwilling to talk about with you, don’t interrogate him. Don’t be that person who just can’t leave things be.

It’s okay if you’re not privy to every excruciating detail of his life. There is still so much time to discover new things about each other. 

I bet that you haven’t exactly disclosed every single dirty secret to him, have you? So leave it be. He’ll share when he feels like it. Pressuring him will only be counterproductive.

Be chill and let him do his thing. He’ll appreciate you not being pushy, which can only be beneficial for your relationship.

Esté dispuesto a hacer planes usted mismo

Parte de salir con un chico tímido means making arrangements and taking care of things he might feel hesitant to. It’s really not a big deal.

La mayoría de las veces, cuando pasar el rato, you’ll be the one to suggest when or where to meet up next. It’s as simple as that.

It alleviates any unnecessary pressure off him and also allows you to surprise him with something you know he’ll like. Taking charge isn’t so bad.

Plus, with time, he’ll become more comfortable sharing the spotlight.

Apreciarlo tal como es

Just to be clear, there is absolutely nothing negative about being shy. We’re talking about a personality trait that actually carries lots of positives!

A chico tímido can be your soulmate – you just have to let yourself see it. And how are you going to do that? By appreciating this guy exactly the way he is, of course!

No esperando nunca que sea alguien que tú quieres, sino dándole la libertad de vivir su vida auténtica a tu lado. Ser tímido no tiene nada de raro.

He’s just a normal guy who could take your breath away easily. The only thing is that it might take him a bit longer. But so what?

Podría acabar siendo tan un romántico de corazón y te sorprenderá en más de un sentido. Todo lo que tienes que hacer es dejarle ser tan genial y único como es.

Por qué salir con un chico tímido es increíble

• He is an excellent listener. He won’t talk over you or interrupt you mid-sentence. You will always have his full attention and, unlike most guys, he will genuinely care about what you have to say.
• He is modest, sincere, and doesn’t need to be in the center of attention. He keeps his circle small but abundant in quality. Being kind and humble is what he is all about.
• He isn’t interested in toxic mind games. And that is the most refreshing thing in the dating world if you ask me. In a sea of superficial fanfarrones...destacará su sinceridad.
• Es más probable que comprenda sus problemas. Y lo que es mejor, te ofrecerá soluciones útiles y consejos auténticos. Este tipo se preocupa por tu alma, no solo por tu cuerpo.
• Nunca se fijará en tus defectos. Apreciará cada una de tus imperfecciones, manías y defectos. Nunca diseccionará tu apariencia ni te hará sentir indigno.
• He will always be his raw, authentic self. He’ll always tell you like it is. He isn’t interested in projecting who he’s not. With him, what you see is almost always what you get!

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