5 motivi fondamentali per cui continuate ad attrarre chi ha paura di impegnarsi

We all know how it goes. You start dating him, and everything seems idyllic—until you find out that it is not. In the beginning, he’ll do anything to show you how much he cares about you.

Vi chiama dieci volte al giorno, vi dice quanto gli manchi and he makes plans weeks in advance. Then all of a sudden—he’s gone!

Smette di chiamarvi e di rispondere alle vostre telefonate come faceva prima. Inizia a trovare scuse, smette di dimostrarvi affetto e il resto lo sapete.

You realize that he’s afraid of commitment and whatever you do or say will only make it worse.

If you end up with a commitment-phobe once, it’s not a big deal. But, if you constantly keep attracting them, then you should start questioning why it is so.

Here are 5 reasons why you keep attracting commitment-phobes that even you yourself weren’t aware of.

You don’t have boundaries

Perhaps you keep attracting commitment-phobes because you didn’t set boundaries. You keep accepting their bad behavior regardless of the situation.

For example, he regularly lets you wait for him to show up on a date, and you’re not telling him that it bothers you. You keep waiting, and he keeps coming when he wants.

If you don’t set boundaries, he’ll darvi per scontati just because he can. He’ll see that you’re eager to accept anything he gives you, and that way, you’ll lose respect.

Once he sees you won’t tolerate his bullshit, he’ll know that he can’t act the way he wants because he’ll be afraid of losing you.

When you have firm boundaries, he’ll appreciate them and will make an effort to show you how much he cares.

Pensate di poterli cambiare

One of the main reasons why women keep attracting men who are afraid of commitment is because women think they can change them. Believe me, you can’t.

Un fobico dell'impegno cambierà solo se deciderà di farlo. Non lo farà perché lo volete voi o perché lo vuole qualcun altro.

The only thing that you’ll surely accomplish is to waste your time on him even though he doesn’t deserve it.

La soluzione migliore è quella di correre per la propria vita e non tentare nemmeno di salvarli.

You’re the one doing most of the work

If you’re the one doing most of the work, he’ll get bored because he’ll think he doesn’t have to fight to win your attention.

He’ll just wait for you to do all the work, and when you think you’ve got him, he’ll run away.

Per evitarlo, esigete sempre la reciprocità. Se gli date un bacio, esigete lo stesso! Se gli preparate una tazza di caffè, esigete lo stesso!

Whatever you do, demand the same to be done for you. You shouldn’t be the one doing most of the work because relationships are all about reciprocity, mutual respect and appreciation.

If you show him that you don’t have a problem with doing everything he asks, he will not take you seriously.

You think you don’t deserve love

If you think you don’t deserve love, you’ll subconsciously act like it. When you feel unworthy of love, you accept every kind of it without hesitation.

Perhaps you’ve been hurt before, and they made you feel like you don’t deserve love and commitment. You know it’s not true.

Se c'è qualcuno che merita di sperimentare il vero amore, l'impegno e l'apprezzamento, quello sei tu. Non accettate mai niente di meno e non lasciate che vi dicano il contrario.