10 señales de que estás demasiado disponible y eso le aleja de ti

Have you ever heard the saying that we’re never too busy for the people we love? While that’s true, the problem is that we actually take those words too seriously.

It’s true that you have to be there for your partner whenever he needs you.

However, that doesn’t mean that you should neglect your personal interests or some other important people in your life and become too available for your man.

Tienes que establecer y respetar unos límites personales. Tienes que demostrarle que tienes una vida aparte de vuestra relación.

Créeme, a veces tienes que hacerte la dura porque no tiene gracia estar siempre demasiado disponible para tu hombre.

Sometimes love can make you blind and it may be hard to realize you’re being too available for your significant other, but here are some sure-fire signs that you should watch out for.

1. Organizas tu tiempo según su horario

Tienes tu trabajo, quizás algunas aficiones, tu familia y tus amigos. Tienes tantas cosas que hacer cada día pero aún así, organizas tu tiempo como tu novio quiere o según su horario.

Incluso en el día más ajetreado, siempre tienes tiempo para hablar o pasar un rato con él. Para ti, nada es tan importante como él. Ni siquiera tu familia o tus amigos.

2. Siempre le llamas primero

You are deeply in love with him and no matter how much time you’ve spent together, you start missing him the moment he leaves.

You miss him whenever he isn’t around. That’s why you always call him first. You always initiate contact because you just want to hear his voice or see how his day was.

Deja ese teléfono y esperar a que dé una llamada por una vez. Tienes que ver si él también te echa de menos y si te llamaría sólo para saber cómo te ha ido el día.

Deja que te persiga para variar.  

3. Respondes a sus mensajes inmediatamente

Each time you get a text from him, you reply to it instantly as if you’ve been waiting for it all day. You even apologize to him every time you don’t reply immediately.

You’re so happy when he texts you that no matter what you are doing or how busy you are, you’ll always make time to chat with him.

4. Tus amistades se resienten

It’s not a problem for you to bail on your friends every time he reschedules. You want to show him that you always have time for him even though it may cost you your friendships. 

If you think that he’ll appreciate it, you’re wrong. All he’ll see is how easy it is for you to bail and let the people you love down.

5. Aceptas sus invitaciones de última hora

Invitar a alguien en el último momento es grosero e irrespetuoso. Sé que te gusta pasar tiempo con él, pero deberías hacerle respetar tus límites.

Don’t be afraid to reject him. Make him realize that you are no one’s option. Also, tell him that you have your own life and that you can’t reschedule your daily obligations to suit him. 

6. Olvidas tus límites personales

Unos límites sanos son buenos para cualquier relación. Si quieres que tu relación dure, tienes que establecer algunos límites y tu pareja debe respetarlas.

If your partner crosses the line, you don’t get mad because you don’t want to initiate a fight in your relationship.

7. Le cuentas todos tus secretos

Even though you don’t know him very well, you reveal all your secrets to him. You think that he shares the same feelings for you and that he’ll keep your secrets safe.

Whenever something new happens, he is the first person you tell. Be careful, you may reveal some things he won’t like.

8. Estás de acuerdo en todo

You are different and it’s only natural that you have different perspectives and opinions about some things. However, you forget this and start agreeing with him about everything.

The word NO isn’t in your vocabulary anymore. You agree with everything your partner says because you are so in love with him that you are afraid to say NO to him.

You don’t want to express your opinions because you’re afraid that it might cause a conflict and that he’ll leave you.  

9. Te vuelves dependiente de él

You want to be with him all the time because you are sad when you don’t see him even for a day. You can’t plan anything anymore without including him in your plans. 

Incluso empiezas a pedirle consejo sobre tu trabajo, o tal vez empiezas a pedirle permiso para hacer cosas. Deberías saber que ese tipo de comportamiento en una relación está a solo un paso de una relación tóxica. 

10. You don’t want to date anyone else even though you aren’t official yet

Even though you haven’t still defined your relationship, you don’t want to date other people. You are ready to wait for him to decide whether he is ready for a relationship or not, even if it takes a while.

If you’re doing some of these things, then I have to tell you only one thing: consigue una vida fuera de tu relación.

Después de todo, muestras a la gente how they’ll treat you. If you make yourself too available for them at the beginning of your relationship, they’ll always expect the same behavior from you.