5 segni che siete anime gemelle (e 5 cose che significano che avete chiuso)

The ultimate result of the dating Hell everyone goes through is finding your forever person. So, don’t tell me you don’t believe in soulmates because I know that’s crap.

Perhaps you don’t call what you’re looking for a soulmate, but finding the person to spend the rest of your life with and finding a soulmate is essentially the same thing.

Great, now that we’ve cleared that up, lasciatemi andare avanti.

After so many fails, after so many dates which you want to forget as soon as possible, there comes a time when you think you’ve hit the Jackpot.

He shows up. He takes you somewhere nice. You laugh. You tell each other jokes. You completely get each other. It’s a fairytale come true.

Soon, you find yourself thinking about him and missing him when he’s gone. He sends you testi del buongiorno, and the vibration on your phone makes you wish you’ll see his name on the screen.

Soon, you’re completely hooked.

But something is bothering you nevertheless. Is it too soon to think he’s your soulmate, your person, or whatever you want to call it?

Non c'è un modo preciso per provare che la persona per cui provate un forte sentimento sia la vostra anima gemella. Ma se il vostro istinto vi dice qualcosa, vi dico di rischiare e di ascoltare quella sensazione.

If you don’t want to listen to your relationship sixth sense, there are other ways to decide whether he is your soulmate or your relationship will be over pretty soon.

1. Anima gemella: Ti sostiene a prescindere da tutto

Soulmates don’t question your decisions. They support you even if they think you’re doing the wrong thing. Of course, they won’t let you do it without telling you what they think.

Ma se è così importante per voi, ve lo lasceranno fare comunque.

La differenza è che l'anima gemella sarà lì quando tutto crollerà. Vi sosterrà nei vostri propositi e vi consolerà quando fallirete.

L'anima gemella non ti abbandonerà mai.

2. You’re done: You’re not up high on his list of priorities.

Ha qualcosa di più importante di cui occuparsi. Sceglie sempre di uscire con i suoi amici invece che con te.

Quando si ha bisogno di lui, non lo si trova da nessuna parte e alla fine si presenta con una marea di scuse.

This is not the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. This is an emotionally immature boy who hasn’t quite figured out yet what love and relationships are really about.

Le cose possono rimanere così per un po' di tempo, ma il destino è scritto su tutta la vostra relazione, quindi è meglio che finisca subito prima che la situazione peggiori.

3. Anima gemella: Avete delle routine che fate nei fine settimana

Spending your days off with the person you love is the most beautiful thing a couple can do. Having a weekend routine also shows that your relationship is going places, and it’s serious.

Pensateci. La persona che amate sacrifica il suo tempo libero per trascorrerlo con voi.

He doesn’t care about other things. He wants to be by your side doing something you do every Saturday morning or Sunday night.

You go for walks, on a picnic or you snuggle watching a movie. It’s not important what you do it’s important that you do it together.

4. You’re done: He chooses his friends over you

It’s not wrong for him not to spend every single weekend with you. You can’t expect him to ignore the fact he had a social life before you came along.

Sarebbe sbagliato da parte vostra aspettarvi che trascorra ogni singolo minuto del suo tempo libero con voi.

Tenendo conto di questo, se lui fa il contrario e non passa mai il suo tempo libero con voi, allora c'è qualcosa che non va.

A man in love would never pass up an opportunity to be with the woman he loves. If he chooses his friends every single time, then, I’m sad to say, you two are over.

5. Anima gemella: Rispetta la tua opinione

Troverà sempre il tempo di stare zitto per un secondo e di ascoltarvi. Non perché ne abbia bisogno, ma perché lo vuole.

This man you fell for and consider to be your soulmate thinks you’re intelligent, confident, and pretty much awesome. He even thinks he could learn things from you, so he listens to you.

Non ascolta solo perché potrebbe imparare qualcosa di nuovo, ma anche perché si preoccupa sinceramente di voi e vuole ottenere il maggior numero di informazioni possibili su di voi.

Vuole sapere tutto di te perché vuole darti il mondo. Deve assicurarsi che tu non abbia mai bisogno di nient'altro che di lui.

6. You’re done: You don’t feel comfortable around him

Something just doesn’t feel right. You keep telling yourself that everything is okay, and you so badly want to convince yourself that it’s going to be fine, but that gut feeling just won’t leave you alone.

When everyone’s gone, when you are left alone with your own thoughts, one question bugs the hell out of you: What if he is not the man for me?

When you’re around him, you carefully choose your words because sometimes your words are misheard and misunderstood.

The point is, you can’t be your true self around him. Well, if this is the situation, that is one big NO-NO for your relationship.

7. Anima gemella: Ama la vostra famiglia

You love his family, too. You both feel like you belong with them. There are no awkward silences, no uncomfortable situations when you’re with them.

Quando lo avete invitato per la prima volta a trascorrere il Natale con la vostra famiglia, era entusiasta e, naturalmente, non aveva motivo di essere diverso.

Your dad and he clicked instantly. He teased your mom in a cute way…

Nel complesso, li ama perché ti ama. Li rispetta perché rispetta voi.

8. You’re done: He thinks your family has ganged up on him

He doesn’t want to go near your family at all. I’m not saying he should move in, but it would be nice and polite of him to visit them with you every now and then.

He doesn’t need to love them, but he needs to show some respect.

Invece li evita e pensa che siano loro a escluderlo. Per qualche motivo si sente minacciato e non accolto.

I’m not saying that this can’t happen, but if he treats you with respect and loves you, there is no reason why your family shouldn’t love him.

9. Anime gemelle: Viaggiate insieme

Like all couples who are meant to be with each other, who don’t mind spending every moment of their free time together, you love to travel together.

Vi piace esplorare nuove cose e fare nuove esperienze, nuovi ricordi.

More importantly, he enjoys being adventurous with you. You are more interesting than anyone else. He can go with his friends, but that won’t be the same – hence you’re soulmates.

10. You’re done: He prefers going solo

Opposite to traveling together, he chooses to go with the guys. Again, I’m not saying that’s a bad thing, but if this continues and in the end, he is traveling with them more than with you, you definitely have a problem.

Or even worse, he is going on his own. In the beginning of a relationship when you’re still getting to know each other, traveling on your own is not a surprise.

Ma se la relazione si evolve e non cambia nulla, significa che voi due non avrete un futuro. Tanto vale chiudere subito la relazione.