7 motivi comuni per cui gli uomini si disamorano

Non c'è niente di peggio di una rottura improvvisa, quando un ragazzo ti lascia senza alcuna spiegazione, lasciandoti senza alcuna chiusura.

Maybe you’d seen that things were not like they used to be before, but you didn’t expect that he would leave you out of the blue.

You thought that your relationship was losing excitement and its spark but that it was nothing that serious, until he left with no other explanation other than he didn’t love you anymore.

Ora, capisco che a volte le persone si disinnamorano senza un motivo particolare. Ma avete mai pensato al fatto che c'è un motivo o forse più motivi per cui si è disinnamorato di voi?

Is it something that you did or the way you behaved? Maybe something bothered him but he didn’t have the guts to tell you? Or maybe he gave you subtle signs that you failed to read?

Leggete questi motivi per cui i ragazzi si disinnamorano per capire se, inconsapevolmente, potreste fare qualcosa che lo allontanerà:

1. He doesn’t feel your support

Even if you are supporting him, that doesn’t have to necessarily mean that he feels it. Maybe you are trying your best but he doesn’t see it.

He needs to feel like you are on the same team and saying ‘l love you’ isn’t going to cut it. He needs so much more than that.

Ha bisogno che gli dimostriate che siete dalla sua parte, qualunque cosa accada. Ha bisogno di vedere che vi fidate di lui e del suo giudizio.

Sometimes you just need a person to believe in you, no questions asked. I know that is a hard thing to do, but if you truly love him, it won’t be a problem.

2. Non siete compatibili

Sometimes it’s nothing more than just plain incompatibility. Maybe you aren’t right for each other and you can’t do anything about that.

Maybe you still love him, but maybe you weren’t supposed to love him in the first place. Imagine that this relationship is just a test drive for the real deal, for your dream man who is waiting just around the corner.

Your personalities clicked but not for the long run. After that, you realize that you can’t make it together.

3. He doesn’t feel himself around you

When you are together, he isn’t able to be himself, the one who he truly is. Either you don’t like it or he isn’t feeling comfortable enough to relax around you.

When you first meet someone new, you have to focus on what’s he like, the real him. Don’t turn your eyes away from the things that you don’t like and only focus on the ones you like because sooner or later, those things you don’t like are going to bother you and thus him, too, because he won’t be able to be genuine.

4. You don’t have the emozionale intimità

Se la vostra relazione si riduce solo a svolgere compiti e faccende domestiche, allora sapete che c'è qualcosa di molto sbagliato. Se non c'è più intimità o bisogno di momenti di intimità, probabilmente uno dei due si sta disinnamorando.

La maggior parte delle persone associa questo momento alla fine della fase della luna di miele, ma se non siete emotivamente connessi o intimi, la vostra relazione è destinata a fallire perché uno di voi due alla fine si stancherà.

5. He doesn’t feel your rispetto

He thinks that you don’t respect him and what he is doing. Men like to take on the role of a caretaker. They love the feeling of being needed, but if you don’t respect what they are doing, you don’t respect them as a person.

Gli uomini lo percepiscono e si sentono insicuri. E chi vorrebbe avere una relazione con una persona che lo fa sentire insicuro?

6. Avete smesso di fare le cose che lo hanno fatto innamorare di voi.

I’m not saying that you should stay exactly like you were when you first met him, I’m saying that you shouldn’t lose that thing that got him to fall in love with you in the first place.

You shouldn’t lose that connection that was crucial from the beginning. If you do, he will no longer be interested in you and he will leave.

7. He doesn’t see a future with you

Men also change when they are in a relationship and maybe his aspirations and goals changed over time and now he doesn’t see himself with you in the future.

He doesn’t think that you aspire to the same things as he does, so, he falls out of love over time.