4 cose che succedono quando si passa da un traditore a un uomo fedele
When you break things off with a cheater, you feel like you’ve ha raggiunto il suo punto di rottura. Perdi ogni speranza per un domani migliore e ti aspetti che ogni uomo del tuo futuro ti tratti come ha fatto questo stronzo.
Then, all of a sudden, you meet someone worthy of your love and attention. You meet a mature man who is faithful and loyal and who acts as if he’d never do anything to hurt you.
Una volta che questo accade, l'intera visione del mondo diventa diversa. Per la prima volta, iniziate a vedere voi stessi e tutto ciò che vi circonda in modo più chiaro e subite numerosi cambiamenti. Ecco i 4 più importanti.
1. Avete ancora problemi di fiducia
I have to disappoint you—not everything goes smoothly the moment you find a loyal man because sadly, you still have a lot of past traumas to get over. These issues you’re still carrying around as a heavy burden don’t go away as easily and unfortunately, they impact your new relationship.
First and foremost, you can’t believe that you’ve found someone so different from your ex. You’re wondering if this new guy has some kind of secret agenda and if he plans on screwing you over the same way your ex did. You can’t believe that you’ve found someone this nice and you’re worried that this guy is too good to be true.
2. Vi rendete conto di quanto fosse tossica la vostra relazione
Let’s be honest here—throughout your entire relationship, deep down, you always knew that things shouldn’t be like that. You knew that you shouldn’t keep on forgiving that infidelity and mistreatment but you kept on doing so anyhow.
Simultaneously, you also lied to yourself. You kept convincing yourself and everyone else that your relationship wasn’t that bad after all and you kept on ignoring your strong intuition, despite knowing the truth.
However, now, things have changed. Now that you have something to compare it with, you see how awful and toxic your past relationship actually was. For the first time ever, you realistically see all of its horrors and the pain you’ve been through.
Finally, you see what a healthy and normal partnership should look like and you understand that this wasn’t anything similar to what you had. Of course, all of this negative experience from the past taught you to be even more grateful for this uomo fedele che avete al vostro fianco.
3. Vi rendete conto di ciò che vi meritate
For years, your ex was putting all the blame on you. He kept diminishing your value and manipulating you to think that you weren’t worthy of love and that you deserved everything that had been going on.
After a while, you started believing him. He managed to persuade you that you really weren’t destined to be loved and that he was the best you’d ever get.
Tuttavia, ora vedete che nulla di tutto ciò è vero. Ora vedete che per tutto questo tempo vi siete accontentati di poco e che meritate molto di più di quello che stavate ottenendo. Vedete che l'amore è destinato a voi, dopo tutto, e che potete essere amati più di quanto non lo siate mai stati.
4. Ritrovate la fiducia in voi stessi
Essere traditi destroys everyone’s confidence. You wonder why you weren’t enough for the man you loved so much that he had to find someone else. What was he missing in your relationship, that he had to look for outside of it?
Le cose peggiorano ulteriormente quando un traditore rifiuta di assumersi le proprie responsabilità e fa di tutto per convincervi che non siete buoni a nulla e che avete causato tutto quello che è successo. Di conseguenza, le vostre insicurezze aumentano e la vostra immagine di sé diventa un vero e proprio disastro.
Ebbene, fortunatamente per voi, tutto questo cambia quando scaricate questo traditore e passate a un uomo vero, maturo e leale. Quest'uomo vede il vostro valore e vi fa pensare di più a voi stesse.
He appreciates and respects you, which inspires you to regain your self-respect as well. This man’s love makes you look at yourself through different eyes and it makes you love yourself more. And that is the whole point, isn’t it?
