11 errori negli appuntamenti che spaventano gli uomini (e come evitarli)

Quando ci innamoriamo, tendiamo a commettere errori che di solito non faremmo mai, perché, diciamolo, l'amore ci rende un po' stupidi.

From blowing up his phone, to making him feel like he’s a suspect being interrogated, just because it feels good to have someone by our side and we want to see more of him.

Per questo motivo abbiamo raccolto alcuni dei più comuni errori che commettiamo per evitarli e non spaventare gli uomini.

Far esplodere il suo telefono

Admit it ladies, we’ve all done this. Texting with him all the time feels amazing, because you have so much to talk about and it just feels good to have that silly grin on your face when your phone buzzes.

But it’s best to avoid blowing up his phone, because it could get annoying really quick and he will run away.

Essere appiccicosi troppo presto

Questo va di pari passo con il bombardamento telefonico. Dategli la possibilità di respirare e di sentire la vostra mancanza. If you’re clingy e cercare di passare ogni singolo momento con lui, vi farà solo sembrare bisognose.

Men need to feel the excitement of the chase, and if he’s not chasing you, there’s a good possibility that he will lose interest soon.

Bisogno di lui

It’s one thing wanting to be with someone and wanting to spend some time with that person, but needing them is a whole different aspect of a relationship.

Bisogno di qualcuno che ti curi o per farti sentire bene con te stessa non è giusto, né verso di te né verso di lui.

Make sure that you don’t depend on him, because no one will stick around for long if they feel like they’re being used.

Parlare continuamente dei propri ex

If he asks, keep your answer short and not in an accusatory tone. No one loves to listen to someone they’re considering dating parlano ancora dei loro ex o addirittura di parlare male di loro.

It’s important to respect the fact that at some point you had love for those other men and that no matter how badly things ended, you can take the high road now.

Analizzare eccessivamente la situazione

Tendiamo a farlo sempre, non solo con gli uomini con cui usciamo. La maggior parte delle volte le cose non sono come sembrano nella nostra testa, quindi se avete dei dubbi, chiedeteglielo.

It’ll be so much easier for both of you and you’ll create a habit of discussing issues, not ignoring them.

Parlare troppo di sé

When we’re nervous, we talk too much and mostly nonsense. Take a deep breath and ask him to talk about himself.

It’s easy to get too involved with yourself when you have someone who shows interesse in you, but it’s important that he feels like you’re actually there with him, that you want to know about him too, not just keep up a monologue about yourself all the time.

Non rispettare i confini

Whether they’re your or his boundaries, respect them. If you said no, stick to it. If he said he needs space or time, respect it.

Don’t push too far with your love, because you’ll corner him too soon and he will definitely start looking for the escape route.

Aspettarsi che lui legga la tua mente

If you’re upset and he doesn’t seem like he knows why that is, tell him.

You can’t expect him to know what you’ve been through or to know what he did wrong if you just met—you need to be open and tell him what the problem is.

Se continua a fare cose sbagliate, scaricatelo. Ma la maggior parte degli uomini cercherà di evitare le situazioni in cui voi finire feriti, because they’re not all total assholes.

Criticare le altre donne

There’s a good reason why they say, “The way you talk about others, says more about you than it does about them.” If you have the need to put someone down or shame them, just to make you look good, stop and think about it for a second.

Keep in mind that you’re already amazing and have his attention, because there’s a reason he’s with you. So, let everyone live their lives in peace, because that’s what you would want them to do for you.

Oversharing

Avoid sharing your deepest and darkest memories at the beginning. It’s okay to let him know about your past, but being fully intimate right at the start is not good to do.

L'allarme della sua fidanzata appiccicosa scatterà, perché l'eccessiva condivisione all'inizio dà spesso l'impressione di affrettare le cose.

If it comes naturally, because you clicked, do it. But still keep in mind that you don’t know this man so well and it will seem weird that you decided to open up right away.

Interrogarlo

You want to know everything about him, because it’s important for you to see if he’s just another time-waster, but don’t bomb him with questions so he feels like he’s being interrogated.

Seguite il flusso della conversazione e date anche a lui la possibilità di conoscervi.