Que no lo hayas superado no significa que aún lo ames

Cuando oyes "superar a tu ex", lo primero que se te pasa por la cabeza es encontrar a alguien nuevo.

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Cuando piensas en superando tu ex, piensas en dejarlo en el pasado, donde pertenece, sin permitir que su recuerdo se inmiscuya nunca en tu presente.

Es olvidar que ese hombre formó parte de tu vida y vivirla como si nunca hubiera existido.

It’s getting rid of all of his stuff, cutting ties with all of your mutual friends, not listening to the songs that remind you of him, and not going to the places where you might encounter him.

Suena genial, ¿verdad?

Sin embargo, para ti, desde este punto de vista, también suena imposible porque no estás ni cerca de esta fase.

Whether you like to admit it or not, this guy still exists inside of you, despite the fact that he isn’t physically present in your life.

So, according to these standards, it appears that you haven’t moved on from him.

After all, you’re still right there where he left you and you still miss him most of the time (despite knowing you shouldn’t).

There are still days when you feel lost without him, when you’re overwhelmed with anger and resentment for everything he did, and even when you secretly hope that he’ll come back.

Your life hasn’t changed much since you lost him either.

It’s not like you’ve made some dramatic differences and as if you managed to turn your reality upside down.

There wasn’t any magical revelation: you didn’t wake up one morning, with him out of your head.

It wasn’t like in the movies: you didn’t have a moment of clarity in which you realized you were wasting your energy thinking about him and decided it was about time to stop loving him.

Yes, the truth is that you haven’t moved forward completely just yet.

You still haven’t gotten over all the pain he’s caused you and your heart is still bruised.

You’re still haunted by your past traumas and scared of starting over.

You’re still doing your best to heal and there are days when you feel like you’re not succeeding.

Sin embargo, just because you haven’t moved on, it doesn’t mean you’re not moving on.

It doesn’t mean you’re not making progress or you’re not getting there.

Y it sure as hell doesn’t mean todavía amas a este tipo.

You’re actually one step closer to your goal with every day that passes.

With every morning you don’t wake up with your pillow all wet from tears, every hour you don’t think of him, every time you don’t mention his name to your best friend, every song you don’t relate to him, and every sincere smile that has nothing to do with him.

Just because you still miss your ex from time to time, it doesn’t mean you still love him.

Because sometimes we miss the feeling a person gave us, we miss the memories we connect to them, we miss the scent, the sound, the butterflies, the safety, the emotion…

Most importantly, just because you still haven’t forgotten all about him, it doesn’t mean you fail to see reality.

It doesn’t mean you don’t know he isn’t good for you and it certainly doesn’t mean you would really want this man back, if the chance had to present itself.

So please, don’t be so hard on yourself.

Don’t judge yourself for not moving on as fast as someone else thinks you should and not making any obvious progress.

En lugar de eso, siéntete orgulloso de cada hito que conquistes.

Porque a veces, no volver atrás es suficiente progreso.

Siéntete orgullosa de cada pequeña meta que alcances y de cada día que pases sin él.  

Recuerde siempre que seguir adelante no es un momento en el tiempo y es mucho más que un destino final.

Es un proceso y un viaje and you’re going to get there before you know it.