8 cose da fare quando si "beve e si compone

Bere e mandare messaggi è un problema. Ma bere e telefonare è una ricetta per una vera catastrofe (almeno nella mente di chi lo fa). 

It’s interesting how we’re rarely tempted to do certain things when we’re sober but when alcohol kicks in, we find ourself doing things we never imagined doing beforehand.

And after you’ve done it, you feel like the only thing you can do is recall the shameful event and pray to God that they didn’t take you seriously. You swear that you’ll never get drunk again and you’ll get rid of your phone for good.

But we all know that these are lies and the chance that you’re going to repeat the same mistake is pretty high. But even if it comes to this again, there are some things that can help you cope with this act of incidental embarrassment.

1. Ricordare l'atto vergognoso

La prima cosa da fare è cercare di ricordare ogni singola parola detta al telefono ieri sera. So che tutto sarà confuso nella vostra testa, ma sforzatevi di pensare a ogni singolo dettaglio accaduto ieri sera e questo vi aiuterà a ricordare anche la telefonata.

In order to deal with the issue, first, you need to understand the situation and then cope with it. And you need to understand that it’s not the end of the world, whatever you’ve said to them, and you shouldn’t punish yourself for that.

2. Effettuare una valutazione

Once you’ve recalled the ‘sinful’ act, it’s time for an evaluation. Pay attention to the context of your words and whether you’ve offended them in one way or another. 

If you realize that what you’ve done is not that bad after all, you’ve got nothing to worry about. Just forget about it and move on with your life as if nothing happened.

3. Mandare un messaggio

If you’re not sure whether you’ve done something wrong or not, you can always text them in order to test it. Ask something unrelated to your call and wait for them to text you back.

If they don’t reply immediately, don’t start panicking because this doesn’t necessarily mean that they are mad. Perhaps they’re occupied with something else at that moment. Be patient and play it smart.

4. Considerare la possibilità di scusarsi, se necessario

If they text you back or you’ve somehow figured it out on your own that you fucked it up last night, consider apologizing. You can call them again (but make sure that you’re sober this time) and simply explain that you didn’t mean the things you said to them.

I’m sure they’ll be more than happy to accept the apology and they will understand the situation. After all, I’m sure they’ve done the same thing when they were drunk and they have no reason  to blame you.

5. Lasciare il passato

After you’ve apologized to them, leave this thing in the past. Even if you didn’t apologize, there’s no need to overthink the same situation again and again because nothing good will come of it.

Know that shit happens and it’s totally normal to commettere errori from time to time and that doesn’t make you sinful. You’re a human being just like everyone else and you’re allowed to fail and rise, fail again and so on. You’re allowed to learn from your mistakes.

6. Chiedere aiuto agli amici

If you’re afraid that you’re going to repeat the same thing once you get drunk in the future, ask your friends to keep an eye on you when you’re in the act of drinking and having fun with them.

Potete anche chiedere loro di togliervi il telefono per qualche ora, in modo da essere sicuri che non sarete tentati di comporre quel numero sfortunato.

7. Liberare la mente

Assicuratevi inoltre che la vostra mente sia priva di sensi di colpa o di emozioni represse and that nothing’s bothering you because when we drink, we do the things we’re afraid of doing when we’re sober.

If you have some issues with someone or with yourself, make sure that you deal with them when you’re sober so that they don’t reappear every time you get drunk.

8. Bloccarli e cancellare il loro numero dal telefono

Se tutto il resto fallisce, prendete in considerazione l'idea di bloccarli sui social network e di cancellare il loro numero di telefono. Sapete come si dice, ‘out of sight, out of mind’.

Once you’ve deleted or blocked them, just keep being persistent not to unblock them because that way you’ll never break free from the curse called ‘Drink and Dial’.