8 cose che succedono quando si incontra un bravo ragazzo dopo una relazione tossica

The biggest problem in a toxic relationship is that you aren’t necessarily aware you are in one. You get used to mistreatment because it gradually becomes a part of your life.

There can be happy moments (when your abuser is in the ‘mood’) which make you forget those bad ones that happened and are about to happen.

Le relazioni tossiche creano dipendenza . You can’t burn that bridge because you have some kind of security. You have someone who supposedly cares for you—someone who should care for you.

But, you don’t know any better, so you stick to him.

Le relazioni tossiche sono una sfida . You think it’s up to you to make your own happiness in this kind of a relationship.

You think things don’t fall from the sky and you think it’s your obligation to make your relationship work.

There’s no harm in trying to make things work out, but bear in mind—you have to fight for someone who is worth fighting for.

Abusers don’t deserve to be fought for.

Le relazioni tossiche si basano sulla paura . Most women keep thinking that being in a dysfunctional relationship is better than being single. They don’t have the courage to break free from their abusers.

Vedi anche: 10 segni di una relazione tossica

Ma alcuni di loro fare trovano il coraggio di spezzare le catene della loro relazione abusiva, solo per imbattersi in un altro ostacolo.

Incontrano una persona nuova e tutto ciò che dovrebbe essere normale in una relazione è fuori dalla loro zona di comfort. Sono abituati a essere trattati male.

Ecco alcune cose che possono accadere quando incontrate un bravo ragazzo dopo quello che vi ha fatto sentire uno schifo:

Avrete spazio e sostegno per imparare ad amare voi stessi.

La prima cosa da fare è imparare ad amare se stessi. Bisogna avere fiducia in se stessi, perché nessuno può sapere cosa è bene per noi.

Siete l'unica persona che conosce e controlla questa parte della vostra vita.

Stare con un bravo ragazzo vi darà le condizioni giuste per crescere e diventare la donna amante di voi stesse che sapete di dover essere.

Una volta raggiunto questo obiettivo, si è pronti a passare alla fase successiva.

You’ll experience unknown ‘strange’ feelings

You’ve suffered enough and now when you’ve met a good guy, grab the bull by the horns and don’t let go.

Invece di avere paura dei nuovi sentimenti, abbracciate la vostra relazione positiva e sana.

All of them are supposed to be like that and that is something you aren’t ready to understand, yet.

Don’t be afraid to let yourself go because this guy will understand that you walked through hell and back.

You’ll expect the same story all over again

You’ve lost faith in people. After being treated like s**t, you are afraid you’ll be treated like that again.

When you start a new relationship you can’t shake off the feeling he is the same as the one before.

For you, it’s impossible to imagine there is someone there for you who won’t treat you badly.

You settled for a guy who doesn’t deserve you and now that you’ve experienced the opposite treatment (love that you deserve), you can’t imagine what kept you going in your toxic relationship.

You’ll overanalyze everything

Ti tratta come meriti di essere trattata, ma c'è qualcosa che ti disturba.

You can’t accept the fact he is behaving like that because he cares about you. You are overanalyzing stuff, looking for hidden motives.

However, there aren’t any.

Most probably, you will keep your distance and look at things from a different perspective just to reassure yourself he doesn’t want to do you any harm.

Hopefully, then, you will realize there aren’t any hidden motives and his love for you is pure and long-term.

You’ll think he’s too good to be true

You can’t get rid of the feeling something will go wrong in your relationship any moment.

You expect he will lose it. Maybe he will get rid of that ‘goodie-goodie’ mask and show his real face.

But, he stays the same—full of understanding, patience and ready to love you. There is absolutely no reason not to trust him, but your wounds haven’t healed yet. It will take time and he is aware of that.

You are waiting for the ‘perfect storm’

In toxic relationships, fights come out of nowhere. Even now, you can’t relax because you have the constant feeling that fighting is about to begin.

Le liti e i maltrattamenti facevano parte della vostra vita quotidiana e vi siete talmente abituati che vi aspettavate che accadesse.

You can’t understand he is not like that. He is different and you are confused because you are used to a completely different scenario.

You’ll apologize a lot

A causa dei continui conflitti nella vostra precedente relazione, eravate abituati a scusarvi continuamente con le persone.

You used to apologize to your partner just to calm him down and avoid conflict. You apologized for the things you did and didn’t do wrong.

Imparerete a fidarvi di lui

Over time, you will get used to good treatment—the treatment you deserve—and you will start to trust your guy completely.

You will realize he doesn’t want to hurt you and he never will.

Slowly, you will start showing him your vulnerable side because you’ve finally made sure he will never hurt you.

Imparerete che cos'è il vero amore. La vostra esperienza tossica vi renderà più forti, ma dopo aver riposto la vostra fiducia nelle persone.

Vedrete finalmente cosa significa amare qualcuno che vi ricambia, che vi merita e vi rispetta.

Don’t give up!