Sadly, not all people enter relationships for love. Some people stay in relationships with their partners for all the wrong reasons because they are afraid to be alone or because they enjoy the attention the other person is giving them.
Either way, the fact is that sometimes your partner might be with you just because you are convenient for him and here are 5 signs to help you see that.
1. He doesn’t put any effort in your relationship
This is one of the things you are refusing to admit even to yourself, but when you take your rose sunglasses off and when you start observing things realistically, you see that this man hardly puts in any effort into your relationship.
When you come to think of it, you are the only one trying most of the time.
You are the only one fighting for this relationship and without a doubt, it means much more to you than it does to him.
He is your partner and you think it is natural for him to be your priority. But it’s like he doesn’t feel the same way about you.
It’s like this relationship is simply not as important to him as it is to you.
It is more than obvious that you are the one who loves more in this relationship and with time, you’ve gotten used to things being like this.
But when you come to think of it, you start to wonder if this guy really loves you.
2. He doesn’t want to resolve your problems
When you say to someone that you have an argument-free relationship, everybody could just envy you.
But every healthy couple simply has to come to a situation in which they have an issue they need to resolve or when they disagree on something.
But even when that happens in your relationship, it seems that your partner is never interested in resolving your problems or in talking your issues through.
It’s like he never cares about getting to the bottom of things and like the outcome of your relationship doesn’t bother him.
Although in the beginning, you thought that this was a great thing, with time, you’ve grown to realize that he is simply not interested in dealing with your problems and that he is not interested in making your relationship better.
3. He is not interested in you as a person
When a man really loves you, he will never be too tired or too busy for you.
This man will always have enough energy to talk to you about your problems or just to be there for you when you need him.
But your boyfriend is everything but this. It seems that he is never interested in anything that has to do with you.
This guy is everything but your friend and you can never feel like he has your back, like a real partner should make you feel.
When you come to think about it, this guy is never interested in how you’ve spent your day, let alone anything else, and that is one of the sure signs of his lack of emotions for you and of his lack of interest in you.
4. You are the one who initiates everything
It seems to you that your boyfriend doesn’t enjoy spending time with you.
Although you try to justify him, thinking he is too busy or something like that, deep down, you know that this is not how a real, adult relationship should look.
For as long as you can remember, you’ve felt like you are forcing this man to be with you.
He is rarely the one who initiates anything in your relationship—you are the one who texts him first most of the time and the one who invites him to meet on most occasions.
Sometimes you feel like this guy wouldn’t think of you if you didn’t contact him first and that your relationship would be completely non-existent if you weren’t the one holding it together.
5. He doesn’t care if you leave
Another sign that a man you are seeing just thinks of you as convenient for him is that deep down, you know this man wouldn’t chase you if you tried to leave him.
Of course, this is not something he would tell you straight out, but you know it’s the truth.
You know this guy wouldn’t mind much if you left him and you feel like you don’t make much of a difference in this guy’s life.
And what more proof do you actually need?