7 comportamenti che rivelano che state uscendo con un uomo mentalmente forte
Femminucce, idioti immaturi, bastardi manipolatori: li avete visti tutti.
What you don’t see that often—because, let’s face it, it’s not such an everyday occurrence—is a quite normal, down-to-earth-buy-you-flowers kind of a guy.
Someone who won’t blow your date off half an hour earlier because something better came up; someone who won’t refuse to define your relationship just because he wants to keep you in reserve.
Someone who won’t pretend he is as sweet as sugar and then suddenly change into a maniac when you fall in love with him.
Qualcuno di normale. Qualcuno emotivamente maturo e mentalmente forte.
So you have to open your eyes quite wide because when you cross paths with this kind of guy, it’s like winning the lottery. You don’t get a second chance.
This is it, and if you fail to see it, too bad—not happening again.
If he does these 7 things……
1. He doesn’t complain
He accepts his problems, and he’s tried to find the best way to deal with them. He won’t bother anyone with what’s already bothering him.
That’s a selfish thing to do, and he knows it.
He will never complain about what’s on his mind because that is not going to help him. It’s not going to change his situation.
Sa che il cambiamento è un bene, lo accetta e nulla sarà gonfiato a dismisura.
That’s why he’s mentally strong and great dating material. He is stable, and you can rely on him in every situation.
2. Vede un margine di miglioramento
He doesn’t feel that he’s perfect. He knows that everything he does in life can teach him something new.
He wants to make mistakes and take chances. Otherwise, he won’t grow mentally even further.
Queste persone sono intelligenti e sono consapevoli della loro maturità e stabilità.
As intelligent people, they don’t want to destroy themselves. They want to be even better and stronger.
Uscire con questo tipo di uomo è la cosa migliore che vi possa capitare. Vi influenzerà positivamente.
Vi renderà una persona migliore. E la cosa più importante è che quest'uomo non vi farà mai del male.
3. Ha il controllo della sua vita
He won’t sit around while his life is taking its course. He won’t wait for someone else to offer him a solution and fix his life while he does nothing.
He doesn’t need a guide because he knows what he wants. If you want to date him, you have to get used to this.
Dovete capire che lui rimarrà esattamente lo stesso, quindi don’t try to change him.
You have to know that he has a goal, and he won’t back down for anything or anyone.
You can be there by his side—he’ll be happy to take you with him. You can help him, and he will make it worth your while.
4. Parla apertamente dei suoi sentimenti
Non ha paura di aprirsi. Un vero uomo non ha paura dei sentimenti. Un vero uomo mostrerà il suo lato vulnerabile perché è quello che lo rende umano.
È questo lato che fa emergere l'empatia negli altri. L'empatia è ciò che cresce fino a diventare amore.
The fact he talks about his feelings means that he trust you and wants you to get a sneak peak of who he really is and how he’s feeling.
Wouldn’t it be great to date such an honest man? Someone normal and mature?
5. È lo scrittore della sua storia
He creates his own life. He is at the driver’s seat. He is the main producer, the director, the bottom line. He is in charge.
There is no one out there who’ll tell him what to do. There is no person alive who can manipulate him into doing something he doesn’t want.
You know why this is a good thing? Because he would never do something like that to anyone else. Because he respects other people’s lives as much as his own.
6. Sa come stabilire dei limiti e rispettarli.
He’ll never change his mind. When he says ‘no’, he means it. He is consistent that way only because he respects and loves himself.
He doesn’t want to get himself in a situation which he doesn’t feel comfortable in.
He knows how to take care of himself, and that’s why you can be sure he’ll take care of you. Once he falls in love with you, he will see you as a part of himself.
And when someone hurts you, it’s like they’ve hurt him.
If anyone crosses his boundary, that person is not going to have a good time. All I’m saying is, you will be safe.
7. È umile
He appreciates life, and for him, it’s a beautiful gift. He never acts like a jerk because he knows that karma is a bitch.
È grato per ogni dono che riceve nella vita e non se ne vanta mai.
He doesn’t want others to be intimidated by him and his success. He wants to help them. So when you meet a guy like this, you won’t see that he is special at first sight.
He’ll be just normal, but yet again, has that become unordinary and special?
So if he does these 7 things above…
…..he is a mentally strong man.
