Ecco cosa succede quando si lascia una relazione emotivamente violenta
Nessuno ve lo dice mai. Nessuno ti avverte. Tutti hanno qualcosa da dire quando si è in questo tipo di relazione, ma tutti tacciono quando ci si libera da essa.
It’s not that easy. One should expect happiness and joy. No one expects fear, confusion, and the inability to continue living your life—to pick up where you left off before you met him.
Nessuno ti dice mai quanto fa male. Nessuno ti dice mai quanto tempo ci vuole per guarire le ferite.
When you meet someone new, you are afraid. You are scared to death that history will repeat itself. You try to humor him even though he doesn’t want you to do that.
You apologize for every little thing. You apologize for the things you’re guilty and not guilty of. He doesn’t want you to do that.
No one ever tells you that you don’t have to do it. No one ever tells you how hard is to snap out of what you’ve been going through. No one ever tells you that it takes guts to heal completely.
Dovrete trovare la forza di rialzarvi. Rivivrete quei momenti orribili di cui vi ha reso partecipi. Vi sveglierete nel cuore della notte e il vostro cuore batterà così forte, come se volesse liberarsi dal petto.
Vedrete qualcuno che vi ricorda lui. Vi riporterà indietro. Sarà così reale, come se l'incubo stesse accadendo di nuovo.
Vi sentirete distrutti perché sarete distrutti. Piangerete a dirotto. Griderete per il dolore emotivo.
You will feel drained because you will be drained. He’s the one who sucked the life out of you. You gave him all you had. And what did you get in return? Nothing except pain. And more pain.
You will be negative because that’s the only feeling you know. You forgot what it was like to be happy. It will be hard to get out of that vicious circle of negativity. You want to escape it, but you need it because you’re used to it. It becomes like a drug to you. You keep craving for more.
You never knew what it was like to be loved. You never had that. You wouldn’t recognize real love even if it hit you right in the face. You will doubt each and every person who comes near you and you will destroy their every attempt to flirt with you. You will do this out of fear. Out of fear of getting hurt.
Dovrete essere forti per molto tempo. Dovrete essere forti finché non raccoglierete i pezzi rotti di ciò che è rimasto di voi e li rimetterete insieme per continuare a costruire la versione di voi stessi che avete sempre voluto essere.
When you start a new relationship, you will feel lost. You won’t be used to this new ‘normal treatment’. You won’t be used to kind words and understanding. You won’t be used to being treated with respect. Your voice will actually matter for the first time in a long time.
It will take a while for you to relax and trust this person. But that won’t matter as he will wait for you. He will give you space to heal. He will help you heal.
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You will be waiting for the perfect storm. You will be waiting for him to lose it at anytime. You know your ex was nice and loving when he wanted to be—when you didn’t complain and did everything his way. You are scared this guy is the same.
Ma sapete una cosa? La tempesta perfetta non arriverà mai. Non è lo stesso.
Nessuno ti dice mai quanto sia incasinato sopravvivere a tutto questo. Nessuno ti dice mai che questa è la parte più difficile. Nessuno ti dice mai che guarire fa male; fa un male cane.
There are so many things you won’t be told. You’ll have to fight for yourself. You’ll have to put yourself first. You’ll have to cry. You’ll have to hurt.
Ma guarirete. Migliorerete.
