8 cose che dovresti sapere prima di uscire con una ragazza che ha avuto il cuore spezzato

Non mi ero mai resa conto di quanto mi avesse colpito. Mentre succedeva, credo che fossi troppo stressata per pensare a me stessa e a dove sarei andata da lì in poi. Volevo solo sfuggirgli a tutti i costi.

I didn’t realize how guarded I was and how I had built this bulletproof wall around me to make sure to not get hurt ever again. I was so traumatized uscendo con lui e io ero bloccato nel passato.

I didn’t want to move on because the pain took control of me. I felt sorry for myself and I spent so many nights crying over my past actions and him.

Ho incolpato Dio, ho incolpato tutti, ma soprattutto ho incolpato me stesso.

I didn’t want to forgive myself and I didn’t want to leave the past where it belonged. I was stuck in it and I couldn’t find a way out. It was a never-ending enchanted circle.

Ogni tanto mi sembrava di essere diventata più forte e di potermi lasciare tutto alle spalle, ma poi il mio passato mi risucchiava di nuovo.

Ho perso la mia autostima e mi sono odiata. Ora, quando mi guardo indietro, quello che provo è soprattutto rabbia. Non verso di lui, ma verso me stessa.

I’m furious because I let him make me think of myself as less worthy and of guilty of everything that happened to us.

I thought I didn’t deserve to be happyPensavo di essere un disastro, finché non ho smesso di autocommiserarmi e mi sono svegliato.

He didn’t have the power to rule over me. Too bad it took me that long to realize that. Too bad I put myself through hell and back because I was too blind to see how much I really deserved.

I’m ready now. He left a huge mark on my life. He changed me. I’m not saying that I’m a different person, it’s just that I don’t see the world like I used to see it.

But that’s okay because I’m not afraid anymore. I’ve felt things and I’m ready for whatever life throws at me because what doesn’t kill me, makes me stronger.

I’m ready to open my heart again and if destiny so decides, I’m ready to have my heart broken again. He was my lesson, he made me stronger, and he made me smarter.

Ho trovato quel pezzo di me che mancava. Ho trovato quel grilletto che dovevo premere per tornare a vivere.

Mi ci è voluto tanto tempo per arrivare dove sono oggi. Se mai incontrerete una ragazza distrutta come me, promettetemi che cercherete di capirla.

Promise me that you’re going to look after her. Promise me that she won’t just be temporary because she wouldn’t be able to take it. Not right now.

Promise me that you will be there for her because….

She won’t trust you right away

She will be suspicious of your actions and your feelings. She won’t believe the words you say to her because she has heard them a thousand times before.

Le è stato promesso il mondo, le è stata data una falsa speranza, ma non è mai successo nulla. Non ha visto nulla di tutto ciò.

She won’t show affection so easily

La prima volta che si è innamorata, lo ha gridato al mondo e le si è ritorto contro. Il suo cuore è stato calpestato e spezzato.

You have to understand that she can’t just open up that easily and show how she feels about you, but never doubt her.

Potrebbe non dirlo e potrebbe nasconderlo, ma abbiate pazienza perché quando si aprirà, sentirete un amore che non sapevate esistesse.

Sarà estremamente critica

She will think that it’s her fault for everything that has happened to her. He robbed her of her self-respect and self-love. She was left with nothing but the feeling of guilt.

Don’t let her treat herself poorly. Don’t let her abandon herself. Show her that there is hope and prove to her that you are not like everybody else.

Dimostrate che ci tenete davvero e siate presenti per lei quando ha più bisogno di voi.

Si tirerà indietro se cercate di muovervi troppo velocemente.

You have to take it slowly, otherwise you’ll scare her off. She has just had a huge trauma and it took her awhile to heal and to bounce back from it.

She won’t be making the same mistake again and if you pressure her into doing something she isn’t yet comfortable doing, she will run away.

Probabilmente ha un piano B

No matter how much she loves you, she has a plan in case that the two of you don’t work out. She’s been to hell and back and she won’t risk going there again.

You don’t have to be angry about it; it’s just a consequence of her heartbreak and pain that she felt and will never forget.

Analizza tutto in modo eccessivo

She will second-guess your every decision like she second-guesses hers, too. It’s nothing personal, it’s a defense mechanism she uses not to get hurt ever again.

Even when you treat her the way she deserves, she will be suspicious because she isn’t used to being treated that way. It will take her a while to realize that she was supposed to be treated like that from the beginning.

She will apologize to you all the time but isn’t her fault

The one before you made her that way. He gaslighted her and he turned her into an obedient puppet. She didn’t have a mind of her own and her voice was completely silent.

She always apologized to avoid fights he initiated. She apologized for things she did and didn’t do.

È terrorizzata da impegno

Le ricorda quando era intrappolata in una relazione che la stava uccidendo poco a poco. È terrorizzata dal fatto che voi possiate fare lo stesso con lei.

Perciò, portate pazienza con lei, perché vale la pena aspettare tutto il tempo del mondo.

Be patient with her. She is a girl who had her heart broken. Don’t you break it too…