Ecco come si ama una ragazza che è stata ferita troppe volte

There she is, she’s standing right in front of you—the most wonderful woman you have ever seen.

She’s yours, yet she seems so distant. She’s been hurt far too many times and she’s built up walls that are high and no matter how much you try, you can’t seem to break them.

She seems distant, but it’s not because of you. She’s just scared she’ll break again and she won’t find a way to patch those broken pieces.

You have no idea how hard it is to say “I am ready to get back out there. I am ready to put my heart on the line again.” when you can barely stand. 

Keep that in mind. Know that her walls can’t be forced down they need to fall naturally and the only way you can manage to that is if you love her patiently, truly, deeply.

Lei ci tiene a te, ci tiene molto, ha solo bisogno di tempo. Ha bisogno di sapere che può fidarsi di te. Ha bisogno di sapere che non le farete del male.

Vi darà il meglio di sé, vi amerà come nessun altro ha mai fatto, ha solo bisogno che voi facciate lo stesso per lei.

She needs you to be honest She’s heard too many lies and endured too many hurtful words. So don’t do the same.

I know you know this already but it worth saying it again – without honesty, you can’t really make a relationship work.

So say what’s on your mind and stick to it. Make your actions follow what you say and everything will be great.

Sarete in grado di fidarvi l'uno dell'altro. Vi legherete più profondamente. Lei si sentirà sicura di innamorarsi completamente di voi.

Ha bisogno che la accettiate così com'è.

Don’t try to change her. Accept her fully. Accept who she is and accept her past. She will love you more if you let her fix herself.

I know that you might be tempted to rush and help her get better, but that won’t help.

You need to remember that her past was very hard on her and that she does need a lot of time to heal, it’s not something that happens overnight. It’s hard for her, too.

Ha bisogno di spazio

There will come times where she’ll need some alone time, so respect that. Don’t be mad.

Don’t blow up her phone with calls and messages, don’t show up at her door. Just slow down and take it easy.

She needs some time to recharge and find her balance. She knows you are there. Give her space, she’ll come to you when she feels good again.

Ha bisogno di pazienza quando si tratta di intimità.

Ha bisogno di entrare in contatto con voi a livello emotivo per poterlo fare a livello fisico. Apritevi a lei, lasciatela entrare e datele un po' di tempo per fare lo stesso.

She wants to make love to you. Yes, it sounds corny. But it’s a big deal to her.

She doesn’t want something casual or fleeting. So don’t force her into doing something she is not ready to do you will just push her away.

Ha bisogno che le diciate quanto è bella

Complimentatevi con lei. Le esperienze passate potrebbero averla resa insicura, quindi ricordatele quanto è bella.

Non solo il suo aspetto fisico, ma anche la sua anima.

Tell her how kind she is, and how generous, loving and caring she is. Don’t just tell her that she’s sexy.

Piuttosto, dimostratele che la apprezzate completamente, corpo, mente e anima.

Ha bisogno di un abbraccio, ne ha bisogno di molti...

Hug her. A lot. Physical touch creates energy that words can’t express and it’s important to let her know that you’re there for her and what says, ”I’m not letting you go,” more than a tight hug? Nothing.

That’s why it’s important to hug her as much as you can. Hug her when she is sad, scared, happy, mad. Hug her for no reason at all.

Ha bisogno che siate coerenti

Keep doing everything that you’re doing and don’t back down. You will be able to break those walls one stone at a time and you will be grateful that you have been consistent when you see all the love that she can feel.

You will get the entire world the moment when she sees that you’re not messing around.