3 señales alarmantes de que no eres más que su novia de acogida
Últimamente, el término "novia de acogida" está en boca de todos. Aunque los TikTokers lo han popularizado hace poco, el fenómeno existe desde siempre.
Básicamente, una novia adoptiva es aquella con la que los hombres salen hasta que encuentran a su persona para siempre.
La que los chicos utilizan como trampolín para su destino final; la mujer con la que quieren pasar el resto de su vida.
So, how can you tell if you’re someone’s foster girlfriend? Just go through these red flags and if most of them are relatable, everything is crystal clear.
You’re more his parent than his romantic partner
When you come to think about it, if it weren’t for your intimate moments, someone would characterize you as this guy’s mother more than his girlfriend.
La mayor parte del tiempo, actúa como un mocoso inmaduro who doesn’t know what he wants from life.
On the other hand, you’re the one who takes the lead. The one who takes care of him and raises him.
You might think this is how a healthy relationship should work. Well, it would be perfect if all of it wasn’t one-sided.
I hate to be the one to break it to you but you’re just preparing this man for the woman who will come after you.
You’re teaching him everything he needs to know about relationships and life in general.
You’re teaching him good manners, advising him regarding literally everything and you’re pushing him forward to become the best possible version of himself.
Yes, you’ll turn a boy into a man. You’ll spend years watering a plant that will eventually bloom.
Nevertheless, the problem is that you won’t reap the fruits of your labor.
En lugar de eso, haz todo el trabajo duro y la chica que venga detrás de ti se las quedará en su lugar.
Se niega a comprometerse contigo
Another sign that you’re your boyfriend’s foster girlfriend lies in his inability to commit.
Even though you two have been together for ages, he still acts as if your relationship isn’t serious enough.
No se dedica a ti, ni puso ningún esfuerzo en vuestro romance. Además, se niega a hablar del futuro.
He makes plans without you and doesn’t include you in his life the way he should. He doesn’t see you two as partners in crime.
Bueno, déjame decirte algo; you’re not his final destination. Instead, he just sees you as one of the stops along the way.
Please, stop fooling yourself. He is not a commitment-phobe, he just doesn’t want to commit TO YOU.
Actually, this is the entire point. YOU are not the girl he takes seriously, he doesn’t plan his future with YOU and he doesn’t see YOU as his real partner.
No está disponible emocionalmente
Cuando el hombre con el que sales y al que quieres no te da el trato que mereces, en lugar de ver la verdad, le pones excusas.
Don’t worry; almost all women do this.
Bueno, una de las justificaciones más comunes en su situación se alega indisponibilidad emocional.
You’re a smart girl so it didn’t take you long to realize that your guy doesn’t see you as his forever person.
Sin embargo, en lugar de alejarte, llegaste a la conclusión de que él necesita tiempo para derribar los muros que rodean su corazón.
You think he does love you but he doesn’t know how to show it the right way.
Tal vez fue dañado en el pasado, por lo que ahora tiene miedo de abrirse. Él es incapaz de amar a nadie de la manera correcta y este es su máximo.
Suena familiar, ¿verdad? Pues todo esto es un cuento de hadas.
He is not emotionally unavailable. In fact, you’ll see that for yourself once he gives his wholehearted love to her.
All of a sudden, he’ll become everything you wanted him to be.
He won’t have trouble expressing his true feelings, he’ll be romantic and attentive and will go out of his way for the sake of that relationship.
Así que, por favor, quítate las gafas de color de rosa y deja de poner excusas a algo que está condenado al fracaso.
Hey, nobody likes being a foster girlfriend. Let’s be real, this is not something you’ve dreamed about or how you saw your romantic future.
Nevertheless, I’m begging you not to see this as the end of the world. At least, now you know where you stand and you can do something about it.
Lo que nunca debes hacer en estas circunstancias es culparte por ser una novia de acogida.
This is not your fault and it doesn’t make you any less worthy.
You two just didn’t click enough. He’s never seen you as ‘the one’ and your relationship has never been the ‘real deal’.
However, trust me when I tell you that he isn’t ‘the one’ for you either. You’ll understand that once you find your forever person.
