All'ex del mio ragazzo: grazie per averlo fatto crollare

Quando si pensa all'ex fidanzata del proprio attuale ragazzo, si prova una gamma diversa di emozioni.

Potreste essere gelosi di lei e di tutto ciò che avevano loro due. Potreste persino odiarla, in un certo senso.

You might compare yourself to your boyfriend’s ex, thinking about the things she had and you don’t have, wondering if he loved her more than he loves you.

Oppure potreste non pensare nemmeno a lei.

If their relationship ended a while ago before you met this guy, you’ll probably be completely indifferent to this girl because her existence in his life doesn’t affect you in any way.

But it is rare for a woman to be grateful to her boyfriend’s ex. And this is especially true if this girl caused him a lot of emotional pain and if she broke his heart.

First of all, you hate her for doing harm to the person you love this much. You can’t believe that someone could intentionally hurt this kind and loving man.

You hate her for all the pain he’s been through because you know he never deserved to go through something like that.

Ma in un certo senso, siete anche gelosi.

Perché siete ben consapevoli dell'intensità dell'amore che deve aver provato per questa donna. Sapete che doveva amarla fino alle ossa perché le ha permesso di avere un impatto così grande sulla sua vita.

Perché le uniche persone che ti spezzano sono di solito quelle che ami di più.

But I don’t feel any of these things. Instead,

Sono grata a te, la donna che ha spezzato l'uomo che amo.

Don’t get me wrong—I am in no way happy for the pain he has been through. I am not glad that he had his heart broken and that he had to suffer with you.

But I am grateful for your existence in his life because if it hadn’t been for you, he and I would never be happily in love, the way we are today.

you hadn’t broken his heart, he would never have learned the difference between a toxic girl who will cause him pain and a loving girl who will give him everything he needs.

He wouldn’t know the difference between real and toxic love and the difference between an almost and a healthy relationship.

He wouldn’t know the difference between a trustworthy girl and a girl whom he can never trust.

If you hadn’t broken his heart, he wouldn’t know the difference between a girl who sees his worth and a girl who makes him feel insecure and not enough.

He wouldn’t know how to recognize the love he deserves. And he would never be persistent enough to look for that love.

He wouldn’t know that he should never settle for less and that he should never be with someone who doesn’t deserve him because that could get him into a lot of trouble.

If you hadn’t treated him the way you did, he would never have known what a relationship shouldn’t look like. And he would never have known how a person who doesn’t love him enough treats him.

Therefore, he wouldn’t have recognized the love I felt for him from the beginning.

He wouldn’t have seen that I was different than you, and he wouldn’t have seen the difference between the real love I was giving him and the love he thought you felt for him.

If he hadn’t begged for your love and attention, he wouldn’t appreciate me giving myself completely to him.

If you hadn’t made him go through all of this, he would be much weaker. He wouldn’t face life’s difficulties as easily as he is doing now.

And most importantly, if he hadn’t experienced the amount of pain he did, he wouldn’t know how it feels to have your heart broken.

He wouldn’t have become this sensitive to other people’s suffering, and he wouldn’t be this careful when it comes to hurting me.

La verità è che avete avuto un grande impatto sulla sua vita.

The truth is that he would probably be a different man if he had never met you, and he would certainly have been different if you hadn’t broken his heart.

But trust me—everything you did to him made him a better man. It made him a man who loves me and the man I love.

E di questo non potrò mai ringraziarvi abbastanza.