7. Avete uno stile evitante-attaccante
If your parent-child relationship wasn’t healthy, you would become a legit candidate for developing an stile evitante-attaccante during adulthood. Here’s how la psicologia dello stile evitante-attaccante è spiegato da Insider:
“When our needs aren’t met consistently by our primary caregivers, we form the belief that they won’t be met by any significant other, [and] that we can’t ever rely on others.”
If you feel like you can’t rely on your potential partner, you’ll avoid investing in them emotionally to protect yourself. Sometimes, you’ll avoid relationships altogether.
Indisponibilità emotiva potrebbe essere un pedaggio e impedirvi di instaurare un rapporto sano e significativo con gli altri. Even if the person is right for you, you’ll still find a way to justify your refusal or inability to commit.
You’ll do all this out of fear that you’ll be hurt like you were hurt by your parent(s).