8 señales de que un preso te quiere de verdad (y cómo hacer que dure)

If your partner or someone you’re dating is currently an inmate, I bet you can’t help but wonder, ¿Cómo puede un condenado ¿Me quieres?

Sólo tengo una cosa que decir: La ausencia hace que el corazón se encariñe. Por tanto, si te querían de verdad antes de ir a la cárcel, te seguirán queriendo a pesar de las circunstancias.

Here’s how I see it.

A relación carcelaria es una forma de relación a distancia. When you look at it that way, it’s easier for you to endure the distance.

Ser amigos por correspondencia en la cárcel también es una forma legítima de relación epistolar (algo que toda pareja normal debería practicar de vez en cuando).

So, yes, being in a “relación carcelaria” will test your love and patience, but you have nothing to worry about if your feelings are mutual.

But, how will you know? Below you’ll find the surefire signs an inmate really loves you and how you can make your relationship last!

8 señales de que un preso te quiere de verdad

Sometimes, it’s really hard to decipher whether your partner in prison has strong feelings for you because you don’t see each other often.

Sin embargo, hay algunas cosas sutiles y no tan sutiles que pueden indicarle si realmente te quiero (o no).

Si la mayoría de las siguientes señales le suenan, no tiene de qué preocuparse:

1. Te escriben cartas sentimentales

Todos sabemos que los reclusos tienen mucho tiempo para pensar, repensar y sobrepensar. Así que, sí, puedes estar seguro de que también pensarán en sus sentimientos hacia ti y hacia vuestra relación.

Si realmente te quiero, chances are they’ll express their feelings via escritura de cartas. If they write you sentimental letters, know that they’ve been pensando en ti MUCHO.

They have a strong urge to convey their deepest feelings in love letters, and they can’t wait for you to read them and write them back. Be sure they’ll reread it multiple times once they get your letter.

En mi opinión, un relación romántica no es nada sin cartas de amor emotivas.

To the non-inmate couples reading this: I’m not saying that you should exchange love letters throughout the entire year but occasionally would be a good thing.

2. Sus paquetes de asistencia significan mucho para ellos

¿Sabes qué es lo que hace tremendamente feliz a cualquier preso? Los paquetes de asistencia. Recibir paquetes es una forma de conectar con el mundo exterior y con su vida anterior a la cárcel.

Así que presta atención a cómo reaccionan cuando les llevas sus cosas favoritas, comida, etc. Now you’re probably wondering: Pero, ¿qué tiene esto que ver con que me quieran? Créeme, lo hace.

Si te dicen que tus paquetes les alegran el día y nunca se olvidan de agradecértelo, sabrás lo mucho que significan para ellos. They don’t only care about receiving it, but they appreciate the effort and love that you put into it.

Esto también puede verse como recibir regalosque es uno de los cinco lenguajes del amor. If this is your partner’s love language, then it can’t get better than that!

3. La chispa en sus ojos es constante cada vez que les visitas

I’m sure you’ve seen it in movies multiple times.

Un preso espera impaciente su amado to come to visit them… and as soon as they see them, their eyes become brighter and sometimes fill with happy tears.

Esta chispa es exactamente lo que tiene que buscar cada vez que visite a su compañero recluso. Porque los ojos nunca mienten.

If they’re genuinely happy to see you every time you visit them, know they really mean it. The spark in their eyes tells you their love for you is stronger than ever, and you have nothing to worry about.

4. Hablas de cosas importantes de la vida

Los temas de las conversaciones también son importantes. Habláis solo del día a día o profundizáis más?

Hablar de las cosas importantes de la vida = mantener conversaciones significativas.

If your inmate partner is only interested in small talk, then this means they’re not really interested in connecting with you on a deeper level.

Conversaciones profundas e inspiradoras son el combustible de toda relación (especialmente de una relación a distancia como la suya). Este tipo de conversaciones te dejan satisfecho durante horas y días antes de volver a hablar.

If this is something you already practice, then it’s one of the clear signs an inmate really loves you.

5. They don’t call you only when they need something

Esto es brillante y una de las maneras más fáciles de saber si un preso te quiere de verdad o no.

I’m sure you all agree that if someone calls you only when they need something from you, they aren’t being genuine. (It’s happened to me multiple times in friendships and romantic relationships.)

So, if your love interest doesn’t only call you when they need you to bring them something or do something for them, you can be sure they truly care about you.

They don’t see you only as their middleman between prison and the mundo exterior. They see you as the love of their life, and they want to know how you are feeling, what you’re doing, and so on.

They’re interested in your well-being and not only about you telling them what’s going on in the world. That’s how you know their feelings for you shouldn’t be questioned.

6. They tell you that they’re ready to change

Esta es probablemente una de las señales más difíciles y genuinas de que un preso te quiere de verdad. La verdad es que todos cometemos errores durante el viaje llamado vida, y nadie debería ser juzgado por ello. Lo mismo se aplica a su ser querido en prisión.

Ahora que tienen mucho tiempo para pensar en sus acciones pasadas (concretamente sobre lo que les llevó allí en primer lugar), tienen la oportunidad de hacer una autorreflexión de calidad.

Si te dicen que they’re ready to change y no volverán a cometer el mismo error de acabar en la cárcel, créales. If a man/woman is ready to change, they won’t only do it for themselves but also their seres queridos.

If they’re ready to change for the better, it’s because they truly love you, and they don’t want your relationship or you to suffer.

7. Hablan del futuro

Ah, the sweet taste of new beginnings! I can only imagine how hard it is to stay optimistic when you’re in prison, but I guess it’s possible to even find a silver lining there.

Love is a miracle. When you’re in love, you have no problem being positive regardless of where you are. Also, you have no problem talking about the bright future that awaits you once you’re out of prison.

If they talk about the future and already make plans even before they’re out of there, know that they’re truly ready to change. From now on, they have solemnly sworn to themselves that they’ll do their best to make it up to you.

Quieren que seas feliz. Quieren crear un futuro feliz for both of you by making plans in advance and reassuring you that they’ll manage to bring them to life.

8. They aren’t pen pals with other men/women

I’m not sure if you’re familiar with this, but there are sites where you can become pen pals with prisoners. One such site is called Write A Prisoner. You can email them or send them a letter (a physical letter).

Tenga en cuenta que algunos presos están en estos sitios para otros fines, como oportunidades educativas, encontrar mentores y similares.

What I’m trying to say is that if your inmate partner has an online profile on such sites only to be pen pals with other women/men, then this is a red flag. It’s like having a dating profile in the real world, which can also lead to potential visits.

If they aren’t into this sort of thing, you know the only person they think about is YOU. They’re not interested in meeting other people because they’re solely focused on you. Why? Because they love you.

How To Make Your “Prison Relationship” Last

Making your prison relationship last requires patience, effort, and creativity. As a matter of fact, it’s like maintaining any other relationship, but the only difference is the circumstances. Here are the things you should pay special attention to in order to make it last:

• Exchange as many letters as you can

Know that every letter you write them will be their keepsake. When they’re feeling down, they’ll reread your letters, which will make them feel instantly better.

Además, esto te ayudará a mantener la conexión. Escribir una carta es una buena manera de exprese sus sentimientos más profundos y deseos, así que intercambien tantas cartas como sea posible.

It will make your relationship stronger and your partner’s days brighter.

• Visit often

I’m sure you’re already using this option to the fullest potential (visiting them whenever you can) according to prison visits policy.

But it doesn’t hurt to remind you to visit them often because letters are not enough to mantener viva la chispa en una relación. When you’re not able to visit them, you can always make a llamada telefónica.

There’s also another type of visit known as a conjugal visit, which is a great thing for couples. During a conjugal visit, an inmate is allowed to spend a few hours or days in private with a visitor. I bet you know what this means. ?

• Make every conversation meaningful

If you’re dating someone in jail, it’s important to make every convo meaningful because this is the basis of your bond.

Puede que no compartan cada cosa mala que les pasó en la cárcel, pero puedes animarles a que intenten desahogarse. Let them know that you’re there to listen to them whenever they’re ready to share things with you.

Además, habla de tus planes de futuro como si todo fuera normal. Don’t let the distance of prison interfere with your dreams or positivity. You’re stronger than that.

Haz que cada conversación valga su tiempo y el tuyo, porque el tiempo es la moneda más valiosa.

• Be creative when expressing your love and affection

Yup, it’s important to be creative when it comes to gestos románticosincluso cuando tu pareja está en prisión.

Don’t just repeat “I te quiero” several times a day, but show your affection to your amado de formas diversas y creativas. Puedes escribirles una historia de amor, cantarles tu canción favorita canción de amoro puedes hornear una galleta en forma de corazón.

Hay muchas formas de expresar el amor que se sienten el uno por el otro, y esto va en ambos sentidos. Tu compañero de prisión también puede encontrar una forma de expresar su afecto escribiendo cartas o algo similar.

• Tickle their imagination

Just because your partner is in prison doesn’t mean you should stop seducing one another. Your atracción sexual can still be at its peak, and all you need to do is tickle each other’s imagination.

He aquí algunas ideas:

Dress up when you’re about to visit them (especially during visitas conyugales).

Háblales con voz seductora a través de llamadas telefónicas.

Dale un toque picante a tus cartas.

Susúrrale al oído algunas palabrotas phrases (if you’re able to).

Tell them that you’re thinking about them A LOT.

The more you’re thirsty for one another, the more you’ll feel connected. That’s how attraction works regardless of whether you’re in prison or not. As long as you’re attracted to one another, you won’t have a problem finding a way to express it.

• Don’t let anyone interfere with your relationship

I’ve learned this the hard way: Una relación sana is a relationship where a couple decides for themselves and doesn’t let others interfere.

Con esto me refiero a familiares and neighbors who won’t stop gossiping and giving you unsolicited consejos sobre relaciones.

If they judge your partner for being in prison and disapprove of your relationship, don’t listen to them (unless you think they’re right).

En el fin de la jornadalo que importa son tus sentimientos y no lo que digan los demás. Establece límites desde el primera vez empiezan a interferir en tu vida amorosa. Esto le ayudará a protegerse.

Here’s my rule of thumb: My amar la vida is nobody’s business. If they want to give me advice, I’ll listen to them, but in the end, I’ll do what I think is right and not what others tell me to do. Tener una relación privada es definitivamente el camino a seguir. Punto.

Cultivar la paciencia

After going through these signs that an inmate really loves you, I’m sure now you’re convinced that everything is going as smoothly as it should. As always, confía en tus instintos porque el mío nunca me ha fallado.

Here’s my humble confession that might bring you comfort as you’re waiting:

I’ve been pen pals for 2 and a half years with a guy I really like, so yes, you can do it, too! I’m about to see him in the next few days, and I’m SO excited about it. I’m sure you’ll also be excited about welcoming your bae back into the outside world soon.

When that happens, you’ll realize how powerful love truly is. “No matter how long it takes, true love is always worth the wait.” – Unknown